Page 4-THE NEWS-March, 1987
Jewish Family Services
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NEW PHONE NUMBER FOR
JEWISH FAMILY SERVICES
Jewish Family Services (formerly
Jewish Socigd Services) now has its own
direct phone line. The new number is
364-6594. If, on occasion, we cannot
answer the phone, there is an answer
ing machine so that you can leave a
message and we will call you back as soon as possible. If
for any reason we cannot answer the phone and you need
to speak to someone immediately, you can call our old
number, 366-5007, and leave a message with the
receptionist.
Special Announcements
Substance Abuse Workshop
Jewish Family Services and the Jewish Community
Center will cosponsor a Substance Abuse Workshop,
“Everything You Wanted to Know About Substance
Abuse But Were Afraid to Ask,” on Mewch 10, 17, 24.
Open House Treatment Center will present the Workshop,
which will be held from 7:30 - 9:30 p.m. in the Junior Con
gregation Room at Sh2ilom Park. The cost of all three even
ings is $15 per family and will include the pharmacology
of chemical dependence; helping the chemicaUy dependent
family and individud; and positive alternatives to drugs
and alcohol. For further information, please contact
Adrienne Rosenberg, 364-6594 or Jackie Fishman,
366-5007.
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Can You Help Us?
We now have a food chest located in the front lobby of
the JCC. We would appreciate your bringing non-
perishable items for those in need.
We frequently get requests for roommates, sitters, tem
porary housing, jobs, nannies, etc. If you can fill any of
these needs at any time, please call our office. It’s helpful
to keet these on file^
We are in need of a volunteer to draw a logo for us. If
you can assist, please contact our office, 364-6594.
Working Moms!
Let’s get together!
Ever feel exhausted and stressed out? Is your family
and/or your job placing dememds on you? Then meet some
people in the same circumstances.
Where? Shalom Park.
When? Wednesday, March 18, 8 p.m.
For more information, contact Elaine M. Chernotsky at
Jewish Family Services, 364-6594.
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BJECTROL YSIS BY LOIS
Thoughts From Adrienne
By Adrienne Rosenberg
JFS Director
Adolescence. The word
alone conjurs up misapprehen
sion for many parents. The
time of identity, exposure to
and pressure from peers, deci
sions about driving, drugs,
alcohol, sex, and the age when
parental values are questioned
and often rejected. In many
homes, the teenage years may
be painful, dismaying and full
of parent/teen conflict.
What is it about adolescence
that makes it a difficult period
for both teens and their
parents? We’re certainly all
aware that adolescence is a
time of change. Biological
changes, social pressures and
emotional mood swings are
more than evident. It is a
vulnerable period when two
fundamental tasks must occur
before leaving home: (1)
establishing one’s distinct
identity, and (2) separating
ennotionally from the parents
to continue the maturation
process.
In this process, the adoles
cent looks to peers and the
media, very often appearing to
rej ect parental standards and
values. This can be very un
comfortable for parents, who
may feel responsible for their
cliild’s behavior, attitude and
appeeirance. It is a time when
the teen resists too much con
trol on the parents’ part and
yet is still vulnerable enough
to justify parental fears and
worries.
During the adolescent years,
parents walk a fine line trying
Student Loans i^re Available
Jewish Family Services is again proud to announce that we
will do the screening for interest fr-ee educational loans for col
lege students. These loans are provided by Jewish Children’s
Service of Atlanta as part of a regional program. During the
school year 1986/87, six Charlotte students were awarded stu
dent loan? and one was awarded a scholarship.
The following are guidelines that determine eligibility:
1. The applicant and family must have been residents of the
Charlotte community for at leasts a year.
2. The money is to be used toward tuition and expenses for
college or post-secondary training.
3. Preference is given to students attending state schools,
although others have been approved.
4. The applicant must be accepted by a recognized school.
5. Loans are granted on an annual basis for full-time students
and paid bi-annually.
6. Financial need must be established. Other funding sources
must be applied for.
7. The applicant must agree to provide a progress report of
the student status of the grades and adjustment to school
annually.
Jewish Family Services will be accepting these applications
from March 9 to May 15. The completed applications must be
in Atlanta by May 29. For furth.er information or to acquire
an appHcation packet, please call Goldie Weinreb, JFS
Secretary, at 364-6594.
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to be helpful to an emotional
ly fragile teen who is struggl
ing to achieve independence
and yet functions in many
ways immaturely and im
pulsively. On the one hand,
peirents know their teen still
needs parental protective
custody and rules and on the
other hand parents must ex
tend more responsibility. It is
not always smooth or easy.
Parents must also learn to
adapt to new ways of coping
and relating to the 12-18 year
old. The needs and responses
are so much different than
they were when the child was
younger. In fact, the key task
for parents is to learn to
separate from the teen emo
tionally: to realize that
ultimately our children will
have to live with the person he
or she has become. We, as
parents, can neither take all
the credit nor all the blame.
This means acceting the teen’s
right to have differing opi
nions and ways of doing
things.
Adolescents often need the
parents more than they let on.
They have to know they’re
understood and supported in
their need to explore, find out
who they £u*e, and separate.
They ne^ to know they’re lov
ed. Yet, as a parent who is Hv-
ing with an adolescent who is
acting age-appropriate, please
help me keep all of these com
mon sense thoughts in
perspective while living
through the mood swings and
coming of identity of my
wonderful daughter, Jennifer.
On March 13 at Temple
Israel’s Oneg Shabbat follow
ing services, I will be
moderating a panel entitled
“Parenting the Jewish Child
During Adolescence.” It
might behoove those of us who
want to help make the teen
years better for family life to
attend.
The Jewish Weleome Wa^oii:
The Shalom Y’all group of
Women's Division of Federation
gives Shalom Y’all baskets to our
newcomers in the Charlotte area.
Pictured is Jody Pinion (R) with the
first delivery to Stephanie Finkels-
tcin and her son, I^gan.