I Pediatric Pointers I
by Dr. Joey Bell, Pembroke Pediatrics
You are bound to get conflicting
advice about toilet training from
friends, relatives, and experts.
Despite what you have heard or the
prodding you may feel from wellintentioned
relatives, the general
rule to remember is : The later you
initiate toilet training the more
quickly the deed will be accom- plished.
Of course, all rules have
exceptions, but children who are
trained too early tend to have more
accidents. For the parents, here are
some general facts that may help
you make your own decisions
about when is the best time to toilet
train your child: 1) Children
begin to gain some control of the
sphincter muscle at around nine
months of age. 2) Most children
have not developed the connection
between brain and body to control
elimination before the age of one.
Simple awareness of the urge to
eliminate must come prior to control.
3) Some experts believe that
children will train themselves when
they are ready. This appears true
of some toddlers who have older
siblings. In general, though, most
children are ready to be trained
between the ages of two and three
years. They have adequate language
and other skills to proceed
with success at this time. 4) The
order of development usually follows
this pattern; nighttime bowel
control; daytime bowel control;
daytime bladder control and then
nighttime bladder control. Girls
usually develop control before
boys, 5) Toilet training should not
traumatize a child for life unless
you are unduly harsh and negative.
If a child has the readiness skills
necessary to learn and you take a
positive approach to this milestone,
all should go well.
In order to initiate toilet training,
you should teach your child the
necessary readiness skills to accomplish
such a task. The child
should be able to identify various
body parts, including where urine
and bowel movements come from.
You should use the names of body
parts when you talk with your child,
lettinghim/her watch you go to the
bathroom and identify the action.
Designate words for elimination,
such as potty or poopy. Your child
should be able to tell you whenhe
is dry or wet and identity if he is
'1 soiled: If he does, respond quickly
then praise him for telling you. The
ability to discriminate between wet
and dry or dirty and clean is crucial.
Your child should also be able
to follow simple instructions, such
as flushing the toilet. The child
should willingly follow simple di*
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rections and should be praised for
following them. For coordination
and dexterity, your child should be
able to walk or run to the bathroom
and be able to pull up and down
clothing. You should select loosefining
pants with elasticized waists,
practicing to pull them up and
> down and praise for accomplishing
the task. Wait until your young
child has long periods between
wetting before initiating training
Be patient because children mature
at different rates. If your child is
afraid of the toilet, overcome that
fear before beginning toilet training.
Let him practice flushing the
toilet. Let him dump his own bowel
movements in the toilet, but reassure
him that he will not go down
the toilet. Explain to your child that
urine and bowel movements are
made from the parts of what he eats
and drinks that his body does not
need.
There are several approaches that
you can take to begin toilet training.
Keep these points in mind: Be
enthusiastic, Be positive. Select a
child-size potty, potty seat or stepup
potty. You may chose the nopressure
method if you don't care
when your child gets trained: eventually,
a child will train himself.
Twice-a-dav training is a more direct
gradual approach that may take
several months. It elicits the use of
praise and reward with trinkets or
stickers when the child uses the
toilet. One-dav training is an intensive
approach for children with the
appropriate readiness skills. It is a
day of modeling, training, and then
practicing toilet skills with your
child. A one-week approach is a
positive approach that speeds the
learning process, but does so within
a reasonable time span. With all of
these approaches, don't go back.
Stick with it and don't overreact
should your child occasionally
have an accident. Continue to make
her feel good about her progress.
After following most of the advice
given in this article, your child
should be successfully trained before
long. However, should repeated
accidents persist, consult
your child's physician.
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SOME THOUGHTS TO TRYOVT
"She checked out all the channels, and refused to panic. (PARAPHRASE
of what Chuck Swindoll said about the life of Abigail, in his Moody
Bible Network program broadcast on February 21. 2001.
Advice for women, from Billy Graham's wife. Ruth: "Don't nag your
husband. It's your job to love him. It's God's job to make him good."
For men and women (PARAPHRASE of one of Adrian Roger's points):
Another point: "Don't be a dictator. Jesus if our Lord, not our dictator.
He does not force us to follow Him. (From the radio program. Love
Worth Finding, same network, same date,)
THOUGHTS \OT TO TRY OUT (PHO\ESE.X)
1 dialed ( 1 thought) the toll-free number for Love Worth Finding, and
had a new. unwanted, introduction into phone sex, with the steamy "lady"
on the other end( recorded, though it sounded like she was right there)
giving me a number of low-cost phone Numbers to actually participate.
