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t** 1 * »*■ »''»■■■ >r Three f*s l PERSONAL AND PRIVATE PROBLEMS irUi mlui)i mu attempt to wwWei jtQoMl apd private problems ,gl In tllpMll who submit their qantlnns M thii eohuku. Thete Inquiries, to in ell to toclety; eeonomic ■ttiKWsaps! iu should he addressed ", eare #1 The Chowan Herald. Fdenton. If. V. —Vladimir D. Beilov. Counselor Three P’s : I have been a married man for two years. The first year of myj married life has been a very hap-1 py one. We have a fine little j home which we are buying. My, wife has been very happty How- 1 ever, since the arrival of a son a short time ago my life has be come very unhappy due to my j wife’s mother and underneath I j think my wife is unhappy, al though she will not say anything. Since the arrival of my son my mother-in-law is either 1 on the phone or at my home telling' my Jttife how to care for my son, how 1 to run the house, what food to buy and is actually taking over, j My own mother is not living and my father lives with a married brother. My father takes only a friendly interest in us and only checks to see if everything is go ing all right. However, I am afraid the continued interference of my mother-in-law is going to make my wife sick and it is mak ing me mad. How does a mar ried man handle this problem without creating too much ill feeling? —Henry P. K. i *Jschenlei| RESERVE i| ' SOSO PINT a» $095 wj FIFTH i»#M lUIS l| (sSVgtv|]p ■ mw£imWl6r t I 'ft Dear Henry: The mother-in-law problem ha; , been with us through the ages t In fact, in the time of Hammu ! jabi a code was written up ti handle this situation. Os course , the mother-in-law problem ha: 1 1 been the subject of novels, play:, I and of course has been in th« !: joke books through the centuries |!One unfortunate aspect of the. ‘■situation is that all mother-in -laws are not interfering terma -1 gants. There are wonderful mothers-in-law who realize-their position and that their children are making their own way and do not interfere except when j called upon. There seems to be I some psychological basis fo# this | situation. In the case of the ■ daughter the mother becomes en -1 vious on the basis of her daugh ter having a happier married life ) than she has had and wants to | participate in the life of her mar j ried daughter as though she her i self were living her daughter’s life: then there is the possessive attitude where the mother feels 1 j that she is still bringing up her | daughter and does not want to let go and feels that her daughter j has not had the experience she i should have and is unwilling to have her find out for herself. Then there is the husband’s mo ther who thinks that no woman is < good enough for her son and she . interferes as much as she possi | bly can to see that her son is ' | well taken care of and is not ne i glected. This type mother-in-law ■ i is also envious in giving up her son to another woman and some j times jealously is the basis, it is a little strange and interesting but you never hear any jokes or references to the father-in-law. the chpwah mgm mmam. wmmh* mwwary u , mm. le probably has a saber atti ude toward his married children ind stays in .the background. I she interfering mother-in-law .as been the cause of more brok •n homes, divorces and general inhappiness than is realized, lere is just one recent incident. V son’s mother tried to force the ion’s wife to live with her. The ssue became so hot the son’s vise left him and he sued for di /orce on the grounds of deser tion. The divorce was granted but then appealed and the Ap pellate Court set aside the di vorce and ruled that a wife was under no compulsion to live with in-laws and that it was the re sponsibility of the husband to furnish a separate home for his wife. In your case it is your re sponsibility to see that your wife has the freedom of her own home, that she has the freedom to run your home as she desires and to bring up her own son. The only way you can do this and avoid an overbearing moth-' er-in-law is for you to take a stand right in the beginning be fore your mother-in-law takes over. You should tell h.er that you respect her as the mother of your wife, that you will be glad to have her to dinner once in a while arifl to visit, but under no circumstances is she to interfere with the running of your home; that when your wife needs help she will call on her but otherwise tell her to steer clear. This will