MID-OCTOBER, 1978
THE VOICE
PAGE 5
^EXPLANATIONS
Construct Sentences And
By DR. WAYNE ANDERSON
Q. It has been my ob
servation that most men are
lousy lovers. With all the
talking they do, and their
preoccupation with sex, how
can this be?
A. As a therapist, I have
listened to a lot of complaints
about men as lovers and
sexual partners; both married
and unmarried clients have
stated their displeasure with
their partner’s performance.
This has been a rather recent
phenomenon, and I think it’s
based on the fact that there is
so much written in the media
about what sexual lovt-
making should be like.
I see a couple of problems
here. One of them is that we
may have some unreasonably
high standards of what sex
relations should be. These
standards, as put forth in
magazines and movies, may
be so high that real people
can’t live up to the fiction, and
therefore everyone’s going to
be disappointed. I really
think, however, that that may
be only partially true.
In the good old days
before there was much
written and very little ever
talked about, women had no
basis for comparison;
therefore, whatever their man
did sexually was good, ap
propriate, and normal, and if
sex wasn’t very good, then
that’s just the way things were
meant to be.
But now women compare
notes and they know what sex
relations could be like, and
they are concerned because
the man (or men) with whom
they are having contact are
not very good lovers.
Based on my own clients,
I would be very hesistant in
drawing that conclusion since
they are, after all, a small
sample of people. But the Hite
Report, the nationwide best
seller by Sheri Hite, would
tend to support what my
clients tell me. Let me give
you some quotes from her
book as to how women
responded to the techniques of
their sex partners:
“It’s usually a short
period of foreplay, and then
the male on top, female on her
back, standard ‘slam, bam,
thank you ma’am.”
“In and out.”
“Caressing my body,
asking me to caress his
penis, then bang, bang.”
“Small amount of
foreplay, then intercourse till
he comes. The End.”
“Some men just kiss, feel,
finger, come, then light a
cigarette.”
It’s mainly a discouraging
picture, and the quotes go on
for pages. This goal-
orientation and failure to
enjoy sex as an interperson
interaction, and as an ex
perience, really gripes many
women.
Attempts on the part of
many women to educate men
seem to be very frequently
rejected. Men seem to have a
number of basic reactions to
women’s subtle and not-so-
subtle suggestions as to how
they might improve their
technique. The man (l) gets
hurt, (2) feels that he’s been
put down, (3) wonders how the
woman knows so much, and
(4) doesn’t understand what
she’s talking about.
I don’t mean to imply that
it’s all like that: there are
certainly many people en
joying excellent sexual
relations, but obviously, for a
generation that prides itself
on being sexually liberated,
there would still appear to be
some things that they could
learn.
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Glamour^s ^^College”
Column Expands to
^^Education^^ Page
In order to meet the needs
of the working student, the
college returnee as well as the
undergraduate in a traditional
four-year college program,
GLAMOUR has revised and
expanded its monthly
“College” column. The new
feature, titled Education, will
cover all forms of education
including vocational training,
part-time studies and
graduate programs. It makes
its debut in the October issue
of the magazine.
Topics that are covered in
the first Education page:
“How To Get Into The School
You Want,” a 13-point plan
directed toward improving a
woman’s chances of being
accepted by colleges and
graduate schools
acknowledged to the best job-
training grounds; “College
Without Classes,” a guide to
six publications which detail
where and how to get an ex
ternal degree; and “College
Calendar,” a regular feature
of the new format, which
spotlights dates of the month
of special interest to students.
“College Calendar” for
October gives the application
deadline for Rhodes
Scholarships, for example,
lists registration and test
dates for five different
national exams including the
Law Admission Test and the
Scholastic Achievement Test,
offers advice on taking ad
vantage of Thanksgiving
airline fares, financial aid
information, and a summer
job exchange.
According to recent
surveys, 80 percent of the
magazine’s readership works
full or part-time, 28 percent in
professional or managerial
capacities. The high achievers
among GLAMOUR’S young
working readership want to
work indefinitely, advance
themselves in their fields, and
fulfill themselves in a career
above and beyond the
financial remuneration that
accrues. It is in their interest
that the Education page has
been devised. It is
GLAMOUR’S intention, which
its expanded educational
coverage, to help each of its
6.5 million readers reach her
own individual goal.
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about it (the predicate). Each
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idea. By the addition of
phrases and clauses you in
troduce other subordinate
ideas.
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planation given, a sentence
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plex form, clarity is always
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teresting if the length and
style of sentences vary, It is
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a sentence so the reader
knows to which noun or
pronoun they refer.
A paragraph is a series of
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Test Anxiety Is
Contagious
Campus Digest News Service
“Test!” Immediately the
palms begin to sweat as
Sammy Student fidgets with
his pen. His left leg shakes
intensely as the mouth runs
dry with tongue dangling.
