May 27, 1969 THE BENNETT BANNER Do You Have A Problem? PAGE FIVE Tell It To Joy Dear Joy, Last month I met a young gen tleman at a party. He seems rather nice and said he would be to see me sometimes, I saw him yesterday, but he was with some more friends. Do you think it would be wrong for me to approach him or not? Undecided Dear Undecided, Wait and let the young manap. proach you. This way you will know whether he remembers you. It would be awfully embarrassing for you to approach him and he not remember you. If your acquain tance means anything at all to him he will get in touch with you. Joy Dear Joy, I am having a very difficult problem with one of my teachers. It seems as if he does not trust me. For instance, yesterday I took a test and made a straight “A”. He had the nerve to ask me did I copy off of my neighbor. Joy, every time I make a high score on a test he asks me the same questions. What should or could I do to show him that I don’t and didn't copy? Honest Dear Honest, Tell your instructor that if he does not have any evidence of your copying your neighbors work than he has no ri^t to make any ac cusations. To prove your honesty and intellectual ability ask your instructor when you have another exam if you can take yours alone in the front of the room. This should prove your honesty. Hon esty still remains the best policy. Joy Dear Joy, I am in love with one of my in structors but he doesn't know and I don’t want him to know. I have been absent from class because I feel uncomfortable in his pres ence. Just today he asked me to give him a good reason why I have been absent so much before the week is over. Should I tell him the truth or make up a good lie which will stand? Excuse Dear Excuse, Are you sure that it is really love for your instructor or mere Infatuation? However, if you are absolutely sure that it is love then tell the truth to him. Nine times out of ten if you are really in love with him then he has noticed it by your actions. If the instructor and you discuss the situation in an adult manner. Between the both of you the problem can be solved. Who knows after talking with the instructor you may find out that it was only a school girl crush. Joy Dear Joy, There is a young lady in one of my classes who has an awful body odor. The problem is that we (some students and I) don’t know how to approach her and tell her about her odor. Is there an easy way of telling her without hurting her feelings? If not, please give us some other solutions to the problem. Problem Poet’s Corner These Four Walls I. Wall of Loneliness The platitudes of education Have suddenly been replaced by The beatitudes of my frustra tion. Scorched by continuous sear ing loneliness, n, Wall of fear The incomprehensible aspects of humanity Are interpreted as prerequi sites for doubt. The internal struggle, char acteristic of survival. Too often provides a boister ous prelude to fear, III. Wall of love The desire to love and be loved Becomes a hopeless obsession In the course of personal gratification; A catalyst of kinetic emotion. IV. Wall of hope Yet--in the midst of such di vine oblivion The prospect of good, con queror of foreboding, Provides an optimistic ele ment in the Menagerie that has become my existence, -Jackie Venable Dear Problem, For fear of hurting the young lady's feelings, confront her roommate or a close friend of hers with the problem, (If the odor is that awful then no doubtly her roommate already knows). It would be easier for someone close to her to tell her than a fellow classmate. If this does not work, you can always leave a can of Ban at her door with her name on it. Joy Dear Joy, I am dating a young man who is a twin. When he and his twin are around I know them apart but when I see him alone I don’t know which one it is. Do you think itwouldbe wrong if I asked him to distin guish himself from his twin so I will know them apart when they are alone? Troubled Dear Troubled, I see nothing wrong with your asking him to distinguish himself from his twin so that you will know them apart when they are alone. Since you are dating one of them I suggest you learn the difference as soon as possible. Joy Dear Joy, I take life too easily. Things that are important and “right” to others, often are laughing mat ters to me. For example, morals and sexual interpretations that others think are “personal,” “private,” and “serious” don’t affect or seem to be of any impor tance to me. This “wildcarefree force that dominates my life has In Praisie Of Silence You never said, “Be mine!” And still my anxious heart did Beat to the prophetic roar of the Deafening silence of your thoughts The only caress you afforded me Was the detached gesture in the Interim of total bliss and harmony Enclosed in the lovely indigo of night. There are no words to justly capture The feelings we both know do exist. Words are the feeble offerings of those Too shallow to perceive infinity in an instant, --Jackie Venable !VI y Soul ('ries My soul cries. . . When I see pain and hurt. My soul cries. . . When I see ghettoes of filfth and dirt. My soul cries, . . When I behold a child in hunger. My soul cries. , . When I see eyes that shine no longer. to be subdued. I have to become more "lady-like” and*‘sophisti- cated.” What is your advice? Carefree Dear Carefree, Because you have to be you, you are entitled to live your life as freely as you want to as lon^, as it doesn’t dangerously effect the lives of others. Do your own thing. You have but one life, live it the way you desire as long as you are happy. But don't let your carefree happiness cause others to be unhappy or uncomfortable around you. However, if you feel that you want to become more “lady-like” then do so. