4H"he Daily Tar HeelThursday, November 19, 1981
Where to turn for aid.
Student Health
Dealing with stress
Three 2 4 -hour Helplines deal with problems
By JKANNIK RKYNOLDS
DIH Slaff Wriler
Three 24-hour Helplines are available
in Orange County for almost any ques
tion or problem a woman might have.
The Orange County Women's Center, a
small, cottage-like . building on Rose
mary Street, houses four services for
area women.
Women's Health Counseling Service,
Orange County Rape Crisis Center and
the Orange Durham YWCA Coalition
for Battered Women are housed in the
Women's Center.
The Center itself offers a library re
ference service that assists 30 to 60 peo
ple a day, staff member Maye Hardin
said. (
Hardin said a major function of the
service was general referral and letting
people know where to go for legal,
medical and housing problems.
"The Center is two things," Hardin
said. "One, it is a service-provider or
ganization; and two, it is the place
where we all are the housing, phone
lines and meeting place.
"But it is not crisis-oriented like the
other three," she said.
The Center also offers a women's
library, educational counseling, sports
and a monthly bag lunch (every third
Wednesday of each month):
"An educational counselor is here
every Friday morning for a lunch-hour
seminar," Hardin said. "The counselor
can help with educational and career
needs, writing up a resume (and) things
like that."
The Women's Health Counseling
Service also offers information and
referrals on health issues. It is the only
service that will see clients at the Center,
Hardin said,
"The Women's Health Counseling
Service offers a vast array of services in
cluding pregnancy tests, counseling in
formation and support for the
women," she said.
Hardin said that they teach self
breast and even gynecological examina
tions. The Women's Health Library, pro
vided along with the counseling service,
has the latest information on pregnancy,
abortion, contraception and sexually
transmitted diseases.
Contacts for this and all of the ser
vices are kept confidential, Hardin said.
The Orange County Rape Crisis Cen
ter is on 24-hour call.
"We provide companion service to
victims of rape and to their families,"
she said. "Men who work with the pro
gram will meet with husbands and boy
friends to help them understand and
also to develop a skill level that will en
able them to give support to the
woman."
The Rape Crisis Service also helps out
in practical areas like providing child
care when a woman has to go to the
hospital, Hardin said.
Hardin said that though the service
didn't directly have anything to do with
convictions, they indirectly did as much
.i- tliov were able..
"Volunteers go to court with the vic
tims and act as advocates with police
and prosecutors," she said. "But the
service functions primarily as a support
service."
The fourth service, the OrangeDur
ham YWCA Coalition for Battered
Women, is also a 24-hour service.
"They provide a 24-hour advocate
service for women and families in phy
sical abuse," she said. "They offer tem
porary shelter for women and children
in a shelter home that just recently
opened here in Chapel Hill.
"They help women get out of the
house and then they work with law en
forcement' Hardin said.
In addition to normal services pro-.
vided by all four organizations, , the
WomenV Center also sponsors special
programs such as the Take Back the
Night, a rape awareness and prevention
program, and the Whole Birth Cata
logue, an eight-week series dealing with
pregnancy and parenthood.
The center is a non-profit organiza
tion totally supported by donations,
Hardin said. Anyone can become a
member with a donation of time or
money, and volunteers for each service
go through training programs to pre
pare them for the particular area of ser
vice they have chosen, she said.
Women's shelter offers safety and support
By SONYA WEAKLEY
DTH Staff Writer
The subject of domestic violence is not one that people
often like to discuss, but in Orange and. Durham counties
- there is a place where abuse is discussed and confronted and
where its victims ate helped.
It is the OrangeDurham YWCA Coalition for Battered
Women's shelter
The Coalition itself has existed for four years, helping
women who have been subjected to some kind of domestic
violence. It offered assistance and shelter to these women
and their children, but only for up to three nights at a time.
Since the shelter opened in October, the Coalition has been
able to offer women up to eight weeks of emergency housing.
"It gives a place of safety to these women," said Kathy
Wayland, assistant director of the Coalition. "Many are in
danger of their lives. It gives them a reflective, supportive at
mosphere. They can talk, find alternatives and learn that
they don't just have to put up with it."
