NOVEMBER 1,1996 — THE DECREE — PAGE 3
Campus Life
Sweet boyfriend turns into real ogre
Dear Clementine:
My boyfriend has turned into
an ogre! He used to be so sweet
and supportive before we started
going out and right at the begin
ning of our relationship. But now
he seems bored with me half the
time, and annoyed with me the
other half. I’ve tried everything
to make him happy with me, but
nothing works. What can I do?
Helpless
Dear Helpless (or Spineless?):
You seem to be a nice, forgiv
ing, loyal person to those people
in your life who treat you like G-
A-R-B-A-G-E. If you were audi
tioning for the next Lucky Dog
commercial you’d be a shoe-in!
I’m just joking around.
But seriously, look at yourself.
You’re acting like you think you
deserve to be ignored and tor
mented by your “sweetheart.” Do
you? I sure don't think so. No
body deserves such treatment
from anybody.
You say you’ve done every
thing to make him happy. Obvi
ously it’s not working if he’s still
not satisfied. So don’t sweat it.
When downing a beer, few col
lege students stop to mull its
subtle nuances or refined wheat
flavor.
But not the discriminating stu
dents at Johnson and Wales Uni
versity, where beer drinking —
make that sipping — is a required
part of “Principles of Beverage
Service — Beer,” a new course
at the renowned culinary school.
Student connoisseurs test out
a number of different recipes
while attending class at the
university’s Coors Brewing Lab,
named after the nation’s third
largest beer-maker.
Although most colleges com
plain about too much beer-drink-
ing on campus, Johnson and
Wales officials say brewing is
simply another culinary art.
And don’t try anymore. Your boy
friend is not worth the paper your
wrote the letter on! You say he
used to be sweet to you before
you got together, right? It seems
to me your boyfriend enjoyed the
pursuit more than the prize.
Have you tried asking him why
he acts so foul towards you? If he
brushes you off and doesn’t lis
ten to you when you try to tell
him how his actions are affecting
you then why do you still want to
be with this person? He doesn’t
care. Even if he says that he does
he’s not showing it.
Trust me honey, I know how
hard it is to leave someone you
love—no matter how horrible
they are to you. But in the end,
you’ll be the only hurting if you
stay with him. Do you think he’s
wrought with guilt over his ac
tions towards you? Yeah, right.
We could look at the situation
“Beer appreciation is consid
ered as complex as the apprecia
tion of fine wine,” said ^ward
Korry, brewmaster of the Coors
Brewing Lab. “Learning the dif
ferent characteristics of the many
beer styles and matching them
with complementary foods is an
important skill for culinary pro
fessionals.”
The lab — a 2,400 square foot
classroom — has the appearance
of an upscale brew pub with hard
wood floors and linen-topped
tables than can seat the 20 stu
dents in the class.
Aside from brewing and taste-
testing, students in the class also
must learn the history of beer, its
ingredients, and the differences
between keg and bottled beer ser
vice.
another way. Maybe he’s annoyed
because you’re bending over
backwards just to please him.
Were you like that before? If not,
what made you decide to change?
Is his acceptance of you more
important then your self-respect?
I hope not. Because ultimately,
you are the one who needs to be
happy with you. No matter what.
There are plenty of men out
there who wouldn’t dream of hurt
ing the ones they love. They ac
cept their partners for who they
are and love them even more if
their partners accept themselves
for who they are. Trust me. The
ones who are never satisfied seem
to stay that way with whomever
they end up with.
My suggestion is for you to
seriously reevaluate your relation
ship. Compare the way you want
to be treated and the way your
boyfriend is treating you. If the
two don’t match up, it’s time to
say “good-bye.”
Honesty is best policy
Dear Clementine:
I hooked up with this girl at a
party last weekend and now she
won’t leave me alone. I think she
wants a relationship. We used to
hang out a lot just as friends. But
now she’s getting to be annoy
ing. How can I make her stop
following me around?
The Single Guy
Dear Single:
First of all, let me give you
my automatic female response —
you’re a pig. Sorry. Just kidding.
Well, not really. But you knew
ahead of time that you didn’t want
a relationship from this girl, so
why did you hook up with her?
Okay, that’s in the past and
what’s done is done. Let’s deal
with your present situation: You
don’t like her like she wants you
to. You can’t help how you feel. I
understand that. But you have to
realize that you gave her a pretty
heavy signal at the party (I don’t
care if you two were drunk or
not). By hooking up with her, you
let her know that temporarily, in
some form, you wanted to be with
her. Now she’s probably wonder
ing why you’re avoiding her.
Here’s a suggestion: Uh, how
‘bout you tell her the truth? I
know, it’s a very uncommon con
cept for most guys. But try it. She
needs to know that last weekend
was not a marriage proposal in
the making. She’s obviously very
confused. And do you know why?
Because your physical actions at
the party are not matching your
actions right now. In fact, it’s
pretty safe to say that the two
actions are completely opposite.
So let her know that you’re really
sorry but the hook up was just a
hook up. And that’d you’d really
like it if you both could go back
to being just friends.
Be warned, however. Just be
cause you’d be doing the right
thing by telling her what’s going
on with you doesn’t mean
everything’s gonna go back to
being normal between you two.
She may feel a little upset, angry,
or embarrassed towards you for
leading her on and taking advan
tage of her. She may not even
want to talk or look at you any
more. But in the long run, per
haps, she’ll respect your honesty.
(Yeah, right! Girls are vicious,
man. 1 should know. I am one.)
Hey, the sooner you tell her
the sooner she’ll understand that
you want her to lay off. Or the
sooner you can say, “At least 1
told her” when she goes ballistic
on you and blows up your pet
rabbit in the microwave down the
hall. (I had to throw in a “Fatal
Attraction” gag.)
And here’s one last attempt to
remedy this situation for good:
Next time you seek satisfaction,
make sure you discuss with your
partner that you want nothing
more with her but a one night
romp. And make sure it’s mu
tual! (And use protection, please.)
(Slide letters to Clementine
under the door of the Decree of
fice, across from the bookstore.)
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