4The Daily Tar HeelThursday. November 14 1985
WEEK'
Billy Price and the Keystone Rhythm Band will
perform at Cat's Cradle. Call 967-9053 for more
information.
WEDNESDAY
Michael Hedges, guitar, and Liz Story,
XUpiano, will perform at 8 p.m. in Memorial Hall.
UNC Jazz Combo will perform at 7:30 p.m. in
107 Hill Hall.
Robert A.M. Stern will speak on post-modern
architecture at 8 p.m. in Hanes Art Center
Auditorium.
Blind Date will perform at Cat's Cradle. Call 967
9053 for more information.
The Pratie Heads will perform at 8:30 p.m. at
the Community Church. Call 383-8952 for ticket
information.
The Family Motto: If You Love 'Em, TeB 'Em
will be performed by Libby Freeh and puppets
through Saturday at University Mall.
Montegoes and Raging Fire will perform at Cat's
Cradle. Call 967-9053 for more information.
SATURDAY
- sparling will be shown at 7 and 9:30 p.m. in
XOthe Union Auditorium.
Knucklebone will be performed by Transactors
at 2 p.m. at the ArtSchool. Call 929-2896 for more
information. .
Psycho Daisies and Chosen Few will perform at
Cat's Cradle. Call 967-9053 for more information.
SUNDAY
nThe Sorrow and the Pity will be shown at
6 p.m. in the Union Auditorium.
Nora will be performed by the UNC Lab Theatre
through Monday at 4 and 8 p.m. in 06 Graham
Memorial Hall.
Readings by writer Lucy Daniels and poet Charles
E. Eaton will begin at 4 p.m. at the ArtSchool.
Chuck Davis African-American Dance Ensemble
will perform at 5 p.m. in Great Hall.
UNC Glee Clubs will perform at 4 p.m. at
University Presbyterian Church.
Chamber Music Concert will begin at 1:30 p.m.
at the ArtSchool. Call 929-2896 for more
information.
George McGovern will speak at 8 p.m. in
Memorial Hall.
UNC Jazz Band will perform at 7 p.m. at the
ArtSchool. Call 929-2896 for more information.
MONDAY
Varsity I Kiss of the Spider Woman at 2: 1 5, 4:30,
7:15 and 9:30.
Varsity II Plenty at 2, 4: 1 5, 7, and 9: 1 5.
Varsity Lateshows--Am of the Spider Woman
and Fright Night at 1 1 :45 Friday and Saturday.
Carolina Blue Jagged Edge at 7 and 9:15.
Carolina White Target at 2, 4.30, 7 and 9:30
today; at 7 and 9:30 starting Friday. Rainbow Brite
starts Friday at 1:30, 3:30 and 5:30.
Carolina Classic West Side Story at 2:30 ends
today. Casablanca starts Friday at 2 and 4.
Carolina Lateshows Lost in America at 11:30
and Sleeper at 1 1:45 Friday and Saturday.
Ram That was Then, This is Now at 7 and
9: 1 0; weekend matinees at 2 and 4: 1 0.
Ram II Agnes of God at 7 and 9; weekend
matinees at 2 and 4.
Ram III Joey at 7:05 and 9:05 ends today. Grace
Quigley starts Friday at 7:05 and 9:05; weekend
matinees at 2:05 and 4:05.
Ram Lateshows An Officer and a Gentleman
and Star Trek III: In Search of S pock at 1 1 :45 Friday
and Saturday.
Compiled by Elizabeth Ellen, arts editor.
TODAY
ArtSchool. Call 929-2896 for ticket information.
Return of the Comet will run through Monday
at the Morehead Planetarium. Call 962-1248 for
more information.
Concert of Medieval Music will begin at 8 p.m.
in Gerrard Hall. Call 962-201 5 for more information.
Works by Hunter C. Levinsohn and Vernessa
Riley-Foelix will be displayed through Dec. I at
Center Gallery.
The Flies and Dash Rip Rock will perform at
Cat's Cradle. Call 967-9053 for more information.
"t A The Loneliness of the l.ong-Distance Runner
X Iwill be shown ui 7 and f .M) p.m. in the I'nion
Auditorium.
The Storm will be performed by Play Makers
Repertory Company through Friday at 8 p.m., on
Saturday at 4 and 8 p.m.. tonight, on Sunday at
2 and 7 p.m.. and on Tuesday and Wednesday at
8 p.m. in Paul Green Theatre. Call Q62-1 121. for
ticket information.
Stone and Steel will be performed by UNC
Interpretors' Theatre through Friday at 8 p.m. in
203 Bingham.
Mame will be performed by the Chapel Hill High
School drama department through Friday at 8 p.m.
and on Saturday at 2 and 8 p.m. at Chapel Hill
High School. Call 967-0578 for ticket information.
