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. "I cannot control my eating. Everytime that I
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"1 win never 10 aDie 10 control my stress. Because i
I always get angry whenever I think aboift my
boss. .
"These people make me lose control of myself
every time that I am around them, I can't stand
them. That's the way it is and that's the way it will
always be. 'J- P
These statements indicate the psychological .cage
into which the people who make the above remarks
have locked themselves. Not only do the statements
describe the way that people feel in certain situa--tions;
but they indicate other equally' important ;
points: '::W:.:n..:, "yv-.W- :;v"v
1) They indicate the way that people expect to feel
. whenever the situations present themselves;
2) The indicate that the victim will take no con
scious steps to stop his w her behavior from taking
place inasmuch as the behavior is considered to be
natural and inevitable; w,
3) The victimized person would feel unusual if the
particular behavior did not present itself;
Coping
5S '...'
Self-Control
By Dr. Charles W. Faulkner,
. 4) The individual has resigned himself or herself
in certain "uncontrollable" aspects of behavior;
-; 5) The victim expects to observe his or her own .
behavior, as if observing a movie in which he or she
was the star whenever certain stimuli occur. .
People who perceive of themselves as having cer
tain unavoidable (behavior, in effect, regularly in
itiate their own behavior They actually make it oc-
cur. -following is an example: Kaymona ieu mai nc
nervousness during' many of his previous speeches.
He did his utmost to avoid participating in such ac
tivities but the worse was to happen. His boss'
scheduled Raymond to address a group of new
'employees. The very thought of this endeavor
traumatized his own behavior: "When will I begin
to tremble?" when will my voice break? When will I
stammer? When will I begin to forget my speech?
When will tne aucuence recognize my nervousness
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wouia oecome nervous wnenever ne was preparing . T i ri kmnn;n nw Ac
to speak to a group of strangers. He had felt this soon I Jf Jl
,way for,years and could recall the torment of his soon as my name is mentioned, will begin to
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shake. It always has happened an it wiu nappen ia
couDle of seconds. There it goes ... I can feci it
. i.- ,;r, Hrt am I nervous. Whv in tne worw
; a-.X i JU hu fliffnmit? 1 would rather be in
L iafl; and; things are going to get worse because it is
f almost like clockwork: Every time that I ain to-
"trbduced, I become nervous and begin to tremwe.
Then my mouth gets dry, then, I begin to forget
v everything. My mind goes blank, I fed it now. I can
' hardly remember my name. Wow, am I nervous.
'Now I am getting a headache. TTfis is tonnentin,
this the last time that I will do this. This is becoming
; the most difficult, embarrassing, painful experience
of my life.' : . -
The above statement is the expression of a person
who has given up. It represents the internal conver
sation that takes place within each of us whenever
we expect to become nervous in an endeavor. This
conversation precedes a breakdown Jn behavior.
The person speaking could be named Jane, Jack,
Jean or Joseph. The cause of the nervousness could
be walking up a steep flight of stairs, flying in an
airplane, meeting a stranger, being reprimanded or
taking an examination.
A few months ago I
was , in Washington,
D.C., where I have to go
frequently to round out
the chores expected of
me as-a UN columnist
and consulting
economist.
An extra added delight
on this visit was an in
vitation to a diplomatic
reception , at an Arab
Embassy which is
moderate and a supplier
of oil to the United
States.
The announcement
was gold embossed and
to be invited was con
sidered important in
Washington social circles
as well as the interna
tional circle.
So I attended.
It is euphoric to go to
such an affair. Hearing
your name announced to
"His Excellency the Am-,
bassador'Vby the butler
and to meet the Am
bassador's wife and staff
makes you feel impor
tant. , Viennese Waltzes
The champagne flow
ed and so did the well
known liquors of
America, Scotland and
the world. They also had
mineral waters.
The music was mostly
Viennese waltzes which . . ,
carried me back to my '.
student days in Europe, ,'
and there was belly danc- ' , y,
ing which brought to '.
mind exotic nostalgia of
many memorable places.
Finally it showed the V
Arabs as charming hosts. .
There were . oyerOO ; v i
guests in this opulent ?. .h
mansion on Embassy
Row. The White House, ..
the Cabinet especially
the State, Energy and
Commerce Departments,
plus a lot of important
blacks were represented,
The conversations were
about the U.N., Iran, j
Libya, Israel, etc. all
by little bunches of
guests. I, therefore, '
moved from cluster to
cluster, taking a sip,
eating the exotic hor
d'oeuvres and the roast
lamb which the Arabs
can prepare so well. .
Finally, I ran into the
Commercial Counselor
of the Embassy, an Ox
ford and Cal-Tech train
ed member of the ruling
family of his nation. I
had met him in his coun
try several months
before. I began im
mediately to talk about
his country's good
statements about
American blacks in its
newspapers and
magazines.
Going further I men
tioned that it would be a
good idea to use some of
his oil money in the
blaCk ; American com-
Counseling
(Continued from Page 12)
has allowed him or her to
grow up normally is no
longer necessary," he ex
plained. "However the
blood levels of the harm
ful substance associated
with the disease are quite
high. Even though this is
not particuarly '
dangerous to the adult
women, when she con- .;
ceives a child the high
levels are considered to
be dangerous to the fetus
and must again be diet
managed."
