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■■WITH CAROLE B. RICKS ■ ': ■ ' -• ' ' i - J ^ Dear Carole, My gfrlWendJ^ckandl am white. We love each other deep ly. You may as well say we have 4 r grown up together because we hstfe gone to all the same schools^ Let’s say -my ^gW’s name is Sherri. Sherri and I have , lots of friends. Our love is no' ** secret to our friends. They accept us without apy; problem. The problem is my-jjarents. I never knew how narrow-minded and uptight my parents could he 1 until Sherri and I announced our kg J engagement. At least_’s ' * parents are trying hard to get used to the idea abqg tjs get ting married. But ra£ parent*: are having a hard time being understanding. I can’t believe' ' that they are the same two people who have swiaed mel To me it doesn’t make a dff- r$ ference about what race a person is.’If that person ha? S beau- /-, tiful spirit and a kind heart isn’t that all Chat matters? What should we do to make my parents change their thinking? B E. and “Sherri” Dear B.R. and Sherri; nyi Your love, a beautiful spirit and a kind heart are important to a relationship, those qualities of * character that are prized by both* of you will have to be strong enough to heto your confront biased attitudes existing hi so ciety. ^ - Your families are concerned about yoiH- maturity in dealing ’? with issues of racism that will penetrate the core of your love. If you Jggyo c€ source of your you may realize it is riiffcttH for them to change. Let your fami-.. lies know that you both love and fully accept each other and that you need their love and ac ceptance, too, as a family. Carole Dear Carole, I’m married to a man I’ve grown to hate. Friends tell me I’d be a fool to leave. I’ll confess, ■ : • said I should stay arc the same .'reasons why I have stayed this ■ longwitlrtfaat man One reteon is that he has really given me the “good life.” I have ap the: “things” a woman (Iwant. l eyen have his love. I just give him mine, second reason is that it , would be too messy to break up VJwth him. The longer I stay, though, the more confused I get. Sometimes I think I'd be better off leaving. At other times I ask myself if I must heep on living a y, lie just because I like the things l '*■' itauncQ ^ > .. :*r.\ • y Should I stay or should I leave? “Tom down the middle” ^ Dear lorn..., the decision to stay or leave i your marriage is yours. But first ^ consider the importance of honesty in any relationship. Be honest with yourself first by hot away from your true The things (material) own will not give you personal satisfaction if you. are : unhappy in most other areas of ■ f base so negative that yea dis like your husband as a person, you are being Unfair to him by : :fituying with him. A healthy relationship should Have mutual love as a founda . - don, not deceit. ■. •:/. /•,•••'• ;r Carole [^Editor’s Note: Carol? B Ricks, A.C.S.W., is a marriage U and family therapist with a pri vate practice in Charlotte, N.C. If you have personal, parent 1 child or marriage problems, write to: ' ) Carole’s Corner P. O. Box 37197v Charlotte, N.C. 28237 THANK YOU FOR READING THE POST IAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAaaAaaa a a a• a _ - - i *__ ftyta* T<* ’ hired as the porter for WBTV1 FVyborg. a native ot Eugene. Oregon, grad-, uated from Stanford Uai venrity in 1J73 with a BJL He cornea to WBTV .from WDBJ TV in Roanoke, Virginia, where he has been TTusliuita Reporter atoce Trptrmhw, MW. and prior to that a general assignment reporter. Earlier in Ms career, Erybarg was News Director for WROV Radfe in Roanoke. . . ; 7" . 2 *A
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