Newspapers / Daily Tar Heel (Chapel … / April 6, 1984, edition 1 / Page 3
Part of Daily Tar Heel (Chapel Hill, N.C.) / About this page
This page has errors
The date, title, or page description is wrong
This page has harmful content
This page contains sensitive or offensive material
Homosexuals need support By KEVIN WASHINGTON Staff Writer Gay men and lesbians living in a homophobic society are particularly in need of support systems and must build them from scratch, Dr. Lou Sawyer said in a workshop on intimate relationships for homosexuals Tues day night. As a part of Gay Awareness week the Association of Women Students and the Campus Gay Association sponsored the workshop held in the Union. Sawyer is a psychologist in private practice at the Androgyny Center in Raleigh, a feminist and gay counseling service. Sawyer said psychologists, psychiatrists, and counselors often had no training in dealing with gay clients, thus there is no one for homosexuals to turn to when they have problems in intimate relation ships. "Since we began putting on workshops like this, professionals have become more and more open to the treatment of gay and lesbian peo ple," Sawyer said. Sawyer's workshop primarily focus ed on intimate relationships with a special emphasis on homosexual rela tionships, but she said the model and rules for relationships transcended sexual preference. "Relationships are important to all of us we deal with people at work and our families," she said, "and rela tionships are created. They are not magically there." Sawyer said that in her personal ex periences, going to gay and lesbian gatherings to find suitable partners was a shot in the dark. She said it was less of a problem for a homosexual to find a partner as he or she becomes comfortable and visible as a homosexual. Partners in a relationship should be concerned with three basic factors in a relationship, Sawyer said. These are environmental supports and stresses, what the partners bring to the rela-. tionship, and how they put the rela tionship together. The partners in a relationship bring a number of different skills and assets into a relationship. In gay and lesbian relationships, "partners come in various stages of being out . of the closet and feeling good about it," Sawyer said. "It makes a difference if one partner is an activist and the other is not out of the closet." Sets of values and beliefs are also part of the baggage people bring into relationships, Sawyer said. "For ex ample, one of the beliefs common in the gay and lesbian community is that relationships don't last. That is not necessarily true, Sawyer said. Relationships go through three stages, according to Sawyer. "Stage I is the falling in love stage; it's becom ing involved in the first place," she said. "Stage II is the critial stage which develops after a few weeks to a few months," Sawyer said. In stage II, the partners of the relationship begin to doubt that they are right for each other because they have stopped idealizing their partners as they did in stage I, she explained. "Stage III is the maintaining and reevaluating stage where the partners must keep figuring out new problems like those in stage II," Sawyer said. The difference between stage II and III is that the partners have come to' realistically deal with the problems they face together, she said. Sawyer said partners in a relation ship may be in different stages and fre quently the stages overlap. However, once both partners reach stage III, they can experience the feeling of fall ing in love over and over again. Friday, April 6, 1984The Daily Tar Heel3 3$3 GRAND OPENING m m m O O i i Restaurant &Bar Prime Rib, Sauteed Seafood, Lobster Tails, Lamb Chops, Chicken and Veal, plus a delightful Sunday Brunch 10:30-2:00. Serving dinner nightly from 6:00 pm, reservations sug gested. Happy Hour 4:30-6:30. ABC Permits and extensive wine list. Your First Choice is The Last Resort 942-5757 157 East Rosemary St.. Chapel Hill 3 I Student, local organizations sponsor charity events By MELISSA HOLLAND Stiff Writer A brickthrowing tournament to benefit the American Cancer Society will begin Saturday and Sunday. Organized by the Interfraternity Coun cil, the event is in conjunction with Na tional Cancer Awareness Month. The contest involves shooting bricks in to a basketball net, and players compete as they would in a game of Horse with a basketball. The tournament ends April 14-15 and the overall winner will play Matt Doher- ty. In addition, prizes will be awarded for the most participants from a single organization and for the highest percen tage of participants from a group. Prizes include dinner for two at the Carolina Coffee Shop, an AIWA por table stereo, two Domino's Pizzaparties and 500 frisbees. The cost for each participant is $2 