NOW I know these things are for real! And I'm not a bit happy about
this! Just think of what our kids are bring subjected to. from every direction.
during so many of their w aking moments!
We must keep praying for our children and young people on a nonstpp
basis.
ANOTHER MOLE
As I keep saying again last week, we must stop AUTOMATICALLY
accepting as the TRUTH what we are hearing others say. OUR LEADERS.
NEED TO DO THIS, as well as to you and me.
I can understand why you are sick their Communist accomplices, have
been doing to our world.
HOW can we wake up our leaders to the reality that we may STILL be
fighting a "cold war" without knowing it ?
and tired of reading this same thing over and over in this column. But
we've just GOT to start facing REALITY!
Sometimes. I'm convinced that we must have been deliberately brainwashed.
In the back of our minds. I'm sure that most of us Americans,
for over a decade, have been holding those two slogans we've heard
OVER and OVER from the media and other so-called "experts". At first
it was: "Communism is DEAD!"
With our conscious minds, we NOW know that is not true. But even our
government leaders, during the 1990's, seem to have swallowed the second
slogan: "The Cold War is OVER!"
Former presidents Reagan and Bush Vmve taken credit for this achievement.
The Clinton administration certainly seemed to put their faith in
what I believe has been a lie all along, (By the way, remember that I
finally came to my current decisions myself by following Paul's advice
in Timothy: "Study to show thyself approved...") as I've said, I did not
want to believe all this NEGATIVE stuff, either. But the more I studied,
the more impossible it became to reject the idea that a long-range plan to
replace republics like ours is STILL in place.
Religious poems sought in
poetry contest
A SI000.00 grand prize is being
offered in a special religious poetry
contest sponsored by the New
Jersey Rainbow Poets, free to anyone
who has ever written a poem.
There are 28 prizes in all totaling
over S2000.00. The deadline for
entering is April 7, 2001.
To enter, send one poem only of
21 lines or less: Free Poetry Contest,
103 N. Wood Ave.. PMB 70,
Linden NJ 07036, or enter on-line
at www.ffeecontest.com.
"We think great religious poems
can inspire achievement," says
Frederick Young, the
organization's Contest Director.
"Our desire is to inspire amateur
poets and we think this competition
will accomplish that. North
Carolina has produced many wonderful
poets over the years and
we'd like to discover new ones
from among the Pembroke area
grassroots poets."
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volunteer Host Families Needed
VOLUNTEER FAMILIES FOR CHILDREN of NC, Inc. is looking for
volunteer-host families who are willirig to offer time" and their home to
provide short-term care for children who are in emergency or crisis situations
for a period of 1 to 21 days. Volunteers receive a great deal of
satisfaction knowing they have helped a chid through a difficult time.
Training and support are provided. Volunteers are needed to serve on
the local Advisory Council. Presentations for your staff, organization, or
club are available upon request. For more information about VOLUNTEERS
FAMILIES FOR CHILDREN, call Maxine Geiger at 436-3477.
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UNITED TRIBES OF NORTH CAROLINA
Twenty-sixth Annual North Carolina Indian Unity Conference
March 14-17, 2001
NORTH CAROLINA INDIAN JURIED ART CONTEST
Application to Participate
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ARTIST NAME
MAILING ADDRESS
CITY/STATE/NC .
TRIBAL AFFILIATION
DAYTIME PHONE WITH AREA CODE
ART FORM
Eligibility Requirements:
You must meet the following eligibility requirements and terms in order to participate.
You must be a member of a North Carolina State or Federally recognized tribe.
Artwork must be original and professionally done.
Artworks entered in prior years are ineligible.
You may enter up to 3 pieces.
Artwork must have been completed within the last 2 years.
All artwork entered will travel to the Guilford Native American Art Gallery.
Prints must be framed and each piece of artwork must be packaged for shipping to Guilford Native
American Association following the conference.
Deadline for receiving artwork is March 13, 2001.
Disclaimer:
The Indian Juried Art Committee reserves the rif>ht to disqualify any artwork deemed inappropriate and or unprofessional
from the competition.
By signing your name below, you agree to abide by all the above rules and eligibility requirements.
Signature: Date
Elk-Locklear wed in
evening ceremony
Kristen Ronnette Elk of Pembroke and Jimmy Patrick Locklear of Huntsville,
AL, were married at 5 p.m. on December 2 at Prospect United Methodist
Church. The Rev. Timothy Creel and the Rev. Bill James Brewington
officiated.
