10The Daily Tar Heel Tuesday, April 5, 1988
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96 th year of editorial freedom
Jean Lutes, Editor
Kathy Peters, Managing Editor
Karen Bell, Xeus Editor
MATT BlVENS, Associate FMtor
KlMBERLY EDENS, University Editor
SHARON KEBSCHULL, State and National Editor
MIKE BERARDINO, Sports Editor
Kelly Rhodes, Arts Editor
MANDY SPENCE, Design Editor
JON RUST, Managing Editor
KAARIN TlSUE, Neus Editor
AMY HAMILTON, Associate Editor
KRISTEN GARDNER, University Editor
Will Lingo, aty Editor
LEIGH ANN McDONALD, Features Editor
CATHY McHUGH, Omnibus Editor
DAVID MINTON, Photography Editor
Help fund child care project
Today, you can use your meal card
for more than buying a cup of coffee.
Marriott dining service and a new
student organization formed to pro
mote child care in North Carolina are
joining forces this week to support a
lobbying effort to increase funding for
day-care projects. Your meal card is
the key to aiding this effort. Using your
card, you can request that any amount
of money be transferred from your
account with Marriott to the student
group, the N.C. Child Care and
Neglect Project.
The project, headed by two UNC
students, needs the money to launch
a campaign to convince North Carol
ina legislators that child care is worth
supporting. The money raised this
week will be used to finance the
lobbying effort.
The need for such a lobbvine effort
is great. The statistics in support of
child care are shocking. According to
former Gov. Dick Riley of South
Carolina, 40 percent of all lower
income children without any preschool
education fail first grade. Others fall
through the cracks on their way
through elementary school. Fre
quently, the children come from single
parent homes, and they become teen
age parents, the unemployed and the
poor of tomorrow. A cycle of impov
erishment is established and repeated.
Child care provides vital encourage
ment and education for children, and
can help them break out of that cycle.
The money spent on child care by
the state or federal government is not
"lost forever" or wasted in bureau
cratic management. According to the
N.C. Child Care and Neglect Project,
preschool and day-care programs
result in a higher graduation rate and
decrease the teen pregnancy rate by
half.
And the fiscally conscious among
us should be overjoyed to hear that
for every dollar spent in child care,
seven are returned.
The General Assembly should listen
and respond to concerns about child
care project. However, legislators must
be educated about these concerns
before they can address them.
Through the N.C. Child Care and
Neglect Project, we can voice our
support of child care. Marriott and the
students involved in the project should
be commended for their efforts to help
children across this state.
But the project can't succeed with
out the monetary support we can
provide here, now with our meal
cards. Stuart Hathaway
Sensationalism doesn't wort
It was frightening. It was upsetting.
It was tacky.
"It was the National Enquirer does
Easter," one witness said.
Wednesday, the InterVarsity Chris
tian Fellowship sponsored a mock
crucifixion. A student representing
Jesus Christ carried a wooden cross
from the Old Well to the Pit. Students
posing as his persecutors acted out
nailing Christ to the cross, and placed
a crown of pull-tabs on his head.
Watchers winced with every thud of
the hammer and every cry of "Crucify
him!" Some cried. Others shouted
indignantly. But few were unmoved.
The goal of IVCF's program was
to make Jesus Christ a campus issue,
and thereno doubt the group had
everyone talking. Unfortunately, talk
centered less on religious issues and
more on the performance itself.
A parallel can be drawn between the
IVCF performance and the much
maligned CIA protesters. Both groups
seek recognition of an issue be it
Christianity or human rights viola
tions and both used attention
grabbing techniques to gain that
recognition.
Yet campus debate swirls not
around the existence of God or CIA
atrocities, but around the sensational
actions of IVCF and .the CIA Action
Committee. In one way, the groups
succeeded: some people did think
about Jesus and or the CIA as a result
of their actions.
But in another sense, the groups
failed. The most heated debate cen
tered around their methods and the
groups themselves, diverting attention
from the issues they intended to
promote.
The tackiness of the IVCF perfor
mance a Christ-figure in white
tennis shorts roped to a cross by
"Romans" in black T-shirts and
aviator sunglasses was the topic of
the day. The sensationalism of the
scene served only to trivialize its
message.