Seeds stressed that
couples should seek
genetic counseling when
thay are planning a child
if they are concerned
about inherited birth
defects. "We as
counselors are obligated
to provide the couple
with the maximum
amount of precise infor
mation they need to . .
make a decision
. themselves." he said.
"Telling people what to
do is not the job of the
counselor."
munity, plus to sell some ;
of our more erudite
businessmen in oil, crude '
oil at a cheaper rate.
Interrupted
Then to my disgust a '
prominent black
educator, who I know
nrettv well, who was
standing by the
Counsellor listening to
our talk, said:
"You know you
should learn some man
ners and not discuss this
sort of thing at a social
gathering, especially at
this great diplomatic par
ty given by my good
friend here."
. I blurted out, "Well I
just overheard a white
businessman offer 50
heavy duty trucks to our
friend and his govern
ment at a reasonable
price.
Our black friend walk
ed away. And while
Teaching for my wits the
Commercial Counsellor
of this rich state also
quietly walked away with
another guest.
The Tragedy
Herein lies the tragedy
, of blacks who are so
grateful to be at
diplomatic receptions
that thev forget about
economic needs and in
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United'Natibns
Black Americans Must Take Advantage
Of The Dinlomatic Receotion Bv Curtis T. Perkins
ternational relationships.
I also attend many
diplomatic receptions at
the United Naitons in
New York. Here again
most of these are African
or Third World affairs
for whose people I have
v a known identity, com
passion and affinity.
There are many well
known blacks of achieve
ment who also come to
. these gatherings where
food, drink and
hospitality are abundant.
No Trade Ties
But between black
Americans and their
hosts, their is practically
no remunerative trade
and professional ties.
It seems that the white
business world gobbles
up the deals with these
representatives before
blacks can get to them. I
would say the City of
New York's Office to the
United Nations, the In
ternational Division : of
the U.S. Department Of
Commerce and theUtate
Department of Com
merce generally ignore
black professionals such
as lawyers, real estate
and insurance brokers
and those in building,
development export and
import purchasing,
public relations and
travel.
Yet those blacks have
the skills to offer the na
tions of the world.
When the Government
of Cuba advertised
President Fidel Castro's
speech made at the U.N.
three years ago, all the
ads went to the
metropolitan white
controlled press.
Not a single paid line
to our black newspapers,
although we have some
excellent weeklies in New
York and throughout the
nation.
Rut Dr. Castro ex
presses great concern for
the underprivileged.
And certainly blacks
including black publica
tions, fit his description.
But no ads for the
black press. This is quite
disconcerting.
About a year ago, the
Ayatollah Khbmeni, had
his people in Washington
run full page ads in the
Washington Post and the
New York Times.
Although the Ayatollah
set the black hostages
and women free, his ad
visors did not see fit to
use black newspapers.
This practice of not
utilizing black
newspapers as a vehicle
to tell their story in
advertisement puzzles
me about Arab and some
African governments,
and even Israel.
Most Arab govern
ments and causes, in
cluding the PLO, have
supplements and their
ads are . invariably, tun
page in the main dailies
in New York and
Washington.
Recently, I showed an
African ambassador an
article featured in a
black publication about
'his work at the UN in
cluding his photo.
He appeared grateful
and said no other
newspaper, especially the
white press; had ever
mentioned his name,
although he had been
assigned to the UN for
three years.
This ambassador's
story is consistent.
If it weren't for the
black press, much of
Africa's plight would go
untold.
Yet African nations,
with consulates and-lega
tions at New York and
Washington, however
American 4 blacks get
practically none of this
money. The Arab
League and the
Organization of African
Unity (OAU) could be
helpful to . black
Americans in making for
effective relationships.
No Commercial Ties
Although Russia and
China and many socialist
societies express
brotherhood for blacks
in America, there are no
commercial ties in this
regard.
The late industrialist
Cyrus Eaton did billions
in ventures with the Rus
sians. Dr. Armand Ham
mer, chairman of Oc
cidental Petroleum, has
multi-million dollar deal
ings also with the Soviets
and with Libya. Many
large American firms
and entrepreneurs are in
or forming lucrative
joint ventures with the
People's Republic of
China.
My point is that blacks
should have no fear of
. dealing with the Com
munists. None or these
poor, spend, millions ior. wnue turpurauuio as
goods and services for been accused of being
their embassies and -for such. Yet most socialist
their homelands.. But nations otter , oniy
rhetoric instead of finan
cial cooperation where
, blacks are concerned.
$76 Billion
Further, blacks should
get prepared to do
business in Cuba, which
many white firms in
directly are already do
ing. Things are bound to
open up someday. Cuba
needs automobiles, spare
parts, drug and food
stuffs.- I believe we
should establish full
diplomatic and trade
relations with Cuba now.
They are no different in
ideology than Russia and
China.
James R. Lawson of
Harlem and Dr. M.T.
Mehdi, co-chairmen of
Black American-Arab
Dialogue Committee; are
fighting for productive
economic ties between
Arabs and blacks
throughout the United
States.
This group has very
thorough research on the
money and ownership of
property, which ' Arabs,
have in America. Their
figure of over $100
billion of Arab assets in.
America is not' exaggerated.
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