Nearly 2 to 1
MRS. ARTHUR VERNON STRINGER
...She was Miss Vanessa Haygood
Miss Vanessa Haygood
Weds Arthur Stringer
Vanessa Pearline Hay
good and Arthur Vernon
Stringer were united in
holy matrimony recently at
Grace AME Zion Church.
Rev. Marion Jones offi
ciated.
The bride is the daughter
of Mr. and Mrs. William W.
Haygood Sr. of 1514 LaSalle
Street. The groom's pa
rents are Mrs. Ola Frye
Stringer of Durham, N.C.,
and Mr. Arthur G. Stringer
of Dayton. Ohio.
The bride was given in
marriage by her father and
the music was provided by
organist Gloria Roberts
and soloist Michael Wash
ington.
The bride wore a beauti
ful candlelight gown of silk
organza. The bodice was
embroidered in Alencon
lace complemented by a
matching organza and lace
veil attached to a Juliet
cape._
She carried a white Bible
covered with an orchid and
streamer of white velvet
ribbons.
The maid of honor was
— Tammy B. llayguud. sister
of the bride.
She wore a gown of teal
blue designed with a blou
«
oin bodice, lace inserts and
a madrin collar.
Her bouquet was an ar
rangement of fall flowers
dotted with teal blue.
Brother of the groom,
Reginald Lyvon Stringer
was the best man and
ushers included William
Haygood Jr., James David
Haygood and Donald
Dockery.
The bride's mother wore
taupe crepe dress bordered
in navy accented by a long
sleeve pleated jacket and
whit« corsage.
The groom’s mother
wore a grey polyester
shirtwaist dress empha
sized in pencil thin shadow
stripes and silver. She also
wore a white corsage.
•
The bride is a graduate of
Stanford University, How
are Medical School and is
currently completing her
ity Medical Center.
The groom is a graduate
of North Carolina State
University and is also pre
sently a student at' Duke
University Medical School.
The couple plans a wed
ding trip to the mountains.
Christmas Mailing
Tips Offered
With the Christmas mail
ing season just ahead,
Charlotte Postmaster O. B.
Sloan is offering tips for
customers to assure that
their cards and packages
arrive on time and in good
shape.
In addition to shopping
and mailing early, custom
ers are urged to properly
address cards and pack
ages with the name, street
number and name (Post
Office Box number), and
the city, state and ZIP Code
reserved for the last line.
It is also a good idea to
put a slip of paper with the
recipient's name and ad
dress and your return ad
dress inside parcels, and be
sure the addressing on the
outside of the parcel in
cludes your return address <
and ZIP Code.
Customers are also re
minded to check the size of
their envelopes before
mailing Christmas and
other holiday cards. Letter
size standards require that
envelopes be at least 3'*
inches high and 5 inches
long to be accepted for
mailing.
The Postal Service is also
asking customers to put an
ounce of extra care into
preparing parcel post and
other packages for mail
ing. Parcels will arrive at
their intended destination
in good shape if mailers
will follow a few simple
suggestions:
CUSHION: Make sure
contents are well-cushion
ed and there is not empty
space in the box Use
crumpled newspaper
around the item - including
all sides, top and bottotn
Commercially available
foam sheets or air-pocket
padding also make good
cushioning materials.
HO NOT OVKKWKAP:
Just use your carton.
Brown paper and twine
cord are not necessary.
Paper can rip, and twine
can become entangled with
processing equipment.
SKA I, PROPERLY:
(’lose your parcel with one
of the three recommended
types of tape: pressure
sensitive, nylon-reinforced
kraft paper, or glass
reinforced pressure sen
sitive.
AVOID SMUDGES: Use
smudge-proof ink for your
addressing.
LOCATE ADDRESSES
PROPERLY : Put the reci
pient's address in the lower
right portion of the contain
er. Put your return address
in the upper left hand corn
er. Remove all other labels
from the box.
..USE ZIP CODES: Be
sure to include the ZIP
Code on both the recei
pient's and youf return
address.
TIME IT RIGHT: Mail
early in the month and
early in the day. This will
help you avoid the rush.
USE THE RIGHT
SERVICE: Irreplaceable
items, cash and other
valuables should be sent by
registered mail.
IF YOU RUN OUT OF
TIME: Priority Mail af
fords First-Class handling
for packages weighing over
12 ounces and up to 70
pounds Priority Mail can
be sent from any post of
fice, station or branch or
through rural carriers to
any address in the U.S.
Priority Mail can even be
used for foreign mailings.