And although the crucifixion was
acted out in excruciating detail, the
following resurrection which many
would argue is the true meaning of
Easter was left out. According to
Todd Hahn, president of the Gran
ville Off-Campus chapter of IVCF,
this was due to time constraints. To
balance this oversight, Cliffe Knechtle
spoke afterward on the resurrection
and Christianity. But for people who
saw the crucifixion, anything that
came after could only be anti
climactic. IVCF representatives might answer
that such complaints are negligible,
since the event achieved its goal by
raising awareness. But in the end,
sensationalism only centers attention
around the actors.
When student groups plan
attention-grabbing events, they should
make sure they're drawing attention
to the issues, rather than becoming the
issue themselves. Matt Bivens
p-Qip-n-Save
"Look out guys! Campus tour coming!"
Joe Stud announced with glee. "High school
babespotential freshwomen! Hubba
Hubba . . ."
Stud raced to his room, throwing off his
Wild Pizza T-shirt and donning flip-flops,
jams, mirror sunglasses and a Pi Kappa
Phi Burnout T-shirt.
"Guys, didn' ya hear?" he shouted again
out the door, as he judiciously tossed slices
of cold pizza and empty beer cans around
the room.
When he got no response from his
hallmates, he realized he was the only cool
one left. "I guess it's up to me to impress
all the new wenches!"
("Knock yourself out," someone shouted
sarcastically from down the hall.)
After popping Club Nouveau's "Lean on
Me" into his tape deck, Stud opened his
door wide and began writing messages to
himself on the topless back of the girl on
his memo board.
The messages from Blair, Roxanne
and Madison were about "all the fun
we had at He's Not," "how great it was
to see you at the house" and "what a blast
well have at Springfest." When he was
finished, Stud grabbed a book (to look
deep) and a beer (to look casual), and sat
on the windowsill. Soon, the tour came
by. The high school seniors looked up in
awe. Some grinned, but hastily looked away I
under their parent's stern glare. Others I
nudged each other and giggled. I
Stud nonchalantly glanced up, smiled I
and waved. The girls blushed and tittered. I
("Ooohh, he's a college guy") I
"Hey, you wanna come on up and see
my loft?" Stud offered generously. The
bored tour guide gladly ushered the whole
group up to Stud's room.
In gentlemanly deference to the parents, j
Stud turned his stereo down to a whisper
(with a conspiratorial wink at the j
youngsters).
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guy is cool!"
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freshman) replied with a paternal smile. S
"Which means next year, when you're both !
freshmen, 111 be a senior." ,
"Oh," they sighed in unison, leaning on i
each other for support. !
Soon, the tour left. The kids all whispered I
excitedly among themselves, while the I
parents walked in silence with little I
preoccupied frowns. j
And the admissions office struggled to I
handle the growing flood of applications. I
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re have an understanding, the girl
and 1.
Her bedroom window is iust
across the alley from mine. Squatting on
my windowsill, I could spring across the
narrow space, fly over the gravel two
stories below, crash through her window
and roll off her bed. Broken glass glittering
on her pillow.
The temptation is very great.
We have silently agreed to avert our eyes,
to turn our backs. She used to undress
in the far corner of her room, away from
the window, half-hidden behind a chest of
drawers, quickly grabbing a robe, hurrying
out of the room to the shower. I did the
same, pressed up against the wall behind
the tall bookcase, struggling out of my
pants, crawling across the floor in search
of my towel.
Why didnt we draw the shades? I don't
know, except that to do so would be a
prudish retreat, an admission that despite
our weak attempts at sexual enlighten
ment, we remain uptight about bodies and
sex and flesh. To draw the shade would
be a surrender, not to each other so much
as to guilt and an apple eaten a million
years ago.
And so the understanding was reached.
We allow ourselves to be free within our
rooms. I sit on my sofa, reading a novel,
while she undresses quickly and simply 20
feet away. I could lift my eyes from the
page and admire her smooth hip or the
curve of her breast, but I do not. I stare
intently at the paragraph, reading it over
and over again if necessary. When she has
slipped into a robe and left the room, I
look up, stretch my neck, take a sip of
water. She returns to her room, hair wet;
I return to my book, eyes fixed.
Or she writes a letter, chewing on
the pen, scribbling a few lines at a time.