put your mother-in-law in her proper position; it may cause a I ' bit of ill feeling in the beginning but that will soon wear off and you and your wife will have the freedom of your own home to run it as you see fit. Dear Three P’s: I am nineteen years of age and have an older sister and a young er brother. My mother has not been too well the past several years. I have sensed the situa tion and I have done and still do all I can to help mother around the house. However, my sister and brother just walk away from everything and it is upsetting me as there are many times I could go out on dates but do not be cause my mother needs help. I do not want to create any ill feel J ing at home but I feel it is un fair. How would you suggest handling this problem. —Judy. Dear Judy: This sounds like another Unit ed Nations problem which should be brought out in the open and discussed among all involved. It may be that your sister and bro ther do not see the problem as you do and do not have the same sense of family responsibility Perhaps if you presented the problem as you see it they might adopt another attitude. Certainly there must be enough family af fection for you to discuss it open ly and sincerely. I would sug gest that you discuss it with youi father, without bringing in your { mother, and he as moderatoi I could call a meeting of the three:l of you when the situation coulcT be brought out in the open. Per- I haps because you have assumed 1 ’ t the responsibility without sayin.r anything about it your sister and brother might assume that yoi like to do what you are doing. 1 ! am sure after the discussion ri, plan will be evolved in which the three of you might share the re sponsibility on a scheduled basis, and in a friendly atmosphere. A1 least it is an honest approach and; is worth a trial. Mrs. Mary Davenport Passes Away Saturday Mrs. Mary E. Davenport, 63 died Saturday aftrenoon at 4:3< t o’clock at her home on the Her*. „ ford highway after an illness of three weeks. She was a native* of Tyrrell County and widow ol} James A. Davenport, and lived in* Edenton 40 years. Surviving are seven sons, Har ry A. Davenport, C. F. Daven-‘ port, W. H. Davenport of ‘Eden ton, J. R. Davenport of News, J. E. Davenport of Great Bridge, Stancil V: Davenport and and B. W. Davenport of Nor folk; three daughters, Mrs. Z. Robertson of Hertford, Mrs. I. J. Hendrix of Tyner and Mrs. R. H. Burnette of Louisburg; a brother, Shaster Briekhouse of Norfolk} three sisters, Mrs. E. M. Strick land of Denver, Colo., Mrs. Guy Black of Portsmouth, Mrs. B. V. Phillips of Portsmouth and 20 • grandchildren. j She was a member of Sound; Side Baptist Church at Columbia • Funeral services were held * Williford Funeral Home Mwl lay afternoon at 2:30 o’clock. * Tie Rev. R. N. Carroll, pastor of he Edenton Baptist Church, of ciated and burial was in Beaver till Cemetery. , Pallbearers were Leroy Has kett,. John M. Bunch, E. J. I Or VaMUM f itr»a Bnliaid j uoyce, »»., vernon aoccrt Jftdkson . Dies In Hospital ' Annie Gertrude Jackson, 58, died suddenly in Chowan Hospi tal Friday night at 8:30 o’clock. She was a native of Chowan i County and a member of the Pin ey Woods Friends Church. Surviving are a son. the Rev. T. E. Jackson of Wingina, Va.; a sister, Mrs. G. N. Kirkland of Margaretsville, N. C., and a half sister, Mrs. Albert Keeter of Edenton. Funeral services were held Sunday afternoon at 2 o’clock at the Happy Home Church. The Rev. Gilbert Chappell officiated, assisted by the Rev. L. C. Synan of Hopewell, Va. Burial was in the church cemetery. ! Pallbearers were Ralph Ward, Raydolph Ward, Carson Davis, Joe Dickins, Vemon Jordan and Oscar Byrant. CHRISTIAN SCIENCE The value for today’s world of the works and words of Christ Jesus will be brought out at Christian Science services Sun day. The Lesson-Sermon is entitled “Christ Jesus.” Scriptural selec tions will include Jesus’ reply to the messengers of John the Bap tist (Luke 7:22): “ . . . Go your way, and tell John'what things ye have seen and hard; how that the blind see, the lame walk, the j lepers are cleansed, the deaf hear, the dead are raised, to the poor the gospel is preached.” Correlative passages to be read from “Science and Health with Key to the Scriptures” by Mary Baker Eddy include the follow ing (131:26-30); "The mission of Jesus confirmed prophecy, and explained the so-called miracles of olden times as natural demon strations of the divine power, demonstrations