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By YOLONDA GAYLES
Syndicated Columnist
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Dear Volonda: I'm a social worker who works
with parents who are separated or divorced. Right
after the holidays seems to be the most depressing
time for parents who are without custody of their
children. It's particularly distressful for many of the
parents who come to see me because they haven't the
money to shower their kids with gifts. So,.I've come
up with a list of inexpensive things non-custody
parents can do to reinforce their love for their
children. I think all parents need to read it. May I use
your column?
L.D.M.
Dear L.D.M.: By all means. You've given us some
solid ideas. Thanks for the tips.
Showing Your Children You Care
Today, there's a lot of talk about the quality of
time you spend with your children, as opposed to the
quantity of time. Well, there's some truth to this, but
the most important thing is that you spend some time
with them. This means regularly using visitation
rights. Don't allow anything, or anyone, to interfere.
Some other tips:
Everything you give your children does not have
to be costly. Try making them something. As I told
one mother who claimed never to have anything to
give her children:
Bif . "Make them a batch of
cookies!
jt Have something at
your house that's
K theirs, even if they only *
see it once a week. A
small, inexpensive
W. aquarium will do. If ??_
money is a problem, try
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which both you and the
kids contribute, then
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as you go along.
Have a long-term project going on at your home
that everyone's working on. Collages are great, or
perhaps you'd prefer a puzzle.
If you can afford it, once your child gets older,
try having a phone installed in his or her, bedroom.
Tell your child that the phone is a hotline between
you two. It eliminates the hassle of going through
others to speak with one another.
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you. It would surprise you to know how many homes
I've visited where the children don't even have a picture
of their parent.
Finally, once your children are at the age where
they can read and write, develop the habit of maintaining
a joint diary. Sharing what occurred during
the week will accomplish two goals: First, you'll help
your child with his writing skills, but more important,
you'll accomplish the goal of keeping a closer
eye on day-to-day stride towards adult-hood. And,
as I tell the parents that come to see me, that's the
greatest reward of parenthood.
A Matter of Perspective
Dear Yolonda: I am in love with a guy who is older
than I am. But that's not the problem. He is also very
much married and has children who are very much
older than me. That's not the problem, either.
The problem is that although we date, we've never
been intimate. I want to tell him how I feel, but I
can't. I want to tell him that I care for him, and that I
want to make lnve tn him hut enmothinn oi.
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stops me. I guess he thinks that by me being so young
I might get pregnant or something.
Please tell me how to handle this. I believe he has
feelings for me, too.
.T.
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Television/Radio
Public televisio
The career of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. and how
he touched the lives of five North Carolinians will be |
explored in a "Stateline" report Friday, Feb. 17, at
7:30 p.m. over stations of the UNC Center for Public
Television.
"Stateline'* is North Carolina Public Television's
weekly newsmagazine program.
The King retrospective, first broadcast in January *
prior to King's birthday, is being repeated as part of
the observance of Black History Month on North
Carolina Public Television.
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Consumer Corner
New game desi
Looking for something to do in your leisure time
that's both fun and educational?
Four young business people -- Latrissa Gordon,
Murry Holifield, Calvin Holliday and Lucy Holifield
have developed "Identity", a new geame they hope
will help rekindle an interest in black heritage. Indentity
was developed especially for black families.
Identity Concepts Inc., a black-owned and operated
company, markets the game.
"The civil rights movement helped black people of
our generation see themselves in a positie light" Ms.
Hollifield, president of I. C., explains, "and we hope
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residents who knew or worked with King about how
effective they feel his efforts were. They also share
their views on the decision to declare a national holiday
in King's honor. Interviewed are Shaw University
faculty member Dr. Grady Davis, the Rev. A. W.
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minister, W. W. Finlator Prezell Robinson, president
of St. Agustine's College, and Claude Sitton,
editor of the Raleigh News and Observer.