Two windows away I change out of my
shorts and T-shirt. She leans forward,
examining her last sentence, while I pull
Brian McCuskey
In the Funhouse
on my jeans.
We have hazy naked visions of each
other, flesh caught in peripheral vision, but
our eyes never stray from the book or letter.
Except once.
One very late and slightly drunken
evening I came home and flopped onto
the bed in my room without turning on
the light. My clothes smelled of beer and
cigarette smoke, and I sat up to open the
window for some fresh air.
She was standing naked by the window,
staring up at the sky, almost silhouetted
by the soft yellow light behind her. Her
face was dark, the curves of her shoulders
and hips glowing. She stepped back into
the room and her body lit up. This time
I did not look down at my book or turn
away to search through my closet. I could
only keep staring. The alcohol is too easy
an excuse I just wanted to see her.
But she saw my pale face staring openly
in the dark window, and as her face turned
red with embarrassment or anger or both,
she pulled the shade shut.
My face was hot, my stomach nauseous.
I watched the light around the edge of the
shade, light which dimmed and brightened
again as she moved around the room. I
waited for her to raise the shade, to call
across the alley and say it was all right,
such things happen, and I would explain
that it wasn't lust or voyeurism, just
curiosity and perhaps even admiration. She
would laugh and I would laugh and the
understanding would be reached again and
we'd go back to our books and letters and
cautious eyes.
But the light went out, and I was left
with the sick feeling of betrayal in my head
and heart. The delicate trust was gone, and
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Then, the rationalizations began. Maybe
it's better this way, with the shades drawn.
We no longer need to keep our eyes in
check. We can dance naked on our beds
singing hallelujah if we want. And besides,
what's the big deal? If she cant deal with
her own body, then that's her problem.
With our windows open all the time, we're
bound to see each other naked occasion
ally. She was the one who had succumbed
to modesty, not me.
But I hadn't just seen; I had stared. Lying
there in the dark, I began to understand
what I had to do.
The next evening her shade was up, but
the room was dark. I stood by my window,
waiting for her to come home, and tried
to calm my nerves.
Half an hour later she entered the room
and flipped the lights on. Seeing me in the
window, she moved toward the shade, but
I held up my hand and shook my head.
She frowned, but stopped by the window
I quickly pulled off my shirt, jeans and
underwear, and stood naked in the
window. She stared at me, shocked. I
shrugged and smiled weakly. She grinned
while I pulled my jeans back on. I put
on my shirt and she, laughing a little,
turned away from the window.
But she left the shade up.
We are once again free in our rooms
the trust regained. I carefully read and
reread a difficult passage in my political
science text while she changes into evening
clothes and goes out for dinner. She adjusts
a painting over her desk while I change
into shorts for a tennis game. We are
careful with our eyes again. We have an
understanding, the girl and I.
But the temptation is very great.
Brian McCuskey is a junior English
major from Los Angeles.
Readers5 Forum
Thank you for
your support
To the editor:
On behalf of the Lineberger
Cancer Research Center, I
would like to thank the men
and women of the Interfrater
nity and Panhellenic Councils
for their fund-raising activities
during last week's Greek Week.
It is especially meaningful to
have such significant support
from UNC students for a UNC
institution.
The future of cancer research
is with the young people attend
ing universities such as the
University of North Carolina.
We appreciate your energy,
interest and support.
JOSEPH PAGANO
Director
Lineberger Cancer
Research Center
Step shows
rude, vulgar
To the editor:
As residents of Morrison
Residence Hall, we are tired of
the constant raucousness of
certain black fraternities. At
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Morrison, quiet hours are in
effect from 9 p.m. to 9 a.m.,
and courtesy hours are effective
24 hours a day. These black
fraternities are clearly violating
our rights as Morrison resi
dents by performing their
antics during prime study
hours. Not only are they loud
and annoying during their "step
shows" and "marches," they are
also quite vulgar and obscene.
In the past, these same fra
ternities have claimed that
white people don't understand
that their values lie in disturb
ing people who came to this
University to study.
We propose that these black
fraternities contain their esca
pades to non-residential areas
of campus. We do not appre
ciate their activities and will not
condone them any longer.
