November 20,1990
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Home For The Holidays
ty Lesley Ann Mitchell
For many people, the holidays conjure up images of joyous reunions with friends and family. For thousands of college students/the holiday season also will mark
the'first time they've been "home" for months. That "homecoming" for the holidays may also mean, once again, coping with being treated like a child. "It's really
hard for me to come home after being at school because Tm used to my freedom," says Northern Arizona University junior Nicole Riedinger, 21. "When 1 get home,
it's*hard to adjust to brothers and sisters and everything all over again." Psychologists say holidays sometimes take college students back to childhood and the
way it was before they left for school" — whether they like it or not. "When students are involved with peers and classes, they forget what it's like at home, says
John Carazzini, director of counseling services at Virginia Commenwealth University. "Good or bad, coming home for a holiday puts them right back in the middle
of it" Carazzini says holiday depression among college students is more common today than five or 10 years ago. "Holidays today really tend to kick things off,^
he says. "In this era of the breakdown of the family system, like divorces, holi- ^ days for some students cause them to confront what he or she doesn t
■ ’ ’ • 1 .. -1 , l,.L- yp upj-pasonable expectations of the holiday — and family. After the
disappointed, he says. "Some students exp>ericnce holiday blues more
once it happens it never really is what they thought it would lx.'. They 11 try
to be disappointed." While families arc together this holiday season, psy-
expectations and differences before a holiday break begins. Parents
length of time. — Parents and students both should learn not to set
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have." After months away fromhome, college students also might build
holidays are over, many college students return to the university setting
infelation to the anticipation of Christmas," Carazzini says. "In reality,
tojecapture the fantasy of childhood and in the process, set themselves up
chologists recommend; — Compromise. Students and parents should discuss
-should set clear "house" rules while the student remains in the home for any —„
unrealistic expectations for how family members should act, especially during holidays. Richard Bedrosian, a clinical psychologist in North Boro, Mass., says
holidays may be more enjoyable to college students after graduation. "Many students will find Christmas more enjoyable when they're 25 or 26,' he says. 1 he
I holidays (during college years) act as a lense to magnify problems at home. There's stress and strain when students and parents step back into their old relationship.
Psychologists say even students who had a good relationship with their parents ^ ^ I ^
I before leaving for school will find holidays during these transitional years
difficult. Terri Behm, 21, says returning home for Christmas after her first
semester at Ricks College in Rexsburg, Tex., was difficult even though she says she
cot^municates with her parents well. "With my brothers it was no big deal," she
says. "With them, I just pick up where we left off... But with my parents it was
dificult. Here 1 was used to being in a semi-adult situation and they wanted to
treat me like I was 17 and just leaving for college." Subsequent trips home and
afimmers have left Behm, who will transfer to the University of Houston in the
spring, with a greater appreciation of family. "1 appreciate now, how good my
family is," she says. "At school, I see so many people who don't have what 1 have."
l| j«siey Ann Mitchell writes for Gannett News Service in Washington, D.C.) SCoj>yright 1990, USA
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by Kim Painter
Go ahead; button up that overcoat
when the wind blows free. But don't
expect it to keep you from catching a
cold. "You catch a cold from a virus.
You don't catch a cold through cold
weather," says Dr. Elliot Dick of the
University of Wisconsin — debunking
a piece of motherly wisdom that cold
experts debunk every year. They have
gone so far as to give viruses to volun
teers left cold and wet outside for hours
— and found they get no more ill than
people who stay warm and snug inside.
Not that Mom is all wrong. Exports
agree colds are more common in fall
and winter, but they blame indoor
crowding — especially in schools and
day-care centers, whore most viruses
get a foothold before spreading to adults.
Another possibility is that dry indoor
air irritates the nose and throat, creating
a virus-friendly environment. Once
is probably no more magical than tea.
— Rost, especially if you have a fever,
which probably means you have the
flu rather than a cold, especially if you
have a headache, too. — Cover your
mouth when you cough or sneeze. As
Mom would remind you, it's polite —
and some evidence suggests you will
spread fewer viruses. But toss away
that already gooey handkerchief, which
could be full of viruses. Use a tissue
and throw it away. — Make sure
everyone in your home washes their
hands frequently. Some experts think
viruses piggyback from hands to noses
and eyes. How about those home
remedies such as garlic, ginger ale or
hot onion juice? "If your mama told
you it would help and you believe it
will help, it probably will," says Dr.
Owen Hendley of the University of
Virginia. He says 40 percent of subjects
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sick, experts and Mom say you should: feel better when they get a placebo that
— Drink hot liquids. It feels good on a
scratchy throat, might briefly clear up
your nose and will keep you from get-
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