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PAGE 2 Q-Notes June 1990 Q-Notes I \gntseHk/ Jim Yarbrough Publisher Richard Ppson-Nelms Editorial Director Nancy Campbell Advertising & Production David Stout Administrative Manager Typesetting Arlene Robbins Typesetting Q-Notes is published monthly in Charlotte, N.C.. by J.L.Y. Enterprises, he.*, a for-profit corporation, and is distributed tree of charge in the Charlotte area and throughout North Carolina, South Carolina, part.s of Geirgia and Washington. D.C.. Press itin is 7000 copies and e.xcept firr 100 file copies and com plimentary subscriptions all copies are distributed to the public. To advertise in Q-Notes. contact Q-Notes. P.O. Box 221841. Charlotte, N.C. oc call 704-338-1138. Rates and distribution information is available on request. 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It's My Opinion 1 have written many editorials concemini ■‘coming out” to one’s self and to others. 1 firmly believe that people live a more whole some and beneficial life when living it hon estly and openly. I will continue to encourage people to make the decision 2o come out and be who they are. However, there is a trend within the gay> lesbian community to forcibly bring people out who otherwise would have preferred to remain closeted. The media has picked up on this trend and in recent weeks the topic has made the talk show circuit and was the sub ject of an episode of ABC television’s series “L.A. Law.” As 1 reflect on my own life I remember the time when 1 was a closeted gay person. I was afraid of being found out and because of this fear I spent most of my life hiding. My perception was that 1 would lose my family, my career, my firiends and my good name if it became known that I was gay. 1 perceived that 1 had everything to lose and nothing to gain. I had a social life but was very careful not to mix gay acquaintances with other acquaintances. As you can imagine, life was pretty stress ful and demanded a very delicate balancing act to keep myself and my relationships in check. When 1 did come out it was because my perception had been changed and I knew it was the right thing for me and the time was right. 1 made the choice to come out based on my own set of priorities and my own ideas of what was important in my life and I really wonder what my feelings toward the gay/ lesbian community would be now had those choices been taken away from me and 1 had been forced out under someone else’s agenda. We have fought for years, particularly since Stonewall (1969), for the right “to be left alone.” We have never asked much of the larger society — just to be left alone to be who we are. And, in the past, we have been very mindful of our gay/lesbian brothers’ and sisters’ need for privacy — even when we disagreed with them. Each person has his or her own individual journey through life and we all have the right to the “pursuit of life, liberty and happiness.” We have fought for the right to individually define for ourselves what that pursuit should look like. When someone is “outed,” that right of individual defimtion is taken away. It is sometimes easy to rationahze this invasion and say that they would be better off being out but no amount of rationalization will change the fact that the right of self-determi nation is being taken away. And for our community to condone forcibly “outing” a closeted gayAesbian is to turn our backs on what we said we wanted for ourselves — to be left alone. The right to privacy is not absolute, however. I am reminded of Congressman Gary Stubbs, who sat in Congress and sup ported anti-gay legislation while knowing himself to be gay. In a situation like this, where someone who is gayAesbian, is in a position of power and uses that power to hurt or otherwise limit all gay and lesbian people, the exposure of their hypocrisy is warranted. I believe that respect is the key to the whole controversy. Respect for one’s self and respect for others. When we learn to respect ourselves, individually, there will be no need to “out” people because all gay and lesbian people will stand up and say, “I am what I am.” We will also know that respect for our brothers and sisters is only an exten sion of the respect that we have for ourselves. Checkit out — we've/jot CCXAftM'U‘J^l‘iy fere! SUN MON TUES JUNE ^ WED THUR June is Bustitiff out aCC over... tdift^Bride • ^de • ^de! 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