KEVIN SISSON
Freshman
Business Administration
PHILLIP THOMPSON
Sophomore
Geography
Communicate to combat date rape
Trior a college woman. raDe can be
M especially frightening because of
JLL high incidences of date and acquain
tance rape on university camnnsps
Acquaintance rape is forced, manipulated
or coerced sexual intercourse by a friend
or acquaintance. Often referred to as "date
rape," many of these rapes take place
within the context of dating. Studies show
that one in four college women have been
victims of rape or attempted rape, and 84
percent of their assailants were dating
partners or acquaintances. First-year
students are especially vulnerable. The
same study found that one in four college
men admitted to having used sexual
aggression with women.
No simple cause or solution to date rape
exists, but miscommunication is a very
important and often overlooked contribut
ing factor. In our culture we are not taught
how to talk about sex, even if we want
to. Our parents, peers, teachers and the
media all raise us to believe that sex is
something that just happens and always
works out right. Unfortunately, we must
deal with the realities that these groups
never address openly: personal struggles
over when to have sex for the first time,
decisions about birth control, fear of AIDS
and sexually transmitted diseases, knowl
edge of individual sexual desires and limits
and the risk of telling someone else about
those feelings and thoughts. These issues
and many others are part of sex. Conse
quently, sex is about communication as
well as physical satisfaction and emotional
closeness. Sex without communication can
trigger rape.
Because we never learn how to commun
icate, especially with members of the
opposite sex, we depend on unreliable
tactics when engaging in heterosexual
sexual relationships. Instead of talking
about sex, we use stereotypes, peer pressure
and flirting to communicate our sexual
desires. We must move past these modes
of relating that obscure communication
and honesty to develop a language and
Lauren Lindsey
Rape Awareness
a climate in which we can discuss sex
respectfully and sensitively.
Since our society doesn't encourage
open communication, each individual must
take responsibility for speaking and acting
with complete honesty and for allowing
another person to do the same. A com
mitment to open communication involves
unlearning ingrained behaviors, some of
which will be as simple as overturning
myths and refusing to make assumptions.
Others will be more difficult, striking out
against basic precepts that society sets out
as "roles" in male-female relationships of
any kind. The American College Health
Association suggests the following behav
ior modifications.
For Women:
Know your sexual desires and limits
believe in your right to set those limits;
if at any point you feel uncomfortable or
unsure, stop and talk about it;
Communicate your desires and limits
clearly be direct and firm;
Be assertive;
B Be aware of non-verbal communica
tion nothing you may do, say, wear,
etc. can ever make you responsible for
unwanted sexual aggression; nevertheless,
non-verbal cues do carry messages;
B Trust your intuitions; and
Avoid excessive use of alcohol and
drugs both can interfere with clear
thinking and communication.
For Men:
b Know your sexual desires and limits
be aware of social pressures and
expectations;
B Communicate your desires and limits
clearly;
B Listen and understand what is being
communicated women who say "no"
to sex are not rejecting you personally, they
are expressing their desire not to partic
ipate in a single act;
B Accept the woman's decision "No"
means only that; it is the women's
responsibility to communicate other
meanings, and you are always responsible
for your actions;
B Don't assume that previous permis
sion for sexual contact applies to the
current situation; and
B If you feel you are getting mixed
signals, ask for clarification.
In order to establish real communica
tion, we must move beyond these basics.
We must teach children that talking about
sex is always okay. As soon as that dialogue
begins we must not only explain "the birds
and the bees" but we must also break down
unhealthy sex roles and create models in
which no single sex or individual bears the
burden of aggressor or recipient. From
infancy, boys and girls must experience
each other as playmates and friends,
without sexual overtones. All too often,
when 5-year-old John has 4-year-old Lisa
as a friend, parents and friends tease him
about his "girlfriend." We need to learn
how to be comfortable with members of
the opposite sex, as playmates, friends, co
workers, and, if we then choose, as sexual
partners.
Because few of us were raised in this
way, we must begin the long process of
unlearning our unhealthy ways of mis- and
non-communication. People must refuse to
take roles and assumptions for granted and
should voice their praise, concern, happ
iness, discomfort, desires and limits. When
we encourage others to do the same, we
will be well on the road to creating a
healthier, more loving society, one that is
working toward the elimination of date and
acquaintance rape.
Lauren Lindsey is a senior East Asian
Studies major from Bethesda, Md.