Opinions "Out And About”
What Are The Secrete, For A Good Marriage?
By Aadrey C. Lodato
Post Staff Writer
Although the divorce rate may
have stabilized in recent years,
marriages are still far more likely to
end in divorce now than they were at
an earlier time.
Undoubtedly, various sociological
factors come Into play that bring an
early demise to many marriages.
But what keeps some marriages
going while other flounder, even
though the problems facing one do
hot seem all that different from the
problems facing another? In short,
what makes for a good marriage?
Several area ministers and Others
were asked, “What makes a mar
riage work?” Here are their re
sponses. Oh, and if you know of a
couple who seems to have an
especially strong marriage, let us
know. Maybe they’d be willing to
share th^ir secret!
REV. C. E. DEWBERRY, pastor
of Gethsemane Baptist Church on
Dr. Carver Drive, has been mar
ried nearly 34 years. “I think that
when two people are in love, and join
together with God, and trust each
other, then they work together to
make a flood marriase
MARGARET DEWBERRY is
Rev. Dewberry’s wife. “The main
thing is love and trust, and then it
. takes patience. Yeu mot under
stand each other and share each
other’s troubles, sorrows, happi
ness, and joy. If you’re married to a
person, you know they’re there whan
you need them. AD marriages have
their ups and downs, but malm sure
you love a person dearly. You have
to give and you have to take.
Marriage is no bod of rosea, but I
wouldn't give anything for ihy mar
riage.”
BONNIE ALLEN has bean
married to minister Larry ABm for
13 years. For her, a good marriage is
based on "a stable relationship in
Jesus Christ. IfJesus is heed of your
life, Ife’ll be head of your hone and
allow a stable marriage to take
place. Outside of Christ, I don’t see
how a marriage can exist. There’s
been quite a big change since we
became Christians. There are al
ways problems that arise, but now
we take different avenues. You have
to stand onTlod’a word. If you’re in a
relationship and see no way out, then
you become duty bound to make it
work. God has set marriage to be a
permanent bond ”
DR. CLIFFORD JONES, pastor
of Friendship Baptist Church, 3301
Beatties Ford Rd., has been mar
ried to his wife, Brenda, for ltyears.
In his experience, “time to grow
together and understand each
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Women-Helping-Women: The
WomanReach Monthly Networking
J»ot Luck Supper will be held No
vember 12 (Tues.) from 64:30 p.m.
at the WomanReach Center. Bring a
dish and beverage to share, and a
friend!
June Kimmel will be sharing
her story of struggle and triumph.
The WomanReach Center is a
United Way Agency. The facilities
are handicapped accessible and
services are freely given and freely
received. For more information, call
a WomanReach peer counselor
Mon-Sat from 16-4 p.m. at 334-3614.
Damon Stinson
Damon Stinson, tenor, won the
North Carolina Music Teachers'
Association's Collegiate Artist
Award in Singing at the organiza
tion’s annual competition October 18
at the University of North Carolina
at Chapel Hill.
Stinson, who is a senior-psycho
logy major, minoring in music, is a
voice student of Performing Arts
associate professor Jane Dillard. He
lives at 6554-A Idlewild Road,
Charlotte.
Youth Appreciation
The Boulevard Homes 0*Mtfuni
ty will be sponsoring a Youth Ap
preciation night for the youth who
have given their time and talent to
, work in the neighborhood on Thurs
day, November 14 at 7 p.m. All
activities which will include presen
tations of certificates will occur at
the center
Second Ward Meetog
The Second Ward High School
national Alumni foundation-char
lotte chapter will hold their
monthly meeting at the Excelsior
Club, 921 Beatties Ford Rd on
Sunday, November 10 at * p.m
Health Career
A Health career awareness pro
gram will be held at Johnson C.
Smith University on Tuesday, No
vember 12. in room 107 of the Rufus
Perry Science Hall, beginning at 9
am.
Guest speaker for the program
will be Mrs. Julia Simmons, direc
tor of the Post Bacculaureate Li
beral Arts at Wayne State Uni
versity.
THE
“Our Name Say* It AIT
Rev. A. B. Sutton
.'‘Chemistry”
Rev. C. E. Dewberry
.“Traat each other”
other” is essential in making a
marriage work. Also needed is
“mutual understanding for each
other as individual persona, and yet
not allowing one’s individuality to
create a source of excessive con
filet for the marriage.” Dr. Jones
_ also cites “mutual sharing of our
selves and our possessions, will
ingness to talk during the tough
situations, and being able to apolo
gise and say Tm sorry.’”
Arthritis Group Session Set
Arthritis Patient Services will be
offering arthritis group sessions
each Monday morning at 10:00 and
each Tuesday evening at 7 at the
Community Health Services Build
ing, 1401 E. 7th St Psychothera
pist, Barbara Sen ter and Dr. R.
Gordon Sen ter will conduct the
seminar.