In another segment, Lew Gitlin visits the
Woolworth's lunch counter in Greensboro that was
site of the 1960 sit-ins by four black students from
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ecstatic "hallelujah chorus" grand finale, "Purlie",
the poignant and wildly comic jriusical, has been
revived for the U^C Center fpf Public Television's
4Festival '84." AWig^hursday, March 15, at 9
p.m., "Purtie^MeaTurwMelba Moore, recreating the
role of Lutiebelle that catapulted her to stardom;
Robert Guillaume, who starred as Purlie in the national
company, and Sherman Hemsley, who
recreates his role of the sly overseer, Gitlow, for this
special producation.
Based on Ossie Davis' play ''Purlie Victorious,"
the original "Purlie" opened in 1970 to widespread
critical acclaim on the Broadway stage. Clive Barnes
wrote in the New York Times thai "Purlie" is "a fine
mixture of humor and passion ... This is by far the
richest of all black musicals ...."
The show won two Tony Awards, one for Melba
Moore for best supporting actress in a musical.
"Purlie" takes place on a Georgia plantation; it recounts
the hilarious effort of the cotton pickers.
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Identity will help do the same for children to day-"
With Identity, Ms. Holifield says, children can
have fun while learning more about their cultural
heritage. Each player takes a 44 secret" identity ? a
famous person.from black history.
The object of the game is to guess the other
players' identities before your own identity is revealed.
By focusing^on the achievements and contributions
of black people through-out history 4'Identity"
help* build positive role models and instills pride in
children, she says.
Identity Concepts inc. also markets "The Identity
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A&T State University. He also interviews David
Richmond, one of the sit-in participants, about the
decision to protest and how it has affected his life
since. Gitlin talks to others about how the sit-ins were
perceived by both the black and white communities
in the city and former Greensboro Daily News
reporter Jo Spivey recalls how her coverage of the sitins
led to threats and harassment from some readers.
Kelly Alexander of Charlotte is the subject of a
"Profile" interview with Marc Finlayson. In
January, Alexander was elected national chairman of
the NAACP.
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headed by their preacher Purlie, to pull a fast one on
the bigoted, oppressive OP Cap'n, played by Brandon
Maggart. Melba Moore's Lutiebelle is a spirited
girl who sets her cap for the Rev. Purlie, a highprancing,
self-styled churchman who dreams of having
a church built and freeing his people from OP
Cap'n's exploitation, With S3me elaborate scheming*
and a little luck, Purlie saves the day.
Star of the ABC television comedy series!
"Benson," Robert Guillaume won an Emmy Award;
for his role in the sitcom "Soap." His extensive ac-;.
complishments on the Broadway stage include roles;
in "Guys and Dolls," "Golden Boy" and "Purlie.".
Singer and actress Melba Moore has appeared in}
many Broadway musicals, including "Hair,":
"Purlie" and "Timbuktu." Her career as a concert,
and recording artist includes several hit records and aGrammy
nomination.
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Collection," an art series featuring portraits of 20j
famous black people. The collection makes an ex-;
cellent display for schools,, libraries, museums and:
community organizations, Ms. Holifield says.
"The Identity Game" and "The Identity Collec-;
tion" are available exclusively by mail order. "The;
Identity Game" is S9.99 plus $2.00 for shipping and:
handling.
"The Identity Collection" is $13.99 plus $1.00;
shipping and handling. To order either send a check :
or money order to Identity Concepts Inc., 202 S. :
State Street, Suite 1302, Chicago, 111., 60604, or call
312 / 341 -0900.
r King
In a 44Speak-Out" segment, Audrey Kates Bailey :
asks Smithfield residents their opinions about the
holiday honoring Dr. King, and in the "Analysis" ;
spot, Public" Affairs Director Richard W. Hatch
discusses the impact of King's career with Milton
Jordan, editor of the Carolina Times in Durham, and
Paul T. O'Connor of the Association of Afternoon
Dailies.. 1
"Stateline" airs locally on WUNL-TV, Channel :
26, and will be repeated Sunday afternoon, Feb. 19,
at 12:30 p.m. |