The shelter, a 10-room house with five bedrooms in
Chapel Hill, also houses any one else who needs temporary
housing. This housing is available 8 p.m. to 8 a.m. for up to
three nights. ; "
Any woman who has been subjected to violence by her
husband or boyfriend is welcome at the shelter. The shelter
may be used by women who have decided to separate from
their spouses, but who lack family or friends in the area to
stay with and the resources to establish a residence of their
own. These women can use the shelter while looking for a
job, finding housing and making childcare arrangements, she
said.
Children are also welcome at the shelter. Women who have
several children and cannot stay with family or friends may
use the shelter. Some women may be in an exceptionally
dangerous marital situation, and family or friends may be
afraid to provide housing. These women may also stay at the
shelter.
The shelter has no guards, but Wayland said she felt it was
as safe a refuge as possible.
When a woman is admitted to the shelter, she must sign a
form agreeing not to disclose the location of the house or the
phone number. If she wishes to meet with her husband, she is
asked not to do it there.
The shelter is staffed by a part-time coordinator, night and
weekend house managers, two students from area social pro
grams and one student from the department of psychiatry at
the UNC School of Medicine.
Services offered at the shelter include counseling, legal ad
vising, education about domestic violence and assistance
with short-and long-term plans.
The shelter receives more than 100 calls about domestic
violence every m6nth and provides services to an average of
70 persons a month. "
The house used for the shelter was donated to the Coali
tion by the board of Access Inc. when Access went out of
business and donated its assets to non-profit organizations.
In July 1981, the Coalition was funded by the city of
Durham, Durham County, Durham United Way, Orange
County,, the town of Chapel Hill and Chapel HillCarrboro
United Fund. The Adele M. Thomas Foundation then do
nated $5,000 to cover the costs of repairs and renovations. "
To be referred to the house, a person who needs help
should call Helpline in Orange County at 929-0479 in Chapel
Hill or 732-2796 in Hillsborough, or ; Hassle House in
Durham at 688-4353.
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Editor's note: This column, sponsored by
the health educators at Student Health
Services, answers students' questions
about any aspect of health or preventive
medicine. Questions can be submitted to
The Daily Tar Heel office or the Health
Education Suite of SHS or be phoned into
966-2281, ext. 275.
Q. Many times I find myself tense and
anxious about school or my friends.
These feeling have never been a problem,
but is there anything I can do if they get
out of hand?
A. Tension and anxiety are a natural part
of our lives. They give us the ability to deal
with stressful or crisis situations. But at
times we can become overburdened with
these feelings.
The National Mental Health Associa
tion says that certain things can be done
during those times to overcome such feel
ings. As they say, "Success will not come
from a half-hearted effort. Nor will it
.come overnight. It will take determina
tion, persistence and time."
Talk it out. When something worries
you, talk it out. Confide your worry to
some level-headed person you can trust.
Work off your anger. Pitch into some
physical activity to help relieve some of
the pent-up energy.
Escape for a while. Sometimes, when
things go wrong, it helps to escape from a
painful problem for a while. Lose
yourself in a movie, book, game or brief
trip for a change of scene. '
Give in occasionally. Frequent quar
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defiant. If you occasionally yield, you
will find that others will too.
. .
Do something for other people. If
you feel yourself worrying about yourself
all the time, try doing something else for
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. Take one thing at a time. Take a few of
the most urgent tasks one at a time, setting
aside lower priorities for the time being.
Shun the "supermanwoman" image.
Trying for perfection in everything is an
open invitation to failure; decide which
things you do well, and focus your efforts
on these.
Schedule your recreation. Recrea
tion is essential for good" mental and
physical health.
If these suggestions are not helpful,
consider seeing someone at Mental
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services offer a number of individual and
group opportunities for stress manage
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Some former air controllers are also
working for the now-defunct union.
The administration has proposed a '50
percent pay hike for the former PATCO
members who remained on the job and
did not join the strike, Lavey said, adding
that the raise was not considered a bribe
to resist the strike.
"They deserve (the raise)," Lavey said. dont exist
J'Were.reggning the service they pro
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trollers being rehired by the government
to their old jobs were nearly non-existent.
"The government is not going to rehire
them," Lavey said, echoing the offficial
Reagan administration policy in handling
the strikers. "They (PATCO members)
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