Tell It To Joy
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BENNETT BANNER
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Here For Four Years And Still No Date?
Dear Joy,
I have been here for four
years and have not as yet had
a date. Please tell me what is
wrong.
Hopeless Case
Dear Hopeless Case,
Perhaps you’re too
reserved or too much of an
introvert. Be more outgoing.
Don’t wait for enjoyment to
come. Get out and find it
and, in the meantime, you’re
bound to find SOMEONE.
Dear Joy,
This summer I had an
affair with an older man. He’s
unhappily married and has
one child. He has promised to
divorce his wife and marry
me. We have agreed to fight
the custody of his child.
Now, I have fallen for
another, 1 want to break off
with the other man, yet, he
threatens to tell my
boyfriend about our
“interlude.” What shall I do?
Frightened
Dear Tightened,
Falling for a fellow so soon
after your affair with another
man may indicate that you
aren’t ready for a steady or
settled relationship with any
man. Perhaps this isn’t love at
all. Find out--go out and meet
other fellows. And by all
means, get a tighter grip on
your emotions. Give yourself
time to mature. You certainly
don’t want to fall into the
same bag again. As to the
threats made by the other
man, why not wait and see
what happens there.
Dar Joy,
1 am greatly attracted to
one of my instructors. 1 think
lam sexually attracted to him
and he is driving me out of
my mind. I can’t drop the
course but I feel that if he
doesn’t approach me soon I
think I will make a fool of
myself and approach him.
Please, I need your advice as I
am an ardent reader of your
column.
On The Verge
Dear On The Verge,
Chances are if you do
approach your instructor you
will certainly make a FOOL
of yourself. If the situation
becomes unbearable however,
think about the consequences
of such an act--your
reputation, his respect for
you, and because this is a
small school, malicious
gossip. If this doesn’t help,
try talking with a person
trained in counseling-
-someone whom you trust
and whom you can talk to.
Dear Joy,
I have a terrbile problem.
Every time I go out with a
guy whether he becomes
aggressive with me or not I
just develop a mad passion to
go to bed with him. In other
words, I can’t stand to be
with a guy and not have a
phycical relationship with
him. I really don’t want to
stop dating but it seems I
have no other choice
Overly Friendly
Efcar Overly Friendly,
Avoid overly “romantic”
situation, such as “sets” or
private parties. Insist upon
going to parties or places
where there are a lot of
people. In the meantime, why
not seek counseling, perhaps
then you can solve your
problem.
Dear Joy,
Will you please inform me
if there is a lonely hearts
club, if so how to join.
Lonely Hearted
Dear Lonely Hearted,
No, there is no formal,
organized Lonely Hearts Club
on our campus. But I do
believe there are a lot of
lonely hearts. Maybe, a few
of you can get together and
attack the problem. The
longest journey begins with
the first step.
Dear Joy,
The guy I was dating my
freshman year promised me
The Roving Reporter:
By Diann Dawson
How much faith do you
have in the policy-making
body of Bennett College?! Has
it initiated necessary changes
on campus? From these
questions the following
comments were made.
“In my opinion the
policy-making body has not
operated satisfactorily in
response to the demands
made last year. If it does not
act accoring to our wishes,
then I think we should do
like last year.”
Ange McNeil
“I think we have been
given a lot of token changes.
For instance, we were given
non-compulsory classes for
everyone with C average or
better, but then said it’s up to
the instructor, that doesn’t
make sense.”
Lydia Johnson
“I never had much faith
but now I don’t have any.
They stall for time thinking
our proposals will be
forgotten and there will be no
one to push for them.”
Patty Wynn
“Being that some student
leaders have had conferences
with the administration, I still
have faith, although it is
working ultra slowly. We have
had some progress reports.”
Carolyn McCrary
“I still have some faith in
it, but I don’t think it has
initiated the necessary
changes.”
Minnie Monroe
Is Faith In Bennett...Dwindling?
“I think they have brought
about some changes, but if I
had to grade them on a ten
point scale. I’d have to give a
rating of 7 because there is
much to be done.”
Ella Quick
“I have not completely lost
faith. I have not enough
proof to conclude that they
have not worked efficiently
in carrying out their duties.
There still is time to improve
in the things we have failed
in.”
E. Maculary
“I have a great deal of
faith. It has initiated some
changes since I came to
Bennett. More changes should
be made.”
