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September 1991
TIMBERFELL
LODGE
A Fully
Self-Contained
Gay Men's Resort
Airport Pick-up
Deluxe and Bunkrooms Available
Gourmet Meals
New Full Facility Pools
20 Person Sauna
10 Person Sunken Jacuzzi
Beer Bar
Clothing Optional
OPEN YEAR ROUND
The Country’s Finest
Gay Resort
Route 11, Box 94-A
Greeneville, TN 37743
615-234-0833
Toll Free: 800-437-0118
CHSTEKKS
CATTLEMEN’S
CLUB
Now open,
b'mon over!
The place
to be
when you're
in
Spartanburg!
Open 7 Days A Week!
5 PM TIL...
Good Times, Good Dancing,
Good Cruising, Friendly Staff
The Cheyenne Cattlemen's Club
(formerly the 85 Lounge)
995 Asheville Highway, Spartanburg, S.C.
(803) 573-7304
Take exit 72C off of 1-85, go toward
Spartanburg
Hey Helen,
I work in a grocery store where I “clock”
many gay men. Often these men are shopping
alone and really make it obvious they are
cruising me. Should I attempt to strike up a
conversation with these people or just leave
well enough alone?
Object of desire
Dear Object,
Work is not a good place to pick up tricks!
You run a real big risk of losing your job. But
a friendly hello or even some small talk never
hurt anyone. You could even suggest he check
out some of your local “fruit stands!”
Helen
Hey Helen,
1 had a monogamous relationship with a
lover for five years. We broke up five years
ago and 1 dated a lot of men in the first year
after the “break-up” and in the following
years have dated less and less. Because I am
now in my late 30’s, my desire has been for
intimacy more than sex. Needless to say, 1 am
still alone. Am I being unrealistic? What
should 1 do?
Looking for love in all the wrong places
Dear Looking,
Is there a wrong place for love to be found?
Stop looking and get out and do things. Get
involved and it will find you. You must be
happy with yourself before anyone will be
interested in you. You sound like a broken
record, stuck in a scratched groove. For
Helen’s sake, find a new song to sing!
Helen
Hey Helen,
I think a woman at work is “in love” with
me, even though I’ve been pretty obvious
about my sexud orientation. She’s nice, but
the gifts, lunch/dinner invitations, touching
and daily questioning about my activities is
making me uncomfortable. How do I get her
to stop without hurting her feelings?
Want the friend, but not the fuss
Dear Want,
The office is not a good place for love. It
almost never works. Tell her out right that
you are gay, but you would like to be her
friend. You may hurt her feelings for awhile,
but if she really cares, she’ll eventually un
derstand.
Helen
Dear Helen,
I am a gay, white, HIV+ male. I’ve lived in
Charlotte for two years and have decided to
place an ad to find a partner/friend/compan
ion, as a good friend of mine did this and met
someone who he is still with, and very happy.
Can you suggest a publication of good quality
that I can put my faith in?
Distressed but hopeful
Dear Distressed,
Don’t give up hope! Ads in any local
newsprint will probably do fine {Creative
Loafing, The Front Page, and soon to be
available in Q-Notesl). I can speak from ex
perience that ads do work, because that's how
I found my love!
.Helen
Letters to Hey Helen are welcome on any
subject. Expect a short,flip, non-professional
answer (after all, Helen just wants to have
fun!). Send letters to Hey Helen, do Q-Notes,
PO Box 221841, Charlotte NC 28222.
Mickey Boodal, Dudley's Inc. bartender,
with some of the presents he received
from friends/customers on his birthday on
August 14.
BRASS RAIL
The Tradesmen
Present
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Revisits Party
Friday
September 6th
9:00 PM
Boot Shine/Draft/Potluck
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So Long Summer '91 Party
Bare Chest Night
Saturday, September 21
Drink Specials For Bare Chests
TUES.
WED.
THURS.
DAILY SPECIALS
$1.50 well drinks, $4 draft
(all you can drink)
$1.50 well drinks, 90c beer
Pool Tourney ($20. bar tab)
LEATHERMAN'S NIGHT OUT;
75c beer & $1.50 well drinks
BRASS RAIL COOKOUT
$1.50 well drinks
Horseshoe Tourney ($20 bar tab)
Never A Cover For Ladies Or Members
BR
HOME OF THE TRADESMEN
3707 Wilkinson Blvd., Charlotte
(704) 399-8413
OPEN
Mon.-Sat. 5:00-2:30
Sunday 3:00-2:30
FREE POOL
Monday through Friday
5-8 pm