The Lady from Dubuque will be performed by
Actor's Co-Op through Saturday at 8 p.m. at the
MOVIES
FRIDAY
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John Hartford will perform at 8 p.m. in Paul
Green Theatre. Call 962-1121 for ticket
Plaza lKrush Groove at 3:20 and 7:20 today;
at 3 and 7:20 starting Friday. Death Wish 3 at 5:20
and 9:20 ends today. To Live and Die in L-A. starts
Friday at 5 and 9:20.
Plaza II To Live and Die in L.A. at 3, 5, 7:30
and 9:45 today. Once Bitten starts Friday at 3:30,
5:30, 7:30 and 9:30.
Plaza III Bring on the Night at 3:05, 5:15, 7:25
and 9:35.
-j Adventures of Buckaroo Banzai will be shown
X Jat 4:30. 7 and 9:30 p.m. and midnight in the
Union Auditorium. Call 962-2285 for ticket
information.
Carol Fredette and David Frishberg will perform
at 8 p.m. in Memorial Hall. Call 962-1449 for ticket
information.
information.
TUESDAY
"I ftUNC Faculty Woodwind Quintet will perform
Xat 8 p.m. in Hill Hall Auditorium.
The Star of Bethlehem begins at the Morehead
Planetarium.
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By TARA REINHART
Staff Writer
You're in love and you want to get
married, but you're still in school. Do
you say "I do," or do you wait until
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including 1,316 men and 1,435 women
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other marriages, both partners attend
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Health Division of Student Health
Services.
Most couples want to be autonom
ous, rather than depend on family or
financial aid for income, he said. Others
wait until they have prepared for their
careers and obtained steady jobs.
One such couple, Nancy Chang and
Shih-Fong Chao, will not marry until
both finish school. Chang said she and .
her fiance then would have more time
and money to start a family.
Partners often feel uncertain about
their emotions and relationships, Rein
hold said. Some believe they should be
independent in college, he said.
"Others are ready for marriage, and
it's a plus while they're in school,"
Reinhold said.
Cindy Nichols and Steve Elderkin
have dated seven years and plan to wed
next semester. Although they consi
dered marriage two years ago, they
decided not to take their vows until
Elderkin secured a job, Nichols said.
Elderkin is an engineer with Mitsubishi.
Nichols, a second-year dental stu
dent, said her studies prevented her
from seeing her fiance on weekdays.
Marriage, she said, will give them more
time together.
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still training for their careers. Although
they are married, Malone-Trahey said,
she and her husband see each other an
average of four hours a day.
A third-year dental student, Malone
Trahey spends nine hours a day on
campus, then studies at night.
Trahey is a resident doctor at Duke
University Medical Center. He is on call
every third evening and often spends
nights as well as days at the hospital.
The couple dated six years and
wedded more than a year ago. They did
not want to marry until both had
decided career goals, Malone-Trahey
said. "When you're this far along in grad
school, you're pretty dedicated to your
career, and goals are set."
Remaining single until after under
graduate school gave Malone-Trahey
and her husband time to mature, she
said. Now they think less about them
selves as individuals and concentrate
more on their relationship, she said.
Malone-Trahey said married life
helped her studies. The Chapel Hill
social life she remembers from her
undergraduate days does not distract
her, she said. The time she and her
friends once spent "looking for Mr.
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Trahey 's residency pay is the couple's
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Reinhold said financial worries were
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Another inevitable difficulty comes
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and attitudes. These differences, Rein
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Another universal difficulty in mar
riage and any other relationship
occurs when one or both people
discover they need space, autonomy and
individuality, Reinhold said.
If spouses spend even a short time
apart, he explained, one of them may
enjoy the freedom. Problems begin
when that partner tries to attain more
independence without harming the
relationship.
Some problems occur to some extent
in all marriages. But the affect of these
and other difficulties married couples
encounter "vary from person to person,
couple to couple," Reinhold said.
Scott and Laura Stowe, graduate and
undergraduate students respectively,
decided to marry before either finished
school. They took their vows four days
before the fall semester began.
"It seemed like the right time for us,"
Mrs. Stowe said. She will receive her
anthropology bachelor's degree in
December. Stowe, a teacher's assistant
in Russian, is taking graduate courses.
He said he hoped to earn a degree in
Slavic languages.
Both hold part-time jobs. Stowe
works weekends at the Bulls Head
Bookshop and at a Sherwin Williams
store. Mrs. Stowe is a lab assistant at
the Alumni Building anthropology
research laboratory.
"It's really not that difficult money
wise," Stowe said.
The couple registered a year in
advance for Student Family Housing,
where rent and utility expenses are less
than those of off-campus accommoda
tions, Stowe said. The Stowes pay $212
a month for rent and paid about $30
last month for power, he said.
Stowe said jobs and classes limited
free time. Because he teaches and works
part time, Stowe said, "There isn't really
any social life."
Mrs. Stowe added, "We're more or
less homebodies anyway."
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