16A RELIGION/ The Charlotte Post January 25, 1996 Cremation nearly eelipses burial as funeral favorite THE ASSOCIATED PRESS TALLAHASSEE, Fla. - A famed Orlando fireworks artist told his family funerals are too morbid and burial too expensive and - like growing numbers of Floridians - asked to be cremated when he died. Most of those people won't have their ashes scattered in a Fourth of July blaze of glory like Vic Vickers, the owner of Animated Pyrotechnic Creations Fireworks who said, “You shouldn't have any dark sky." But they may have similar ideas about final resting places. “Both my parents decided cremation was the only way to go," said Vickers' son, Steve. ‘You're dead, you're gone, you move on to the next plane of existence." Cremation remains unpopu lar with Hispanics, who favor funerals, and with many blacks, whose churches teach that a body is necessary for resurrection on Judgement Day. “Some churches believe if you're cremated, you can't come forth from the grave. There's nothing to be resur rected,” said Elsie Hipps, Vickers' minister at the United Church of Religious Science. The Catholic Church removed its opposition to cre mation in 1963, and other denominations have followed. Among whites, the number of cremations reached 56,614 compared to 51,389 burials in 1994. Among non-whites, there were 13,122 burials and 2,046 cremations. Vickers was known for build ing Fourth of July fireworks at Lake Eola from a modest display 21 years ago to a traf fic-stopping extravaganza. “I see him at Lake Eola at the Fourth of July with tears in his eyes watching the finale go off," said his daughter, Valerie Engard. “No matter how many times he did the show, the finale was so close to his heart that he always cried." Vickers died Jan. 3 at age 74. On the Fourth of July, Steve Vickers plans to pack his father's ashes into an eight-inch diameter shell that will rocket 800 feet into the air. With a spray of sparks, a white flash and a boom that will thump in the chests of spectators, Vic Vickers will become a puff of white dust in the sky. Cremation cost $800, while a full burial with casket, ser vices, cemetery plot and mark er would have cost $12,000, Steve Vickers said. And though cremation was chosen only about one-fourth of the time in 1980, it has now become nearly as frequent as burial in Florida. By 1994, the most recent fig ure available, there were 64,511 burials and 58,660 cre mations in Florida. 9,000 Sq. Ft. 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Assembling an emergency wedding day fix-it kit to bring to the wedding site takes some time, but can be well worth the effort if accidents happen on the big day. “There are three main emer gency needs that can arise on the wedding day," said Everlyn Johnson, extension clothing specialist at Mississippi State University. “These include needs for quick fixes for wedding attire, first aid and makeup/' Assemble the kit in a box or bag and make sure it goes to the wedding site when you do. The kits can be personalized to meet any special needs the bride or groom may have. Johnson recommended the following items for last- minute wedding attire repairs: • To secure loose seams, beads or sequins, include safe ty pins, scissors, a needle and thread, matte finish clear tape, bobby pins and fabric glue. Bring extra buttons for suits and dresses if available. • For spots or spills on dresses or fabric shoes, include stain-covering chalk as a quick fix or a bottle of spot remover. • To prevent sagging bou tonnieres, corsages or ear rings, bring extra pins and earring backs. • To keep from slipping in new wedding shoes, bring a nail file or sandpaper to scuff the bottoms of the shoes. • For scuffs on men's shoes, add shoe polish to the kit, and bring a lint brush for suit jackets. • To touch up manicures and stop pantyhose runs, add clear nail polish to the kit. Johnson said the dresses of brides and bridesmaids likely will be made of delicate fab rics in colors that are easily stained. “Some wedding day stains come from water or other liq uids, which will cause many dyes to shift or spot; hairspray and perfume, which have high alcohol contents and can remove dyes; and makeup and deodorant stains," Johnson said. To prevent stains and spots, brides should bring a sheet, robe or large towel to drape across themselves before touching up makeup, using hairspray or having a pre wedding snack or beverage. “Having quick-fix items handy can save a panicked, time-consuming trip back home or to a grocery store," Johnson said. “In the rushed hours before a wedding, acci dents do happen, so be sure to add some first-aid items to the kit." Wedding day first aid sup plies should include medicines for headaches and nausea, antacids, breath mints, cough drops, plastic bandages, a Women of the world unite: Shopping, cooking no longer focus for all of us By Jim Shelton NEW HAVEN REGISTER NEW HAVEN, Conn. - Every Tuesday at the First Baptist Church, women of the world unite. They come from France, India, Jamaica and Peru. They come from Switzerland, Thailand and Poland, too. They also hail from Norway, Brazil, China and Turkey. They're Round-the-World Women, in name as well as in fact. “We have women from 23 different countries this year," says Pat Cavanaugh of Hamden, co-a coordinator of Round-the-World Women. The group is an all-volunteer organization, run through the International Center of New Haven, that helps women from foreign countries adjust to life in America. Help comes through weekly lectures, social gatherings, concerts and trips, as well as friend ship. “Before I joined I was very lonely," says Miki Ashizawa, who moved to New Haven about a year ago from Japan. Her husband is a chemist working in Trumbull. “I didn't have any friends here,” Ashizawa says. “My (realty agent) showed me the brochure of this group, and the people here have been very kind." This year is the 35th anniversary of Round-the- World Women, notes Patricia Pearson, executive director of the International Center. “It truly is international," Pearson says. “These women form a network to make their lives happier and more pleas ant and easier while they live here." Originally, the group was intended to help foreign-born wives of Yale students, faculty and staff. The name back then was Round-the-World Wives, and focused on such things as shopping and cooking. Today's version of the group also looks at such issues as educational opportunities for women, women's health and the role of women in society. “They've had to broaden their programs to be issue-ori ented and more provocative, not just be about flower arranging and food shopping and cooking," Pearson says. Still, members say cama raderie is still the primary mission of the group. “That's how we help each other the most. Getting through the practical, hard parts of life," says Cindi Meurice of Hamden. Her hus band is French and she joined the group two years ago because she understood the difficulties of moving to a for eign country. Myriam MacDowell of Woodbridge, another co-coor dinator of the group, under stands those difficulties also. “I'm a foreigner myself," MacDowell says. “I'm from Brazil. So I have that in com mon with the women each year. MacDowell says members of Round-the-World Women make emotional attachments that last many years. A group of former members from Japan, for example, has set up a Round-the-World Women chapter in Tokyo. Another example is Evelyn Kagagube, a Ugandan woman who was expecting her fourth child. Kagagube's husband had traveled to England for a job interview, but was unable • to get back into the United States and had to return to Uganda. When the Kagagubes' child was born, the baby was found to have a severe heart ail ment, requiring long-term hospital care. “She's such a brave woman," MacDowell says. "We offered her as much support as we could, bringing her food and staying with her." After many months, Round-the-World Women and the Red Cross established a fund that raised enough money to reunite the family. “She still keeps in touch with us," MacDowell says. Other success stories from Round-the-World Women are less dramatic, but no less important, members say. Elke Assfalg-Stoertkuhl, of Germany, says it means a lot to her not to be the only per son in the room who doesn't speak perfect English; Thailand native Walaiporn Black appreciates the chance to be around other young moms who are raising chil dren far from home. At Round-the-World Women's recent Christmas party, Ashizawa used her tal ents to entertain the group. She gave a flute concert. “It was my way to say, thank you," she said. r SUPPORT OUR ADVERTISERS small snack, tissues and eye drops. 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