which were not understood. Jesus' works estab lished his claim to the Messiah ship.” The Golden Text is from John (1:17): “The law was given by Moses: but grace and truth came by Jesus Christ.” A Foolish Question Man at the Gate: Is your mother home? Little Boy: Say. you don’t suppose I’m mowing this lawn because the grass is long, do you? PONTIAC NAMED CAR •OF- THE - YEAR | # / “Pontiac with wide-track wheels “ is the best combination of ride... handling... performance and styling of any ’59 car. The Editors of 1 - Motor Trend Magazine ' In making its annual automotive award, the staff of Motor Trend Magazine, leading automotive publication, tests and evaluates all new cars. Here are quotations from the April 1959 issue: ‘«fho stability of the 1959 Pontiac is the out standing automotive advance of the year. 'Everyone considering a new car should experi ence it.” “It’s the best balanced passenger car in America. We firmly believe that in moving the wheels farther apart, to develop the widest stance of any American car, Pontiac has created an entirely new sense of balance and handling security.” “Pontiac’s lines are clean, simple and beau- Wul. It has a fleet look, a trim appearance. The wide wheel design contributes greatly to its PfIHTJAHI America’s Humber © Road Car ■ WruW ■ a ■ Three Totally Mew Series • Catalina • Star Chief • Bonneville 1 11 , "- 11 ' 1 SEE YOUR LOCAL AUTHORIZED PONTIAC DEALER CHAS. H. JENKINS MOTOR COMPANY, Inc. Dealer’s Franchise No. 1263 . * ' i St Phone 2413 Edenton, N. C -4-M COUNTY COUNCIL | HOLDS REGULAR MEET! The 4-H County Council met j February 11, at the Chowan Community Building. The meet- : ing was called to order by John- J ny Winborne, who presided be- j 1 cause of the absence of the presi-I dent. Judy Haste had the de-' votion, followed by the members saying together The Lord’s Pray er. The secretary called the rdll and read the minutes of the last meeting. « Miss Catherine Aman, assist ant home economics agent, gave a report of the barbecue chicken! supper, February 20, at the Cho- i wan Community Building. The 4-H County Council sponsored this supper to make money for , the County Council treasury, j Robert Marsh, assistant farm I agent, talked to the members about the observance of the Na tional 4-H Week. Posters were given out to various people to put up in the stores in the coun ty. The Center Hill Local Club was assigned to make place cards ’.for the different restaurants ad vertising 4-H and its importance. Everyone enjoyed the recrea tion after which the meeting ad journed. How difficult it is to persuade a man to reason against his in terest: though he is convinced . that equity is against him. -—John Trusler. SUNDAY SCHOOL I LESSON 1 • IT ~T— i i -• his tenants to make a living; he had set out a hedge, restricting their use of the land; and he sent messengers back to collect his fruit when the time was ripe. The tenants were free, but no person is actually free without limitations. No person is free from obligations. The tenants could only use so much land; they were not free to sleeo all day; they had responsibilities of work, and there was rent to pay. So is man’s feedom limited. We were riot free to choose the WeSellrmTSQ the by&gH Famous E. L. PEARCE “Quality Spwls of Known Origin” PHONE 3839 Route 3 Edenton day and generation in which we| would be born, or our heredity, j Some of us were born with a I talent for singing; some with a j talent'for doing things with our] hands. But every one of us are j free to use our opportunities, or | to let them slip by; to work our I vineyard or let it become chok ed and overgrown with weeds. We are free to be good or bad; we are free to fill our lives with love, or fill them with hate. God has given to man the gift of free dom. But also God gave the gift of love, and love restricts free-. dom. Because we love, we are not free to do some things. Be-! cause God loves, he is not free to let us do certain things. He gave us laws to live bv. They restrict some of our freedoms, but they also accomplish our higher good. The good that we develop within ourselves is the rent God wants and expects to collect from | us, his tenants. God wants his j children to be capable of reach i ing their highest possibilities, to achieve their greatest good. One by one he sent such men as Eli jah and Isaiah. Amos and Hosea. Jeremiah and John the Baptist, but the people rejected them. But God did not reject the