Eyes bulge and the adrenalin
flows in overdrive.
What is it about the mere
word, test, that spreads this
contagious disease called
“anxiety?”
The first step in ridding
yourself of the “disease” is to
realize what it is. Whipping
out the old Webster, you’ll find
anxiety to be “worry or
uneasiness about what may
happen,” paralleling with
Sammy Student’s feelings
above. Real, live students
however, have their own
definition: “No sense of self-
worth. Reading something
over and over again. Afraid to
tackle something. Nausea.
Lack of concentration. In
tellectual processes blocked.
Uptight. Not getting things
done.” And the list goes on....
But anxiety can also show
ifcself in a different form--
complete calmness-which
also accomplishes nothing.
When there is total relaxation,
the mind is at ease and drifts
into daydreaming or sleep. An
“I don’t care” attitude
prevails. Therefore, anxiety
can cause different people to
react in different ways.
The four basic causes of
anxiety for most college
students are tests, studying,
public speaking and dating.
Each has its own calmness or
anjciety levels, and each
student is affected in their
own way. Your roommate
may appear unruffled about
an upcoming exam, but it
doesn’t necessarily mean she
is not worried about the exam.
It is just how she reacts to
anxiety.
Once you realize and
admit anxiety exists, the next
step is to understand why it
persists. It all stems from
situations in life. When a
situation turns into a problem,
anxiety comes into play.
But what causes the
transition of “situation” to
“problem?” The least ex
pected instigator is your own
self. It occurs when a situation
arises and you immediately
answered with “I can’t handle
this. Something bad will
happen if I don’t. I’m no good
at it. I have todo well or else.”
Consequently, situation plus
self-talk equals problem, and
problem is synonomous with
anxiety.
Now comes the solution.
Anxiety can be solved in two
ways. First, by prevention. In
prevention, the self-talk
statements should be
analyzed in order to avoid the
“I can’t do this” trap. Self
confidence should be instilled,
but this is sometimes a long
and difficult process. You
can’t always develop self
confidence overnight.
If anxiety has already set
in, then efforts should be
made to reduce anxiety.
Taking your mind off of the
problem long enough to enjoy
something else is a temporary
type of solution. It can help
put you in a better frame of
mind to deal with the cause.
Relaxing exercises can
help relieve tension
altogether. Use your
imagination. Loosen your
collar, belt, shoes-anything
that might cause tension, and
relax those tight muscles and
joints.
With a little un
derstanding of what causes
anxiety, and why aids in
reducing anxiety, maybe the
next time a test rolls around,
it will be easier to face.
COLLEGE POETRY REVIEW
The NATIONAL POETRY PRESS
announces
The closing date for the submission of manuscripts by College Students is
November 5
ANY STUDENT attending either junior or senior college is eligible to submit
his verse. There is no limitation as to form or theme. Shorter works are pre
ferred because of space limitations.
Each poem must be TYPED or PRINTED on a separate sheet, and must
bear the NAME and HOME ADDRESS of the student, and the COLLEGE
ADDRESS as well.
MANUSCRIPTS should be sent to the OFFICE OF THE PRESS
NATIONAL POETRY PRESS
Box 218
Agoura, Ca. 91301
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Appraise And Outline Each
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Written assignments
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work. Obviously, it is im
portant that you know exactly
what is expected of you in
each instance. The most
colnmon assignments are
either reports or reseaich
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Think about the research,
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have to do. And be sure to
allow plenty of time to meet
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developed under the
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development of the subject.
EXPRESS
EXPRESS - not a new
word certainly, but, a word
you will be seeing and hearing
a lot more frequently here in
the Fayetteville, Cumberland
county area.
Why - because on the 27th
of October, 1978 a new
publication called EXPRESS
will begin serving the entire
Black population here in our
community. This dedicated
new tabloid will be published
every other Friday and will be
available at selected
newstands and sales outlets
throughout the city and
county.
The initial publication will
be of tabloid size (approx. 16 X
11), 16 pages, and containing
such features as local news,
national news, editorial and
general information that is
important and interesting to
the Black community.
Noted Black leaders, both
at the local and State or
National levels will now have
the opportunity to express
thoughts and opinions
directed to that audience
which they need to reach.
The need for a centralized
information media to
distribute economic, job,
housing and a number of other
important subjects, is now
going to be a reality.
Through our advertising
and writing staff, we solicit
your ideas, comments and
constructive recom
mendations. In addition, the
securing of quality ad
vertising is of primary im
portance to insure initial
success.
Questions concerning
EXPRESS may be answered
by members of our staff or by
calling the publishing office at
864-3321.