On Wednesday, November 13 at
noon there will be an Arthritis In-,
temct Luncheon Session at die
. Community Health building. Parti
cipants are asked to bring a bag
lunch and pre-registration ia
required.
The Arthritis Patient Services
Adult Support Group will meet on
Thursday, November 21 at the CHS
building. Ann Schaumberg will pre
sent a program entitled “What Does
Occupational Therapy Mean To the
Person With Arthritis?”
For Information on any of these
activities contact Shirley Rodgers at
375-0172.
MDA To Offer Free Flu Shots
The Southern Piedmont Chapter of
tbeMuscular Dystrophy Association
<MDA) is offering free anti-influ
enza inoculations again this year to
patients who have muscular dystro
phy or related neuromuscular dis
eases covered by the Association’s
programs, District Director,
Stephanie Phillips, announced.
Children and adults with neuro
muscular disorders are considered
at high risk of serious iBness of
infected with influenza viruses and
should receive flu shots awnniiiy u
medically prescribed, she added.
The Southern Piedmont Chapter of
the Association will pay for flu shots
for all patients it serves, whether
shots are administered by patients’
personal physicians or by physicians
at MDA clinics. ' .
MDA supports some 240 hospital
affiliated clinics throughout the
United States and in Puerto Rico. In
the Southern Piedmont area of the
MDA' clinic is located at Charlotte
Rehabilitation Hospital, 1100 Blythe
Blvd., Charlotte, North Carolina.
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REV A. B. SUTTON pastors
Ebenezer Baptist Church at 733 E.
Trade St. He and his wife Martha
have been married » years. He
explains what he tMftlfe makes a
marriage work. “I think chemJMty
is one thing. TtuS produces com
patibility, which give* two indivi
duals the ability to give and take,
and to relate with understanding.
Somewhere in compatibility, com
munication? and give and take, love
Is found. Love packages all of this
and, like a computer, works It out for
the two individuals.
“There are three lovea: phila
(brotherly love), (gape of
God), and eros (sexual joVo). I
believe this love philosophy is just
one tree upon which brandies hang.
Marriage is a voluntary thing, but if
people are to live togther, it be
comes a mandate in God’s sight.”
Student In Flay
Greensboro - Robin L. Monteith of
Charlotte has a major role in the
tragi-comedy, “Mournin’,” which is
being presented November 13-17 by
the Theatre of the University of
North Carolina at Greensboro.
Directed by Karma Ibeea-RHey, a
UNC-G assistant professor of
drama, "Mournin’” was written by
UNC-G drama graduate itnrtrwt
Carolyn Cole of Goldsboro. The play
focuses on the Fletchers, a fifth
generation black family living in
Newton Grove, N.C.
A sophomore majoring in drama
at UNC-G, Miss Monteith will
portrav Eula in the presentation. .
Small Business Big In USA 1
“Small Business Is Big In The
U S A." is the theme lor National
Small Business Week designated by
President Reagan from May 18
throyhM“E-h *«•
<to notetthe contil butioSof the na
and especially to honor small busi
ness persons who have excelled In
their enterprises and who have
made significant contributions to
their comm unites, ” Gary A. Keel,
Director of the SBA Office in
Charlotte said.
Amortff Hu arMwUal m
ordinated by the SBA Office of
Advocacy, the nation recognizes
outstanding small business owners
and operators for their personal
achievements and contributions to
the nation by nominating candidates
for State small business persons of
the year. These entrepreneurs are
then eligible for consideration for
the National Small Business Per
son of the Year Award presented in
Washington, DC during Sm«n
Business Week. State advocates of
the year are also recognized by each
State and considered for national
recognition in six areas of impor
tance to small business. These advo
cacy categories include accounting,
financial services, media, minority
entrepreneurship, veterans and T
women business ownership. Special
awards are also presented to a small
business exporter, a large business
that has supported small business, a
successful young entrepreneur and
an individual or a small btalnees
owner who has promoted innovative
technologies.
if you know of outstanding smalt |
business men and women or indi
viduate who deserve recognition for
their efforts tojwomote the interest
of small business, you are encou
raged to be a sponsor. Entrance for
state outstanding small ktisiness
awards will ha Judged on employ
ment growth, sales increase, finan
cial-improvements, innovative of
product or service, response to ad
versity, community contributions,
and the farms “staying power.”
Nominations for North Carolina
awards should be submitted to the
Charlotte District Office of SBA by
November is. 1965.
The SBA’s Office of Advocacy is
also supporting a contest to select
the 1966 National Small Business
Week poster. Students and profes
sional designers with graphic,
printing and advertising experience
are encouraged to enter the contest.
The $2,OQO contract for final pre
paration and design of the winning
poster will be awarded to the win
ning entry. Poster entries must be
submitted by December 20th to the
Office of Information Office of Ad
vocacy, U.S. Small Business Admin
istration, 1725 “I” Street, NW,
Washington, DC 26416.
For more information, contact the
Charlotte District office at 704
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