Page 5-THE NEWS-May, 1988
Jewish Family Services
Thoughts from Adrienne
By Adrienne Rosenberg, JFS Director
Chaplaincy Program Added
We sometimes listen to our
children make plans for their
lives—“When I grow up, I’m
going to be a ; and
I’m going to have ;
and I’11 live ” We
smile, knowing this probably
won’t occur. It sometimes trig
gers off what we once wished
for and thought might happen
in our lives.
In getting in touch with
what we wished for our lives
and what really is, often there
are pangs of regret, anger or
sadness. These pangs are nor
mal for most people; however,
for some there is such extreme
feelings that they become
“stuck” emotionally and resist
accepting what is or making
the realities of their situations
“work” for them. Good emo
tional health is just that—
dealing realisticaUy with what
is and being willing to cope
and accept.
No one is immune to loss or
defeat. All of us have sad
things happen, dreams and
hopes shattered, or changed
circumstances. Our health or
financial security can give out
at any time. People leave us;
we become disillusioned and
on and on.
Single Women’s
Group to Organize
Several requests have come
to the agency about the possi
bility of a single women’s
group to focus on dating pat
terns. These have arisen from
pointers raised in such recent
books as Women Who Love
Too Much, Love and Addic
tion, and Smart Women,
Foolish Choices. If you have
an interest in being part of
such a group, which would be
confidential and not held at
Shalom Park, please contact
Adrienne Rosenberg at
364-6594.
Help Needed for
Project Graduation
Project Graduation is an al
cohol and drug free Gradua
tion party to be held at Caro-
winds for graduating high
school seniors. It will be held
on June 3 from 4 p.m. until
6:30 a.m. June 4. Volunteers
are needed from the Jewish
community for these times. To
sign-up, call Jean Moore at
366*1670 or Steve Newman at
336-2023.
Often the event that brings
people into counseling is the
fear that life is out of control,
or we want to change the
event or someone we do not
have control of. Yet, in reality,
the only thing that can be
changed is how one handles
the circumstance or persons.
By learning to accept one’s
self and verbalizing the fears—
yet living through them—can
one again have a feeling of be
ing anchored. This is not an
easy process, but it can be
done by most people. Other
wise, we risk saying, I was
only happy when I was
younger, married, when my
kids were little, when I was
employed or some other high
in our life. We can not change
the past—successes or mis
takes, nor do we have control
over the future. But we can
take today and learn how to
make it work for us—in spite
of a circumstance or person
that creates difficulty.
It is a slow and gradual pro
cess. Sometime there is lots of
anger, regret and sadness. But
the exciting thing is one does
not have to remain with these
feelings for always; one can
have the power not to change
people nor circumstances, but
to change one’s perspective
and attitude by learning to ac
cept what is and making it
work for us as much as is
possible to do so.
Sound idealistic? Call me,
and we’U discuss it.
Jewish Family Services is
proud to announce that it has
added another component to
its Friendly Visitor Program.
Beginning in mid-April, Rabbi
Israel J. Gerber began as the
Chaplain to do outreach to the
hospitalized, those in nursing
homes, the homebound and
shut-ins and those Jews insti
tutionalized in psychiatric or
correctional facilities in our
area. This is an extension of
and is being done in coordina
tion with the rabbis of our
local congregations.
The purpose of this out
reach, a free service of Jewish
Family Services and the Fe
deration, is to ensure that
every Jew is made to feel part
of our community. It is isolat
ing to be segregated and shut-
in.
Rabbi Gerber has degrees as
a reform rabbi and as a li
censed psychologist. He is a
member of the movement of
Reform Rabbis and of the
. North Carolina Psychological
Association. He was the rabbi
of Temple Beth El for 14 years
and has been a professor of
psychology at J.C. Smith
University.
If you know of someone who
could use a visit from Rabbi
Gerber, please call Jewish
Family Services at 364-6594
so an outreach can be made.
Happy Shaviioth
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