t Dear Carole: .'•-'-v—
Another birthday just passed.
But this one was different I Just ■>•
^ched another decade ahd f’m
not quite sore of how I feel about
it Everywhere I look I keep “■
bearing Oat I should get rid of
my gray. Being young seems so
important to everyone. Bid I'
don’t want to feel guilty about
getthfg<dlder. In fact I think I
. look better, feel better and fcnow,. v
more now than I ever did when I *
was younger. Do you think that
growing older has to be a pro
blem?
L.N.
, Dear L.N.:
■ No, I don’t think that growing
older or aging has. to be a
problem. What matters, though,
is bow' you feel about growing
oiaer. -
Our society has taught us to
think of youth as being more
important than aging.-In other
countries, a positive value is
placed on aging. Aging is ap
preciatedas a process in whioha
person grows in wisdom, Ma
turity And grace.
graying bothers you, then
add color to your hair. But let
yottr decision be made in order to
v ptease yourself, not others. If
you can stay healthy, be interest
ing and remain active, then it
■ may be easier to accept growing^
older. Compare aghig to vintage
wine, and sotyHtiat older cab
meanheiter!^ .
Carole
Dear Carole:,
Our 17 year-okl rfanghtoi- has
been dating a seedy-looking
character. We can’t stand him.
He looks strange add acts
strange. We don’t know what our f
da ugh ter sees in him. We have
tried to tell her to pick friends
to. In
so-called, that ....
else wants. What can be do to
help her?
DewRJ.: ***'
tm There may not be much that
make her own choices of Meads.
You express straw feelings
about your daughters date. It is
^^ ^ be doeaa’t fit into
the kind of friendship choice that
Sp™ Tip
W1.1_ .... , . . ' dis-:
appointed in her choice.
However, if you say too much
to your daughter about this
person in whom she is interested,
she may feel pressure and begin
to resent ydhr opinion.
since you care about your
daughter, it is okay to toil her^
how yqu feel. Once you have
talked to her, back off and leave
her alone or she may turn com
. Pteteiy against you. There is a
change that yotir daughter’s
relationship with her date may
even though you
m^ay HOtJUce or agree with her
her choices and experience her
own consequences. .
*'} t Car®te i
Editor's Note: Carole B. Kicks is
an W.6W., A.C.S.W. social
worker. 8ke has a private prac
tice in Charlotte, N.C. as a
counselor. If you have personal
adjustment, parent-child or mar
riage problems that concern yon, £
write:
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