people. Time and again, as the people j failed to appreciate the evidence I of God’s love, he turned the oth ;er cheek arid gave them a fresh j chance: even after his Son had I been crucified because of the ig ; noranee of the people. God's love l remained steadfast. Though love is the strongest I force in the world, man still has I the power to reject it. To accept I God’s love demands that men re | pent of their sins and turn from j their wicked ways. Some people have called the Plagued Day And Nightwithßladder Discomfort? Unwise eat inn: or drinking may he a source of mild, but annoying bladder irritations- making you fe«*l restless, tense, and uncomfortable. And if rest less nights, with nagging backache, headache or muscular aches and pains due to over-exertion, strain or emotional upset, are adding to your misery don’t wait -try Doan’s Pills. Doan’s Pills act 3 ways for speedy relief. I—Theyl—They have a soothing effect on bladder irritations. 2 A pain reliesing action on nagging backache, headaches, muscular aches and pains. 3 A wonderfully mild diuretic action thru the kidneys, tending to increase the output of the 15 mile* of kidney tubes. So, get the same happy relief millions have enjoyed for over 60 years. New, large economy size save* money. Get Doan’s Pills today 1 Doan s Pills over-all integrated styling. Any comparison with narrower track cars readily shows the difference.” “For the economy-minded, an efficient new engine. The new 420E Tempest economy en gine offers remarkable performance along with exceptionally high mileage while operating on regular grade gasoline.” “Pontiac is again tops in performance, based on our extensive road testing. Acceleration is outstanding, yet the engine is unusually quiet and smooth.” Your nearest Pontiac dealer will be glad to let you road-test this award-winning automobile on your own. You’ll see why it’s the year's most talked-about car! disaster of the crumbling build- ' ings following the San Francisco ; 1 earthquake an act of God. But a distinguished architect, after in k ‘4 , vestigating the tragedy, reported, “Dishonest mortar was responsi- j ble for nearly all tije earthquake j; damage in San Francisco.” When ! men build their lives or their so ciety with “dishonest mortar” eventually the judgment will I come. And those who reject Christ and his way will some day have cause to say, “If I had only followed his way, my life How to sell HOGS DIRECT! Put the middleman’s profit in your own pocket! You raised the hogs. So, you should get all the < profit. And you can by selling direct to the packer! Now there are six Smithfield Packing Company buying stations in your area. Get top packing house prices at the station nearest you in Murfrees boro, Harrells viile, Edenton, Sun bury, Bethel, and Scotland Neck. All hogs are weighed on sealed scales checked for 100'. i accuracy. Start getting top prices. Do away with the middleman. Sell direct to the Smithfield Packing Company, buying for luter’s famous line of pure pork products. Call the manager of the Smith- j field buying station nearest you Ep Mb. S for the daily hog market report. The Smithfield Packing Co. Six Buying Stations BETHEL MURFREESBORO EDENTON SUNBURY Phone 4561 Phone 3371 Phone 3515 Phone 2321 SCOTLAND NECK HARRELLSVILLE Phone 8/66 (For Harrellsville Piices Phone Murfreesboro 3371) THE ONLY CAR WITH WIDE-TRACK WHEELS Wheels are five inches farther apart. This widens only the stance, not the car. Pontiac takes a better grip on the road, hugs tighter on curves and corners. Sway and lean disappear, ride is smoother, balanced, steadier. Handling is easier. You drive With a new confidence, a comforting security. Pontine gives you roadability no "narrow gauge" car can offer. tFREE! If you would like a reprint of the com plete, illustrated article with all the tests and evaluations on which Motor 1 rend judged Pontiac "Car of the Year’-see your Po.ntiac dealer or simnly send your name and address on a post card to Pontiac Motor Division, Department 10, Pontiac, Michigan. PAGE SEVEN 4SCTIOW TWO would not have ended in this disaster.” ’.These comments are based on outlines of the International Sun day School Lessons, copyrighted by the International Council ol Religious Education, and used by permission.) Carolina Secnrlttes Corporation for Qftirtty Charlotte New York City KALKIC.H D. M. Warren 301 S. Granville Phone 2186 Fdenton
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