The bride is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Ronnie Elk of Pembroke. She is
the granddaughter of Launa Elk of Pembroke and the late Ray Elk, Myrtle
Jacobs of Pembroke, the late Astor Jacobs and the late James Calvin
Chavis.
The groom's parents are retired Sgt. Maj. and Mrs.. Henry Locklear of
Huntsville. He is the grandson of the late William Henry Locklear, the late
Roseann McMillan Locklear and the late Arnold and Bama Guthrie.
The bride wore and ivory silk faille sleeveless gown designed by Christos.
The square neckline was accented with a beaded rope braid. The dropwa'ist,
A-line skit had a panel front and was adorned with venise lace
scroll work and braid. The box-pleated back of the gown fell into a chapellength
train. The bride carried a cascading bouquet of rubrium lilies and
Veronica roses, accented with English ivy and stephanotis. Her fingertip-length
veil was two tiers of ivory illusion on a custom Christos headpiece
adorned with scrollwork and braid.
The bride was escorted by her father. The patron of honor was Robin
Lowery Woodell of Pembroke. The bridesmaids were Carta Barnes of
Shannon; Faline Locklear, Sophia Oxendine and Amelia Locklear Elk, all
of Pembroke; Shannon Chavis Lowry of gamer; and Torrey Warriax of
Lumberton. The flower girl was the bride's niece, Kelsey Rae Elk of Pembroke.
The ring bearer was the groom's nephew, Tyler Gilmore of Littleton,
Colo..
The bridesmaids wee attired in sleeveless floor-length navy silk chiffon
gowns. The gowns featured a high, round neckline and a scooped, draped
back. The matron of honor was attired identical to the bridesmaids. The
attendants carried English-style hand-tied fresh bouquets of rubrium
lilies and Laminuecte roses accented with tulle netting. The flower girl
wore a floor-length, white sleeveless silk organza gown. It featured a
hand-tied waist sash at the back accented with a handmade rose silk
flower. She wore a matching silk flower in her hair.
The best man was the groom's brother, William Henry Locklear of Huntsville.
The groomsmen were Kelvin Ray Elk, Rev., Horace Oxendine and
Brian Woodell, all of Pembroke; Ted Gilmore and Wade Blacketor, both of
Littleton; and Daniel Barnes of Shannon.
The wedding was directed by Barbara Braveboy-Locklear. The wedding
musicians were pianist Tommy Cox, trumpeter Donavita Chavis and James
Kent Chavis on the bass strings. Vocalists were Gina Maynor Revels,
Lambert Locklear, Quae Cummings and Bruce Swett.
Following the ceremony, the bride's parents hosted a dinner reception in
the Grand Ballroom of the Holiday Inn in Lumberton. Music was provided
by Jim Chaves Classic Jazz Band of Charlotte.
The rehearsal dinner, held at Meadow Manor of Lumberton was hosted
by the groom's parents.
Social events prior to the wedding included a lingerie/bath lien shower
hosted by Carla Barnes and Robin Woodell at the Woodell home in
Pembroke. A china dinner party was hosted by Madie Rae Locklear and
Glenda Chavis Locklear in Lumberton. Annie B. Baker, Lorena Chavis
and Glenda Chavis hosted a miscellaneous bridal shower in Pembroke.
The bride's mother hosted a bridal luncheon at the Magnolia Inn of
Pinehurst.
A "honey-do" dinner party wand shower was held in honor of the couple
and hosted by Mr. and Mrs. Kelvin Elk and Mr. and Mrs. Davey Corey
Lowery at the Elk home in Pembroke. A Christmas shower was hosted by
Carol and Susan Young in Pembroke.
The bride is a graduate of Purnell Swett High School in Pembroke and
received her bachelor's degree in business administration from the University
of North Carolina at Pembroke on December 20.
The groom attended Sparkman High School in Huntsville and the University
of Alabama at Huntsville. He is currently serving in the United
States Marine Corps and is stationed at Cherry Point.
After a honeymoon trip in January to Hilton Head Island, SC and the
Grand Floridian Resort in Orlando, FL, the couple are residing in Pembroke.
Applications being accepted
for Summer Basketball Camp
Applications are now being evaluated for The Ten Star All Star Summer
Basketball Camp. Boys, ages 8- 19, and Girls, ages 10- 19, can apply.
Players are sselected by invitation Only. Past participants include "
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