The service is available
with insurance, return re
ceipt, COD, certificates of
mailing and special de
livery. Customers interest
ed in Priority Mail should
contact the post office for
details _
Women Treated For Depression Outnumber Men
By Kathy Bartlett
Special To The Post
. CHAPEL HILL - Women
are treated for depression
nearly twice as often as
men and the number of
cases probably will in
crease, given the social and
political climate in the
United States today, ac
cording to Dr. Elaine (Hil
berman) Carman, a psy
chiatrist at the School of
Medicine of the University
of North Carolina at Chapel
Hill.
Carmen said many of the
stresses that bring on de
pression in women can be
attributed to sexual stereo
typing and discrimination.
The solution, she said, is
to end inequality and dis
crimination based on race
and sex. “These are goals
which have been important
in Uie past but are receiv
ing less emphasis today.".
Carmen said. "Dismant
ling of affirmative action
programs, cutbacks in
social programs and re
strictions on abortions all
will have a negative ef
fect on women and their
mental health."
Carmen based her re
marks on a survey of li
terature on the subject,
which she reported in the
October issue of “The Ame
rican Journal of Psychia
try.”
“Psychiatrists often
state that depression is the
most common problem
they encounter,” Carmen
said. “One of the most
consistent findings is that
depression is closely asso
ciated with being female.”
Carmen said 20 to 30
percent of all women ex
perience depressive epi
sodes, often of moderate
severity, at some point
during their lives. “Biolo
gical, hormonal and gene
tic factors, as we under
stand them today, are not
enough to explain why
more women than men
experience depression,”
she explained.
ine excess ot psycho
logical symtoms in_ women
is not an inevitable part of
femaleness,” Carmen said,
“but is caused by the con
ditions of subordination
that characterize tradition
ai femaTe roles* A person's
external environment does
help create one’s inner life
and identity.”
Carmen said women are
born into a culture where
they are considered less
important, less competemt
and less powerful. “If you
try to break out of this
stereotype, you often don’t
get a lot of support.”
Women who are most
vulnerable to depression,
Carmen said, are married
women who have small
children and do not work
outside the home, and
young, poor women who
are raising a family alone.
“The husband is the per
son who is linked to the
world,” she explained.
“There is an unequal dis
tribution of power in most
families. The husband and
kids tend to get their needs
met and the wife is the one
who meets those needs.
Women are socialized only
too well to put other peo
ple’s needs before their
own.”
Carmen said families are
traditionally viewed as the
source of emotional sup
port for most women, yet
violence is said to occur in
50 percent of American
families. “Because of the
possibilities of spouse
abuse, child abuse, and
incest," she said, “the
most dangerous place to
live may be your own
home.”
Getting a job outside the
home helps, but is not al
ways the answer, Carmen
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said. “Women who work
may find another role that
gives them satisfaction but
often they wind up in dead
end, low-paying jobs. They
continue to be fully re
sponsible for everything
that happens at home.
They end up with two
full-time jobs."
In addition, she said,
there is a lot of sexual
discrimination and sexual
harassment connected with
working, which also can be
stressful.
■ There are estimates
that seven out of 10 women
will experience sexual
harassment on the job,”
Carmen said, “and many
women now are coming
forward to talk about both
psychological stress and
loss of income as they leave
jobs because they believe
there is no other solution.”
One way women deal
with being second-class ci
tizens, Carmen said, is to
develop a set of psycho
logical characteristics that
accommodate and please
men.
“Traits such as submis
siveness, helplessness,
weakness and compliance
have been encouraged in
women,” she said, “but
they are survival skills de
veloped by women to cope
with their powerlessness in
a man's world, not traits
women are born with.
“Processes that mental
health professionals consi
der desirable - for
example, a person’s direct
attempts to use all resourc
es to establish a grounded,
self-determined, inner
sense of self - are not
encouraged for women,"
Carmen said, if women
demonstrate these active
processes, they are likely
to experience negative and
contusing responses during
childhood and adult life.”
Carmen said even
mental health profession
als have trouble breaking
away from a stereotyped
image of how women
should behave and feel.
“Adjustment to traditional
roles is stressed and anger
in women is often labeled
as pathological rather than
understood as a conse
quence of a devalued posi
tion," she said. “In general
our culture and our psycho
logical theories have
viewed women's anger an
inappropriate except when
it is used in the service of
others, as in a lioness de
fending her cubs.
"Crying can often be an
indirect statement of anger
which is often misinter
preted as sadness. We just
don't recognize the rage
that's beneath the tears.”
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