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Playing Doctor Was So Delicious. You remember: it was scary, tantalizing. We usually took off our clothes. Back then, we were so open to each other, so trusting. We gave each other such delight. As we grew up, we closed a lit tle year by year. Sex lost its innocence. Even worse, we learned not to be intimate — physically or emotionally. Now there's a workshop that helps gay and bisexual men break through the barriers we've erected that block our ability to love ourselves and others uncondi tionally. In this safe and nurturing workshop, we learn again to openly enjoy sensuality, closeness, massage. We look at assertive ness, personal myths, empowerment. Actually, we've had unconditional love in us all along. We just have to learn how to find it again. Please join us. Introduction to CONNECTIONS workshops: Mondays, 7:50 p.m. Level 1 (no nudity): Sept. 13-14 or Nov. 8-9. Level 2 (some nudity): Sept. 26-27-28, Oct. 24-25-26, or Dec. 5-6-7. For price and registratioh details, call Clay Felts, 704/553-0735. Experience Of .ntimacy For Men COIM IONS CONNECTIONS, 5901 Linford Dr., Charlotte, N.C. 28210 To arrange a CONNECTIONS workshop in your area, please call or write. September 1986 ■ Q-Notes PAGE 5 Kooyman Warns Of Signs Of Infection By AIDS Virus FSOM PREVIOUS PAGE condom if it helps relieve the awk wardness. It boils down to being honest and telling someone, for in stance, "Hey, 1 think you're really hot. And 1 want to spend some time with you. But I'm trying to take care of my health and 1 won't risk yours either." That can open up things right there. If the other person has a negative attitude toward safe sex . . . well, you really shouldn't want to go to bed with them no matter how hot they are. It can all still be magical and fun and spontaneous if you discuss it before you get to someone's home. Cl-NOTES: What else do you feel people need to know about AIDS? Kooyman: They need to under stand that this is not something that happens to "other people." It is hap pening right here in Charlotte and it touches a lot of lives and is growing. In 1984 there were only 17 known cases in all of North Carolina. In 1985 there were 64 confirmed cases. This year we could see 30 cases more than last year. We are finding more test-positive people. AIDS-re- lated complex (ARC) is increasing. Cl-NOTES: Since there is no real test to determine in advance that a person has the disease, when should people be concerned if they suspect something is wrong? Kooyman: That's difficult to an swer, but there are some guidelines. We each need to see a doctor who is knowledgeable and sympathetic to our concerns as gay men. You need to let your doctor know you are gay. That's really hard for some people to do. That's why we main tain a referral list for people who contact our hot-line. Now, as far as when someone should be con cerned about their health, usually AIDS symptoms are pretty severe. It could include swollen glands — the neck, arm pits and groin, usually two of the three. Probably excessive diarrhea that persists two or three weeks. Also thrush, (a white coating on the inside of your mouth) along with a sore throat perhaps. Addi tionally, many people go to their doctor complaining of extreme fa tigue to the point where they don't feel like getting out of bed in the morning. €l-NOTES: What is the first step that the doctor will want to take to confirm or deny that these symp toms may be as a result of AIDS? Kooyman: The first thing you may be asked to do is to take the test to see if you have been exposed to the AIDS virus. That's when you say, "Okay, but I'll take the test anony mously at the health department." That's because you don't want that as part of your medical record. In fact, that's the only time we recom mend that you take the test — if your doctor requests the informa tion. Gl-NOTES: Are people overly con cerned? Kooyman: At times. All of us have some of these symptoms from time to time . . . fatigue, sweating at night or simple diarrhea. It's the severe symptoms that are persistent, per haps a combination of symptoms, that need checking out. The best thing to do, if you are concerned, is to talk to someone about it. Call our hot-line, talk to a doctor, and, above all, be honest. OLEEN’S A Charlotte Landmark For 17 Years At 1831 South BoulevardD373-9604 September Specials WEDNESDAYS “CaW Night” O Country Music AH Night O Foot Tournament — $20 Prize D House Drinks $ 1.50 O Schnapps 750 THURSDAYS "New Wave Night" n Party With DJ Mark O New Wave Music AH Night O AH The Canned Beer You Want n $5 Members, $6 Guests SUNDAYS Open At 3 p.m. n Free Foot 'Tii 8 D House Drinks $ 1.50 n Schnapps $1 O Win One Of Oieen’s Hand-Made Pound Pooches September Shows SEPT. 5-6 Gerri O’Neai, Tina Terreii SEPT. 12-13 Sasha Tate, Gypsy Starr SEPT. 19-20 Jerry Hoiiday a Puppets as weii as Loia SEPT. 27 Tina Terreii’s 12th Anniversary Party
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