Page 5-THE NEWS-June/July, 1988
Jewish Family Services
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Thoughts from Adrienne
By Adrienne Rosenberg, JFS Director
Many people find that it is
hard to be Jewish and single in
Charlotte. But those, who are
over 35, Jewish and single,
seem to have the most dilem
mas. Of course this includes a
wide range of persons from the
never married to the divorced
to the widowed. It includes
people who have children liv
ing with them and people
whose children are grown or
who live with their ex-spouses.
It is not a homogenous group
but one bound together by the
uncertainties in a community
that still emphasizes couple-
hood, marriage and intact fam
ilies.
Most of us who fall into this
category grew up with role
definitions for each sex. That
is to say, the messages of what
males are supposed to do and
be and what females were sup
posed to do and be were set.
Sexual values were also defi
nitely set. One that particular
ly comes to mind is that good
girls don’t kiss on the first
date or that it is all right for
a male to test to see what a
female will allow, but good
girls always said no.
But along came the pill,
messages of equality of sexes,
women’s lib, the way society
viewed divorce to be a more
common option, and the scare
of AIDS. Times and the mes
sages of society have changed.
but the way we grew up has
not. Confusing for many to be
or become single again — to be
out there dating again where
expectations, norms and
mores offer no rules except
safe sex and to avoid becom
ing vulnerable. It means risk
ing to get out there in the
singles world and yet protect
ing one’s self emotionally.
Some people, in fact, find it
easier to avoid social situa
tions rather than risk feeling
uncomfortable or being put in
the position of a **meat mar
ket” arena.
Since I have been in town, I
have heard many people com
plain that the Jewish com
munity is not responsive to
the social needs of singles.
Especially have I heard this
from people over 35. Yet, re
cent attempts on the part of
this agency and the JCC to
establish programming have
resulted in disappointing at
tendance. We can blame this
on poor programming in the
past; we can blame it on
“there’s no good Jewish man
(woman) single in my age
group.” But, the other side of
the coin is that if those of us
who are single in this age
group want social activities
with other Jewish singles, we
need only look at our own
motivations to risk getting
out there in the singles’ world.
No, there are no guarantees
we will meet someone special;
no, there are no guarant^s we
will feel totally comfortable.
But do you know of any other
way to get Jewish singles
together and meet social
needs? Please feel free to call
me to share your thoughts.
For those of us who fall in this
category, it is a challenging
time in our lives. It doesn’t
have to be avoided.
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