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jtwmntl and private problems of in
dividnals who stabmit their questions
to this column. These inquiries to in*
. elude family and social problems and
will cover questions that come up in
adjusting oneself to society: economic
questions to include adjustment to busi
ness life and careers. All inquiries
correspondence and names will be held
In- the strictest confidence. AH Inquiry
les snd questions should be addressed
to “Three P’s”, care of The -Chowan
Herald. Edenton. N. t!.
—Vladimir D. Rellov. Counselor.
Dear Mr. Vladimir D. Rellor:
Perhaps you can advise me as
to what would be the best course
in trying to get my daughter t i
study and learn at school. She
is in high school and woVks only
enough to get by and seemingly
is satisfied with just that. She
has a fine mind and is capable
of making high grades, of learn
ing and of thinking. With very
little work she makes fairly
good grades. So far she is not
interested in any specific subject. ;
Sne is 16 and we plan that she ,
shall go to college but she will
undoubtedly fail in her first year
Vwith her present attitudes and j
study habits. I have talked with
her and she admits all the above;
her teachers agree with die con
cerning her capabilities. Any
advice you give me will be great
ly appreciated.
Sally B.
Edenton, N. C.
Dear Sally B.
There are two points in your
letter that stand out; first that
you have an unusually bright
daughter and she is making good
grades without much effort
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which indicates rather unusual
natural ability; secondly, you are
analyzing and dissecting her be
fore ghe had had an opportunity
to develop her own abilities.
You have her failing in the first
semester in college before she
ever gets there, with two more
years of high school before her.
It would appear that you are
j worrying her and pushing your
| daughter too much. In elemen
i tary school most youngsters get
j along fairly well; they are in a
new world and their curiosity is
aroused and they are learning
new disciplines and group ad
justments. Usually there are not
too many problems with children
in the elementary grades. How
ever, when they get to high
school that is another matter.
They are adolescents, and sub
j consciously they are more inter
! ested in developing their own
j ego, their emotional rather than
j their mental needs! Therefore,
1 the stress is more on social ac
; tivities than on their studies;
; they are making their emotional
i adjustments with other young
sters of their own age arid are
becoming acquainted with their
growing emotional requirements.
This happens in the first two
years of high school. After the
first two years they are better
adjusted emotionally and develop
a keener interest in their studies,
that is if they have good teach
ers. I would not be too concern
ed, nor should you pester your
daughter too much. To find out
her interests you might occasion
ally ask her leading questions
about her main subjects; for in
terest, if she is taking chemistry,
ask her why is hydrogen so im
portant today that you read so
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much about it iri the newspapers; j
if it is mathematics, you might,
ask her is it true people used to
count by fingers and toes and' the
Chinese still use the abacus and
ask her what an abacus might be.
This will create some desire on
your daughter’s part to answer ’
your questions. The two main
reasons for failure in the first se
mester in college are first, the
lack of ability to adjust to new
social environment away from
home and youngsters become'
homesick and appear lost; the
second, the failure to understand
that they are absolutely on their
own., They have no one in back
of them to continually prod them
to keep up with their work. If
they fail to comprehend this they
make no effort, for there is no
pressure behind them and they
are unprepared for examinations.
No. I would not be too concerned
about your daughter; let her find
herself and develoD her own am
bitions for the future, except for
occasionally inquiring as to her
progress. Your most important
problem, in view of what you
say in your letter, is her social
and emotional development.
Dear Three P’s:
I am a college graduate and
my husband is not.. He is one of
the best tool makers in the busi
ness and the men working with
him look up to him because of
his skill. However, at home and
in general conversations with
neighbors he becomes sulky as he
feels he does not express himself
as well as I do. I admire my hus
band for his skill and ability and
furthermore, regardless, I love
him and want him to be happy.
What should I do?
Anxious.
