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Winston-Salem Chronicle RELIGION, B4; SPORTS, B10 THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 6, 1990 ■-*1 Community News B1 A Double Dilemma Twins' split decision creates stir with family and friends 3y PATRICIA SMITH-DEERING ^onlcle Staff Writer i Twins always attract attention from the day they are ^rn. And whether their twins are identical or fraternal, )aronts tend to perpetuate that by dressing them alike, )ftentimes pursuing identical interests, and making deci- rfons for the two budding personalities as though they vere one entity. But, as with most children approaching naturity, individual goals and needs blossom forth in a vay that can unnerve, please, or disappoint others. Chareba and Charlita Cardwell, the 16-year-old twin laughters of Charles and Joan Greenwood Cardwell on p-cenway Avenue, have reached what is, in essence, a trossroads for them. Excelling academically at an early ige, both young women received their education at private ichools in Winston-Salem—St. Leo's for elementary i^ooling and Bishop McGuiness Memorial High School or their freshman through junior years. Theirs is a shared history of achievements in school ind in their varied extracurricular activities. But, that ^hanged when a recruiter visited Bishop McGuiness and :xtolled the virtues of Phillips Exeter Academy in Exeter, sjew Hampshire. Both Chareba and Charlita were accept- id for their senior year of study. The typically effervescent extrovert, Charlita, decided hat, rising Bishop McGuiness senior notwithstanding, she wanted to make the move to Exeter. Chareba, however, the jollars-and-cents (or sense?) introvert, chose to complete her senior year at her high school alma mater. Their deci- SRins virtually rocked the Cardwell household and left fends nonplused. "1 wasn't interested in changing schools; 1 was very happy at Bishop, 1 love Bishop," said Charlita, recalling her initial reaction to the recruiter. But, following a visit to the Exeter campus, her feelings changed. "It just felt right as soon as 1 walked by the campus. Everyone was very fiendly, and it was very New England, trees, buildings were very old-fashioned, the community was very jmall...," she continued, recounting a few of the things that appealed to her about the environment. However, there are academic reasons that have influ- f cnced Charlita's decision. Attending a school that is noted as’the number one prep school in the nation means being prepared for some very stiff competition. "I really want that change," Charlita said, adding, "It's going to offer me an opportunity to explore things I haven't had a chance to explore before. Bishop McGuiness is a very good school..but, you can't take a course in African History." She feels that the type of curriculum offered and the types of experiences and people that Exeter affords will provide a broader education. "I don't think one can claim to be educated if you only have one perspective," she added. Chareba also visited the Exeter campus, but the feel ing that she had in no way dovetailed with her sister's. She decided that the prep school was not where she wanted to be because it did not feet "right" for her own academic and personal needs. However, her concern for what will, in the long run, make her happy has not lent much support for her decision, "I don't think anyone around me or anyone who has concern for me can be happy if I'm not happy, " she said. "For instance, the thing now is the fact that I'm not going to Exeter, and it's very difficult because I have little, if any, support for my decision not to go." One of the frastrating and disheartening things Chare ba has had to face is the expressed disappointment of peo ple whom she thought had her best interests at heart. "It really hurt me when this lady in church told me how disap pointing I was, and she made it seem like this was the end and that I was going to be a failure in life because I didn't go to Exeter," she recalled sadly. Then the practical side of her shined through. "I think it's a lot of expense, a lot of stress, a lot of time, and I just don't see„.what purpose it's going to have in my life," she said. Chareba believes that it is not the school but the per son who determines individual success or failure. "I think a place is what you make it, and if I make the best of myself at Bishop McGuiness, then that will be the place for me...I don't want to go somewhere if I know that Tm not going to put 110 percent of myself into it...because I don't do anything unless I know that I'm going to put 100 percent of myself into it," she explained. Oddly enough, the dilemma posed by the twins' diver gent decisions has brought Chareba and Charlita closer in their sibling relationship. "I'm becoming more supportive of my sister because she's made her decision," Charlita said of Chareba, "She's made her decision and stuck by that, even though I want her to go...(it) made us able to relate to each other more and on a more mature level," she added. Chareba added, "...I think the fact that she can make up her own mind and I can make up my own mind,..even if this is the wrong decision for me and it would have Twice As Nice Below, Chareba, left, and Charlita Cardwell cele brate their 10th birthday. Above, at right, the 16- year-old twins prepare for their senior year at sepa rate schools. Top Right Photo by L.B. Speas Jr.y-: Bottom Photo from Fites * ■4p.' "f, turned out that my life would have been better by my going to Exeter, that's a consequence that I am willing to accept.,,1 don't want to blame other people for what goes wrong in my life." The common bond-taking personal responsibility for one's actions and decisions—that the sisters share was forged early in childhood by their parents and has gov erned every aspect of their lives including their attitudes about teenaged drug abuse and peer pressure. Both gener ally agree that neither drugs nor pressure from other teenagers should be used as an excuse to exempt a person from his or her own responsibility for effecting a change in a situation. The two have always w'orked well together, consider ing each one the other's best competition. As Charlita expressed it, "Competition between us drives me more than anything." But Chareba clarified their complementary roles with each other using an analogy, "If we were to do a play, I would write it, and Charlita would act and be the producer/director." Neither Chareba nor Charlita have decided on a col lege, once they finish their respective schools. Chareba