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be come a lady. You'll be appreci ated more by the opposite sex. But if it is just not you then don’t force a change. Joy The Best Neighbor I am Mr. Good Neighbor and I have lived in the same neighbor hood for ten years. Next door to me are the Bad Neighbors. I know nothing about them but their names, because they have only lived here for eight years. I know I am a desirable neighbor be cause I always mind my own busi ness. I do not allow their children in my yard, nor do mine go in theirs. Whenever Mr.BadNei^- bor asks to borrow my lawnmowei I say, “I am a good neighbor; therefore I do not lend my prop- erty.” Once when my neighbors were on vacation, I spotted someone entering their window. I turned my head. When they returned, they found all of their furniture missing. When questioned by the police I replied, “I mind my own business,” After all, the thief could have been a friend of mine. Yes, it is best to be a good neighbor. In this day and age we are very plentiful, I have lived in Suburbia, Industrial City and Hick Town, U.S.A. In all these places My soul cries, , , When I see aU of these things. My soul cries, . , And my voice to thee, O God does ring. -.Evelyn Bridgers you may find me and other good neighbors. However, I have not been a good neighbor. I learned by experience. While a resident of Industrial City, U.S.A. I ob- served a young man attempting to rob an elderly lady. I rushed to her defense, but the robber got away. Not only did I receive a broken arm for my trouble, but the old lady actually accused me of aiding the criminal. Yes, I learned so now I know the best policy is to turn your head when trouble is near. With a town of good neighbors there is no need to perjure oneself by always saying “Good Morning”, especially when there is nothing good about it. One does not have to worry about un expected guests dropping in. In this, the Twentieth Century is to be gained by being a “Good Neigh, bor.” You not only get peace, no trouble, but also solitude. Won derful solitude! No telephone calls, crowded rooms or picking up checks; just you and your family, Mary Marshall What Is Love? Love is sweet Love is rare. Love is something that needs much care. Love is often new Love is often old, Love is sometimes timid Love sometimes turns bold. Love is often cruel Love is often sweet. Love can be a conquest Or love can bring defeat. Love can make a smile Or it can make one cry, Love can be the element that makes a heart hopelessly die. Love cannot be bought Nor can it be stolen, It’s something strange and pre cious • Something lasting, something gol den. --Evelyn Bridgers NUMBER 2 (Continued from Page 4) It is understood that the government, not Bennett, drops or de creases many of these scholarships, and sometimes a student loses a scholarship because of failing grades. But it is not understood why the students can’t be told about this change before they leave school in May, It is unfair for them to be told that they have lost their scholar, ships only a few weeks before their planned return to school, since the scholarships are essential to these students, and m^y will not be able to continue school without them. If they could be told about their scholarship standings before they leave, they could make plans accordingly. They could plan to apply for a loan or grant, transfer to another college, or even apply for a campus job. If told early enough, their parents might be able to, somehow, raise the money from other sources. It is often as how important a college education is in today’s society. The present generation is really interested in a coHege education, and knows how important it is. They just want a chance. AMERICAN DOLLARS AT WORK VIETNAM Youngster with leg in brace, assisted by nurse, prepared to take a step forward toward his recovery. During the past year, a record total of 4,189,420 pounds of medical and surgical supplies, valued at $11,765,339, was shipped overseas through Catholic Re lief Services. UGANDA Clothes are more than fash ion; they’re an urgent necessity for millions of youngsters throughout the world. Boys and girls are forced to be piti fully clothes-conscious. This playsuit, provided by Catholic Relief Services, is one of the child’s few items of apparel.