Dear Anxious:
As a college graduate you
should be anxious, for apparent
ly your college education is not
doing you any good, and you
have lost the ability to think and
face problems. The one funda
mental benefit you are supposed
to reap from a college education
is the ability to think. If you do
not have that then your college
education has been wasted. Too
many people in this country have
unnecessary inferiority complex
es because of social mores. Lan
guage comes from the people and
grammarians make the rules of
grammar. People such as coun
try folk and others who neve
have had the so-called advantage
of our so-called education are
more direct and more expressive
in their language than well edu
cated people. It seems to your
counsellor that you should have
a good heart to heart talk with
your husband and let him give
you the reasons for his sulks.
Then you can point out that he is
an artist in' his profession and
above the average. Then have
general conversation with him
and point that his.ability to ex
press himself is better tharr yours
and encourage him to talk among
friends, while you keep in the
background. You may not know
it but generally men are like
children in their social adjust
ments. They need a ' great deal
of affection and sympathy and
encouragement. There is many
a successful man who honestly
credit their wives with their suc
cess. Give it a try, and let me
know how you make out.
| Weekly Devotional]
Column
i Bv james Mackenzie I
The National Council of
Churches has done it again! Af
ter last year’s brainstorm that
America should suspend the test
ing and manufacture .'of super
bombs and trust the Russians to
follow our good example, they
have come up with another un
asked-for suggestion to our State
Department. Now they say, we
should recognize Red China.
The action, of course, has in
spired a storm of protest from
patriotic Americans, both within
and without the Council. Some
account for the Council’s stand
by saying its leaders are ex
tremely naive; but others feel no
one could possibly be that naive,
and accuse the Council of being
pro-Communist. One of the most
vigorous protests to the,Council’s
incredible action has come from
a group of men who normally
support the Council (including
Daniel Poling and Norman Vin
cent Peale). In a letter sent to
50,000 Protestant ministers (I’m
not on their mailing list) they
pointed out that the resolution
“caused dismay among our allies
in Asia who have valiantly with
stood communist pressures and
aggression and who count on the
people of our country to stand
with them. Even more heart
breaking must be the effect on
the millions of Chinese living un
der communist slavery, many of
them our fellow Protestants,
when they read the reports of
this resolution in their communist
controlled press. We firmly be
lieve that the action taken does
not represent the thinking of the
overwhelming majority of Ameri
can Protestants, clergy and lay.
Further, we believe the action is
inconsistent with the clear prin
ciples and morality of the Chris
tian faith. In passing this reso
lution, not a word was mention
ed about the relentless drive to
ward atheism conducted by the
communist masters of the Chi
nese mainland; about the Peiping
regime's continued pogroms
which have slaughtered millions
of the Chinese people; about Red
China’s torture and imprisonment
of the Protestants and other re
ligious martyrs: about the con
tinued imprisonment of young
American service men: about its
open aggressive actions against
! ts neighbors and our own coun
try.”
So rrtfcch for that. What the
motives of the leaders of the Na
tional Council might be I do not
know, and I doubt they do them
selves. But do they have any
right to set forth their own pri
vate political views as the views
of the thirty-eight million Ameri
cans? Under our constitution the
church has no business setting it
self up as a political pressure
group—and this is especially true
when the church doesn’t know
what it is talking about.
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State Labor Commissioner j
Frank Crane urges employers us
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overtime pay exemption for their .
executive, administrative and
professional employees to check
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these employees.
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go into effect,” Crane stated
“Employers wishing to keep their
executive, .administrative and
professional employees exempt l
from the overtime pay requre
ment should make sure these em
ployees are being paid enough to
qualify them for the exemption.
“Starting February 2.” said :
Commissioner Crane, “an execu
tive employee must be paid ::!
least SBO.OO a week or $346.67 a
rnonth to remain exempt from
the time-and-a-half for overtime
after 40 hours a week require
ment. The old rate for execu
tives Was $55.00 a week or $238.33
a month.
“Administrative, or professional j
employees, starting February 2.
must be paid at least $95.00 a ■
week or $411.67 a month to re
main exempt from the overtime j
pay requirement. The old rate ;
for these employees wa s $75.00 a
week or $325.00 a month.”
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j these white-collar employees will j
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-i Crane invited businessmen who j
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■employees to seek information j
from the Wage and Hour Office
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