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Page 4-THE NEWS-March, 1987 Jewish Family Services ...HEAR YE... NEW PHONE NUMBER FOR JEWISH FAMILY SERVICES Jewish Family Services (formerly Jewish Socigd Services) now has its own direct phone line. The new number is 364-6594. If, on occasion, we cannot answer the phone, there is an answer ing machine so that you can leave a message and we will call you back as soon as possible. If for any reason we cannot answer the phone and you need to speak to someone immediately, you can call our old number, 366-5007, and leave a message with the receptionist. Special Announcements Substance Abuse Workshop Jewish Family Services and the Jewish Community Center will cosponsor a Substance Abuse Workshop, “Everything You Wanted to Know About Substance Abuse But Were Afraid to Ask,” on Mewch 10, 17, 24. Open House Treatment Center will present the Workshop, which will be held from 7:30 - 9:30 p.m. in the Junior Con gregation Room at Sh2ilom Park. The cost of all three even ings is $15 per family and will include the pharmacology of chemical dependence; helping the chemicaUy dependent family and individud; and positive alternatives to drugs and alcohol. For further information, please contact Adrienne Rosenberg, 364-6594 or Jackie Fishman, 366-5007. :|c:|c:|c]|c:|c4c]|E:|e4c]|c*4c:|c:|c]|E4c4c:|c:(ci|c4ci|c Can You Help Us? We now have a food chest located in the front lobby of the JCC. We would appreciate your bringing non- perishable items for those in need. We frequently get requests for roommates, sitters, tem porary housing, jobs, nannies, etc. If you can fill any of these needs at any time, please call our office. It’s helpful to keet these on file^ We are in need of a volunteer to draw a logo for us. If you can assist, please contact our office, 364-6594. Working Moms! Let’s get together! Ever feel exhausted and stressed out? Is your family and/or your job placing dememds on you? Then meet some people in the same circumstances. Where? Shalom Park. When? Wednesday, March 18, 8 p.m. For more information, contact Elaine M. Chernotsky at Jewish Family Services, 364-6594. PRIVATE DUTY and HOME CARE NURSES "The PIn/sicians Prescription" NURSES and SITTERS available 24 hrs. a day 7 days a week. Park V'itfw Bldg., 3821 Park. Rd., Suite G-18, Charlotte NC 282lW BE CONFIDENT • EI«ctrotysi8 - !h* onty method of p^manent hair refTK>val • Medlcatfy approved • Gentle e Safe Men, Women and Teens • Call today fof a free consultationt BJECTROL YSIS BY LOIS Thoughts From Adrienne By Adrienne Rosenberg JFS Director Adolescence. The word alone conjurs up misapprehen sion for many parents. The time of identity, exposure to and pressure from peers, deci sions about driving, drugs, alcohol, sex, and the age when parental values are questioned and often rejected. In many homes, the teenage years may be painful, dismaying and full of parent/teen conflict. What is it about adolescence that makes it a difficult period for both teens and their parents? We’re certainly all aware that adolescence is a time of change. Biological changes, social pressures and emotional mood swings are more than evident. It is a vulnerable period when two fundamental tasks must occur before leaving home: (1) establishing one’s distinct identity, and (2) separating ennotionally from the parents to continue the maturation process. In this process, the adoles cent looks to peers and the media, very often appearing to rej ect parental standards and values. This can be very un comfortable for parents, who may feel responsible for their cliild’s behavior, attitude and appeeirance. It is a time when the teen resists too much con trol on the parents’ part and yet is still vulnerable enough to justify parental fears and worries. During the adolescent years, parents walk a fine line trying Student Loans i^re Available Jewish Family Services is again proud to announce that we will do the screening for interest fr-ee educational loans for col lege students. These loans are provided by Jewish Children’s Service of Atlanta as part of a regional program. During the school year 1986/87, six Charlotte students were awarded stu dent loan? and one was awarded a scholarship. The following are guidelines that determine eligibility: 1. The applicant and family must have been residents of the Charlotte community for at leasts a year. 2. The money is to be used toward tuition and expenses for college or post-secondary training. 3. Preference is given to students attending state schools, although others have been approved. 4. The applicant must be accepted by a recognized school. 5. Loans are granted on an annual basis for full-time students and paid bi-annually. 6. Financial need must be established. Other funding sources must be applied for. 7. The applicant must agree to provide a progress report of the student status of the grades and adjustment to school annually. Jewish Family Services will be accepting these applications from March 9 to May 15. The completed applications must be in Atlanta by May 29. For furth.er information or to acquire an appHcation packet, please call Goldie Weinreb, JFS Secretary, at 364-6594. DoubleWide „ Countrypigtam Lote M. ScMoeberQ Electrologtet S237 AttMmarto Rd. Extra Full Rufflins ♦HIsh Header *Whlte, Beige & ay. ♦As^ade of Kodel® Polyester. PIcJ’s Price - *49“ X 84” . Expires 3/31 /87 Anv»»*i«rt In U.SUL! Ifextik ^ illCMIets **Bargains Arc^urBusincss'' r aAFTIO WTTMMIOC XaihMonDrw y 1# k ^ 19 9 to be helpful to an emotional ly fragile teen who is struggl ing to achieve independence and yet functions in many ways immaturely and im pulsively. On the one hand, peirents know their teen still needs parental protective custody and rules and on the other hand parents must ex tend more responsibility. It is not always smooth or easy. Parents must also learn to adapt to new ways of coping and relating to the 12-18 year old. The needs and responses are so much different than they were when the child was younger. In fact, the key task for parents is to learn to separate from the teen emo tionally: to realize that ultimately our children will have to live with the person he or she has become. We, as parents, can neither take all the credit nor all the blame. This means acceting the teen’s right to have differing opi nions and ways of doing things. Adolescents often need the parents more than they let on. They have to know they’re understood and supported in their need to explore, find out who they £u*e, and separate. They ne^ to know they’re lov ed. Yet, as a parent who is Hv- ing with an adolescent who is acting age-appropriate, please help me keep all of these com mon sense thoughts in perspective while living through the mood swings and coming of identity of my wonderful daughter, Jennifer. On March 13 at Temple Israel’s Oneg Shabbat follow ing services, I will be moderating a panel entitled “Parenting the Jewish Child During Adolescence.” It might behoove those of us who want to help make the teen years better for family life to attend. The Jewish Weleome Wa^oii: The Shalom Y’all group of Women's Division of Federation gives Shalom Y’all baskets to our newcomers in the Charlotte area. Pictured is Jody Pinion (R) with the first delivery to Stephanie Finkels- tcin and her son, I^gan.