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Page C6-The Chronicle, Thursday, May Coping Taking cha By DR. CHARLES FAULKNER Syndicated Columnist Would you be upset if any of these people did not speak to you? (be honest): Your spouse, your next door neighbor, your employer, a person who works in your office, or girl-friend / boy-friend? Would you be upset if anyone didn't srv?;?L: to vnu") ^ VM . Most people would, in fact, feel quite rejected if other people did not like them as much as they liked the other individual. The need to be accepted is one of the most powerful of all human needs. The fear of being rejeted is even more potent. This can easily be traced to the way you feel about yourself. If you like yourself, are confident that you are capable person ixh-um sturitf 'wyenn1 feet, you are likely to be essentially unaffected by the way other people feel about you. You are likely to dismiss other people's rudeness as their problem rather than your own. You sleep well at night. On the other hand, if you are insecure, lack confidence and basically do not feel good about yourself, you will probably feel offended and intimidated if nearly anyone snubs you. Highly insecure people regard the world, and everyone in it, as their enemies. Not only do they feel terribly hurt if you do not speak to them, but ' they might even verbally or physically attack you. They might assume that you are going to dislike them and, therefore, attack you before you even get the chance to reject them. And if you do snub them, they will find it impossible to get a good night's sleep until they get back at you. In some cases, they might interpret any form of behavior, whether positive or negative,? as rejection. Even when it is not actually directed toward them. In this behavior logical? Is it really important if other people like or dislike you? Make Baby's Ri The suitcase is packed, baby clothes assembled and Dad has practiced the route to the hospital. Is everything ready? "You are ready to bring a baby home from the hospital only if you have a crashtested safety seat installed properly in your car," says Dr. Frances Wagner, extension human development specialist, North Carolina State University. Safety restraints for infants and tod dlers are now required in the family car in this state. "It's a law, and it is a good one. The automobile accident is the greatest single threat to the lives of North Carolina children, and they should be protected beginning with their first trip in the car," the extension specialist says. Infant-seat loaner programs have been set up by community groups across the state. Contact your county agricultural extension home economist for help in locating such a group. ICE CREAM Hot weather is ice cream weather, and many North Carolinians prefer the homemade kind. Just be sure to avoid food poisoning, says Dr. Robert Brackett, extension food safety specialist, North Carolina State University. CITY OF WINS PUBLIC N On May 21, 1984, the Board of Aldermen of submission of the FINAL Statement of Conr jected Use of Funds for Program Year 1984-1S Urban Development. Total Communy Development Program ex( 1984, are $3,950,000. Of these expenditure! low-and moderate-income households. The FINAL Statement will be available for following locations during regular business ho Forsyth County Ubriry Branches: Main Library 660 West Fifth Street Esst Winston 1110 East Seventh Street Thruway Thruwiy Shopping Center Reynolds Manor - 2851 Fairlawn Drive Wtnsten-Salem Housing Authority 901 Cleveland Avenue Martin Luther Ityng Recreation Center 501 Burton Street Copies of the FINAL Statement may be ob Community Development,'310 West Fourth 27101, telephone (919) 727-8595. Inquiries concerning the FINAL Stateme Development Program performance, may b Community Development Director, at the abov 31, 1984 rge of your life The answer to both questions is that it depends upon who the person is. For instance, if your husband or w ife snubs you it might be logical to take some steps to find out why. And if you really care, it might be wise to take the proper steps to resolve the problem that led to the rejective behavior. It is not uncommon to find someone who is so afraid of being rejected that an unintended failure by the mailman to speak becomes a devastating occurrence that drives the victim into near depression. It is easy to predict how such a person might react if a love affair fails, they are fired from a job or they are not invited to a party. Depression can be long, deep and health threatening Thic i? th*? tinH nf person who is/suicide prone because life is become overly reactive, rejective and abusive to other people who are thought to be "better." You must examine yourself honestly and logically. Does the failure of someone to accept you have an important impact in your life? Usually, if you are honest, you will find that very few people really matter in your life. Most of the people whose favor you desire are, in realistic terms, insignificant. Stop allowing other people to determine whether you will be happy or unhappy. You can and should stand on your own two feet -- physically and psychologically. Take charge of your own , life. Successful people are calm, confident self-motivators. And you can be the very same way. The most important questions that you must now ask yourself in every case of -social contact is: Does it really matter in my life if this person does or does not accept me? If the answer is "no" (which it VI; i ] 1 K o i n mnr* ^ 4 ? * * *' * "iii w in iiivjai cases;, iuigel ac?uui inai person and get on with your life. ide A Safe One Never use cracked or dirty eggs, milk or cream of questionable quality. Make sure all freezer parts are clean, and be sure to cook the ice cream mix if the recipe requires it. Then dig in and enjoy. WICKER Wicker furniture and summer days just seem to go together, but wicker can become tired and dirty. Dust it with a clean cloth or vaccum cleaner attachment, suggest Dr. Wilma Hammett, extension home furnishings specialist, North Carolina State University. Raw wicker, which has no applied sealer, can also be washed. Spray it with a very fine spray from the garden hose. Be careful not to get the wicker too wet. If further cleaning is needed, use a mild detergent solution or soap, rinse well and dry thoroughly. Dry the furniture upside down to help it retain its original shape. A co^t of shellac once a year will enhance the beauty of raw wicker, the extension specialist says. Painted wicker is cleaned the same as a piece of painted furniture, but do not get it too wet or the paifYt may peel or crack. TON-SALEM OTIC1 1 the City of Winston-Salem authorized the lmunity Development Objectives and Pro185 to the U.S. Department of Housing and senditures for the year beginning July 1, 3, 75.6 percent are projected to benefit review, on or about May 30. 1984, at the urs: Piedmont Bible Collage Library 716 Franklin Avenue WInston-Saiem State University Library WSSU Campus City Secretary's Office Room 114, City Hall e Gained, at no cost, from the Department of Street, Suite 1300, Winston-Salem, N.C. nt, or comments relating to Community ie directed to Joseph Sauser, Assistant 'e address. Yolonda From Page C1 IHIIUIMIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIUilmilillUIIIIIIIUMIMMIIMIUIIIMIIMIMIIUIIIIIIHIIIMIIIIMIIIK Dear Hilliary: That sounds like now instead of the year 2000. Dear Yolonda: The divorce statistics that you cited don't bring up the real tragedy., The real problem is that we have so many youngsters growing up in single-parent homes. I'm divorced, and the father of three. I'm the first in my family to divorce. Right now 1 don't know what's worse -- kaying in an unfulfilling marriage or leaving your kids. Since 1 was one of the ones who divorced last year, I was definitely one of those statistics. John Dear Yolonda: If my husband and I separated every m n, Vwcnt wrongs we would have been divorcThe young people of today don't know what love and marriage is all about. They think it's all being hannu J ' *' nuppj nuvii uiiii^s cue luii) emu imug ior divorce when the fun stops. My daughter, age 21, grew up with the young man she married. She had her father and 1 spend a small fortune on her wedding. And, you know how long they stayed together? Eight months. Oh, brother! W.E. Webster Dear Mrs. Webster: At least once a week someone comes up to me and says that what young people today need is a course in love and marriage. I tend to believe "what's needed first is a course in respect. \ Thanks for your letter. Got a problem or a gripe? 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