Patricia Shouse
“I don’t have any faith
because everytime grievances
are made, they seemed to be
ignored. If anything is done it
is of short duration.
Gwen Suggs
“I have faith but it is
caught up in too much
rhetoric. It has not initiated
the relevant changes needed.”
Connie Smith
“No, I don’t have faith. I
don’t think there is enough
interest in making the
necessary changes. As far as
improving the facilities, I
think somebody is pocketing
the money.”
Judy Dickson
“Everything seems to be at
a confused standstill. I
haven’t any faith
whatsoever.”
Sandra Caldwell
“I think one or two
problems have been solved,
but we still need more
changes. I haven’t that much
faith in the policy-making
body because it is taking so
long.”
Shelly Weeves
“I don’t have any faith
because I can’t see anything
done to aid the students.
Deborah Roebuck
“I have very little faith. I
that he would go bade to
school. We’ve broken up
now but he’s still going back
to school because of me.
When I tell him we are really
finished will this cause him to
give up hope? See, he was
doing this because 1 pushed
him into it.
The Pusher
Dear Pusher,
Explain to the young man
that although your
relationship is no longer a
close one, you still have his
best interest at heart. Tdl
him that it would make you
very happy jf he would
continue school. He will
appreciate it when it’s all
over.
Joy
Confidential to Wondering;
There is something very
wrong with a girl who likes to
do the type of things that
you described. I suggest
professional help.
(See TELL IT, Page 5)
don’t think the policy-making
body will work on the
proposals. They jwill
filibuster and drag on hoping
we will forget about the
proposals.
Edna Williams
(See IS FAITH, Page 5)
Your Horoscope For November
(1) ARIES (March 21st -
April 20th) You might be
inclined to hold a grudge
against a good friend, but
don’t let your grudge control
your actions, forgive and
forget. Romantically, you are
the decision maker this
month. If you play your
cards right, your love life for
November will be together.
Your decisions not only will
effect this month, but your
future as well. So get yourself
together Aries!
(2) TARSUS (April 21st -
May 20th) Don’t let your
imagination run wild. If you
do you might start suspecting
romantic competition, even
from your best friend. You’ll
only hurt yourself in the end,
so cut the notion loose. Calm
down, there’s nothing to it,
the situation only exists in
your mind.
(3) GEMINI (May21st - June
20th) Your love life is at its
best during this month. You
may even meet the man of
your dreams. Things
Moneywise you may have a
chance of earning while
learning in some work of
great interest to you. do your
best and this endeavour could
be quite profitable as well as
satisfying.
(4) CANCER (June 21st -
July 20th) Don’t get an
attitude if someone else goes
after you man. After all,
coming out on top when
there is some real
competition can make you
look pretty good. So play it
cool, if you have that man,
there’s no need to worry.
Concentrate on other things,
like going places and doing
things.
(5) LEO (July 21st - August
20th) Don’t judge a book by
its cover. This should be your
guide in love this month. If
you’re not carful you may
lose your mind over a guy
solely on physical
appearance. Nothing will
come out of this relationship,
so use your level head when it
comes to keeping a good
thing or cutting loose what
isn’t.
,(6) VIRGO (August 21st -
September 20th) If you’ll just
keep your eyes open, there
could be some money or
publicity in store for you.
November will also be a very
busy month for you, but
don’t get so bogged down
that you don’t know what’s
going on. This also goes for
your romantic life-you could
get something going if you’d
just pay attention to whose
giving you the eye.
(7) LIBRA (September 21st -
October 20th) Your outgoing
personality will bring you
popularity. Because you’re
you, you’ll be going to lots of
parties and having lots of
dates in November. Despite
all of this good fortune, you
may lose a special love. If this
should happen don’t let it get
you down. Your attractive
personality will help you
come out of this situation
with someone even better
than you had before.
(8) SCORPIE (October 21st-
November 20th) If you want
November to work out alright
for you, put some extra
effort and time into your
important things. Give a lot
of attention to your main
man and your relationship
will greatly profit from it.
(9) SAGITARIUS (November
21st - December 20th) There
may be some unpleasants
happenings in your love life
this month. It is best for you
not to concentrate to heavily
on romance for trying too
hard just may bring about a
bad situation. If such
happenings occur, don’t get
hungup over everything. This
could cause you to miss out
on your intended good
fortunes in the future.
(10) CAPRICORN
(December 21st - January
(See YOUR HOROSCOPE,
Page 5)