participated this summer in the Minority High School Research Apprentice Program through the Bowman Gray School of Medicine, spending a few weeks on the campus of Wake Forest University. She also partici pated in the "Summer Experience" Program earlier this summer at Bowman Gray as a physician assistant. But, what she really wants to do as a career is to operate her own day care center. "But, that's not an idea that's getting much support either," she said with a smile. Charlita spent a month this summer at the University of Arizona in Tucson at the 1990 National Leadership Education and Development (LEAD) Program in Busi ness. She feels that teaching would be the best fit for her but "the money isn't there." She plans to attend law school. COMMUNITY CALENDAR THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 6 • Family Services Inc. will sponsor a seminar on the programs Family Services offers and how to qualify for them from 3:30 to 4:30 p.m. at the Neighborhood Government Services Office at 2301 Patterson Avenue. SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 8 • Cub Scout Pack #868 will reconvene its new charter year at 11 a.m, in the Family Life Center at First Baptist Church. Shedrick Adams is Cubmaster. SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 9 • Reynolda House, Museum of American Art will sponsor an opening for the j public to the exhibit entitled "An Impressionist Legacy: The Collection of Sara sLee Corporation" from 1:30-4:30 p.m. Regular admission prices will be ijfharged: $5 for adults, $4 for senior cidzens, and $3 for students. There will be ‘ refreshments. Exhibidon dates are Sept. 7-Dec. 28. ^ TUESDAY SEPTEMBER 11 I. • The Education of the Black Child Parents Rally will be held at 7 p.m. at Shiloh Bapdst Church. Mr. Jerry M. Guess, associate publisher of "NAACP Cri sis Magazine", will be the guest speaker. The rally is sponsored by the NAACP Bducation Committee, the Ministers' Conference of Winston-Salem & Vicinity, md the Phi Omega Chapter of the Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 12 Reynolda House, Museum of American Art will sponsor their fall Docent Discovery for those interested in becoming a volunteer at Reynolda House. Six essions on Wednesdays and Fridays will be held from 9:30 a.m. to 12 noon, fhe fee is $15, To register, call (919) 725-5325. The Gamma Zeta Chapter of Sigma Theta Tau, the Intemadonal Honor Soci ety of Nursing, will hold their September meeting at 7 p.m. in the UNC-G School of Nursing (Moore Building). A parking sticker, located in the Newslet ter, can be used. For further information, call the UNC-G School of Nursing, (919) 334-5010. L.I.F.T. (Learning Is Fun Too) seminar on Alternative Education in the Com munity will be held at fhe Neighborhood Government Services Office at 2301 • Patterson Avenue from 10 to 11 a.m. SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 15 Urban Arts of The Arts Council, Inc. presents "Super Saturday For Kids" Ifrom 10 a.m, to 12 noon at Winston Square Park. Activities include arts and Icrafts, face paindng, children's songs, balloon-twisting, toy giveaways, and The jClown Ministry by First Assembly of God. PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENTS • New York Model Workshops is having a Model Seminar at John Casablanca School of Modeling, 302 L-Pomona Drive in Greensboro, Sept. 12-13, from 7-9 p.m. to discuss starting a career in modeling and commercials. The charge is $45 in advance. For an appointment and more information, call Imaginings, (704) 787-4186, Callers will receive "15 Tips on Becoming a Model" by Jake Pena, president of New York Models Workshops, Inc. The Knollwood Hall Family Council is having a yard and pastry sale Friday land Saturday, Sept. 14-15, from 10 a,m.-4 p.m. in the park area, 5755 Shattalon Drive. Rain date: Friday and Saturday, Sept. 21-22. Proceeds will go to the Fam jiiy Council operating fund. Everyone is invited. Bulldogs, Camels, Yellow Jackets reunited By PATRICIA SMITH-DEERING Chronicle Staff Writer Calls went out for all the gradu ates of Anderson High School, Carver High School, and Atkins High School to return to the city of their alma maters and get reac quainted, reminisce, and share in the general merrymaking that reunions tend to generate. And the alumni responded in large nuthbers to celebrate with a variety of activi ties over the Labor Day weekend. The Carver Roundup When a group of Carver ^adu- ates decided in 1984 that gathering all the classes together for an ainnual affair would be an ideal way to see old friends and classmates again, the Carver Roundup was the result, according to John Rice, president of the Carver High School Alumni Association of Winston-Salem, Inc. In 1985, the same year that the Association was incorporated, the first Carver Roundup was held at the Hyatt House with a Frid;ay night Photo by L.B. Speas Jr. Members of the Atkins Class of 1966 light candles for deceased class members at "Camel Fest." From left are Rutherford Moorman, Margaret J. Gist, Arthur Bradford, Delores S. McConnell and Billy McClain. Zion Church in Lexington, NC. The Roundup serves to do more than bring alumni of classes 1939-1970 together for fun and wortship. Each year scholarships are awarded to Carver seniors from the proceeds of the event. Winners for 1990 receiving $1,000 scholarships are: LaShanda Y. Brown, University of North Carolina--Chapel Hill; Kelly Greene, Virginia Tech; and Keith Greene, University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill. Honored for reaching bench mark anniversaries were members of the Class of 1940 for its Golden Anniversary, the Class of 1955 for its 35th Anniversary, and the Class of 1965 for its 25th Anniversary. According to Rice, from 700-800 alumni returned for the Roundup. Atkins "Camel Fest" (A Humpty- Hump) When the Atkins Senior High School Class of 1966 decided that Please see page B4 Photo by LB. Speas Jr. Members of the 'Carver High School Class of 1955 were honored at the Roundup for the 35th anniversary of tlieir graduation. reception, a SaLurday picnic at Over the ensuing years, the Carver High Sc'hool, a Saturday annual weekend activities have night dance at thte Benton Conven- become a tradition. "Sunday wor- tion Center, arid Sunday worship ship is always at Carver," said Rice, service at Carvejr High School. "but, we spread the other activities among the other hotels to help busi ness." Sunday's message was delivered by the Reverend Alvin Damon (Class of 1956), pastor of Ezekiel A.M.E.
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