and groups should arrange their own competi tions in time to send an individual winner to Carmiclfael Auditorium April 14. All proceeds go to the American Cancer Society and more information is available from Will Conner at 929-3381 or Reid Turner at 942-6686. The Cystic Fibrosis Run or Walk-a-thon has been moved from March 31 to April 15. Sponsored by Domino's Pizza and McDonald's, the event will be held on the UNC track at 2 p.m. Daugherty case charges dropped From staff reports Charges againsyUNC basketball player Brad Daugherty were dismissed in district court Thursday morning after an agree ment was reached through the Orange County Dispute Settlement Center. Daugherty, a sophomore from Black Mountain, was charged with attempting to damage personal property and disorderly conduct after Douglas Wayne Goodwin of Apex accused Daugherty of throwing candy at his car while Goodwin and his wife were parked in Granville Towers Jan. 14. The case was referred to the Dispute Settlement Center on March 1. The center is a private, non-profit organiza tion that tries to mediate some cases. hearings UNC Student Government Student Services Committee, Chapel Hill Parks and Recreation and Alpha Phi Omega are helping with the event, and interested students should pick up sponsor sheets in Suite C of the Carolina Union. A grand prize of one year's pizza will be awarded to the person who has col lected the most money from sponsors, and several other prizes have been donated by area merchants. For more information, contact Vic Dogette at 933-5 1 29 or 962-5200. From page 1 Monday is last day for voters to register budget down as much as possible while still enabling the service to run efficiently because he understood Student Govern ment's financial position. "We're a really low budget organiza tion to start out with for the services we provide," Seven said. Newman said RAPE was an important organization to fund. "If one rape a year is saved, it's worth the money we can put into it, but we also have to be fiscally responsible," Newman said. "I want this program to continue and I want it to be full-force, but we have to be responsible while doing that." JOS JACKSON'S 0 Universal music that sSiliiiiiiB J i defies conventional classification. O The new album. Uniquely Joe Jackson. LP or tape. Through May 2nd. For anyone who wants to vote in the May 8 N.C. primary, Monday is the last day to register. Caroline Griffin of the Orange County Board of Elections said in order to vote in the May primary, citizens must register by 5 p.m. Monday. Those interested can register at the municipal building and public library in Chapel Hill and Town Hall in Carrboro from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. weekdays. The RnarH rf Flection ako will be holding voter registration at University Mall Saturday from noon to 4 p.m. A voter registration drive sponsored by several campus organizations ended Thursday, Griffin said, so students no longer have the chance to register on cam pus. , ' The registration drive was sponsored by Student Government, the UNC Young Democrats, Campus Y, the Black Stu dent Movement and UNC with Hart. The Daily Tar Heel UNC's student newspaper ROCK THE CASBAH with TONIGHT 8:00 pm CARMICHAEL TICKETS 11.50 Gen. Adm. on Sale at Union Box Office FOXCROFT APARTMENTS OPEN HOUSE Spend the summer at Foxcrof t and save $200 or more in rent. Rent reduction on specified one and two bedroom apartments with $100 Rental Rebate in June and July. Sat., April 7 Student Open House 11-4 pm Foxcroft Apartments 929-0389 RALEIGH WOMEN'S HEALTH ORGANIZATION ABORTIONS UP TO 12 WEEKS $195.00 FROM 13-14 WEEKS $300.00 15-16 WEEKS $400.00 Pregnancy Tests Birth Control Problem Pregnancy Counseling For Further Information Call 832-0535 or 1-800-532-5384 917 West Morgan St. Raleigh, N.C. 27605 Get set to get wet... at the funniest, raciest, wildest white-water raft race ever! -ft . a SAMUEL Z. ARKOFFLOUIS S. ARKOFF Production "UP THE CREEK" TIM MATHESON DAN MONAHAN STEPHEN FURST - JEFF EAST SANDY HELBERG BLAINE NOVAK JAMES B. SIKKING introdudngJENNIFER RUNYON. Special Appearance by JOHN HILLERMAN Music Score by WILLIAM GOLDSTEIN Screenplay by JIM KOUF Story by JIM KOUF and JEFF SHERMAN& DOUGLAS GROSSMAN Executive Producers LOUIS S. ARKOFF SAMUEL Z. ARKOFF Produced by MICHAEL L. MEIIZER Directed by ROBERT BUTLER Soundtrack available on PashaCBS Records Produced by SPENCER PROFFER I Color by Deluxe" R MTMCTD IWMI IT WOVKHI KCCMTM OPENS FRIDAY, APRIL 6 AT A THEATRE NEAR YOU. Li a a, . m- m jm jf nii it km r - If x (m tl llfK. V ti t t
Daily Tar Heel (Chapel Hill, N.C.)
Standardized title groups preceding, succeeding, and alternate titles together.
April 6, 1984, edition 1
3
Click "Submit" to request a review of this page. NCDHC staff will check .
0 / 75