- Engagements
Altha - Rogers
LEICESTER Pamela
Fay* Altha of West Fork.
Ait., aad Jerry Don Roger* of
Latceafar were married Fri
day. Nov. V.
Given in marriage by her
parenta, the bride is the
daughter of Mr. and Mrs.
Jasper Atha of West Fork.
The ceremony took place in
the home at the bridegroom's
parents, Mr. and Mrs. Glenn
Rogers of Leicester. His
father was best man.
Matron of honor was Carol
Leigh Pooder of Chapel Hill.
A reception followed.
The bride has a bachelor's
degree in dance education
from the University of Arkan
sas and is employed as a
dance instructor at Bounds
Dance Studio in Chapel Hill.
The bridegroom is a
graduate of Western Carolina
University with a bachelor's
degree and is employed by
Stephen's.. .After All supper
club in Chapel Hill.
5 The couple will live in
j Chapel Hill.
| Weeks - Sams
LEICESTER - Karen
j Lucille Weeks of Asheville and
Frank Dennis Sam* of
Leicester were married at 3
pjn. Saturday, Nov. 2S, in
Western Chapel United
Methodist Church.
Performing the ceremony
were the Rev. Ray Himes and
the bride's father. She ia the
daughter of the Rev. and Mrs
Thomas W. Weeks of
Asheville. Her father gave her
in marriage.
Mr. and Mrs. Prank Sams of
Leicester are parents of the
bridegroom.
The bride's sister, Mary
Susan Weeks of Asheville, was
maid of honor.
Ronnie Cantrell of Leicester
was best man.
Ushers were Staff Sgt.
Theodore M. Sutton of Shaw
Air Force Base, S.C., brother
in-law of the bride, and Tom
my King of Leicester.
A reception was held.
The bride is a 1961 graduate
of Erwin High School.
The bridegroom graduated
in 1*77 from Erwin High
School and is employed by
Carolina Battery Co. in
Candler.
Sprinkle, Cosby
Mr. and Mrs. James H.
Sprinkle of Marshall have an
neunced the engagement of
their daughter, Sabra Louise,
to Jeffery Allen Croaby of Del
Rio, Texas.
Mr. and Mrs. Alfred E.
Croahy of Indian Harbour
Beach, Via., are parents at the
future bridegroopi.
The bride-elect is a 1M0
graduate of Mars Hill College
and is an employee of Touche
Roas ft Co. of Asheville.
A I960 graduate of the
University of Florida at
Gainesville, Crosby is an Air
Force lieutenant in pilot train
ing at Laughlin Air Force
Base in Del Rio.
The couple will be married
at 7 p.m. Dec. 27 in Marshall
Presbyterian Church.
Galloway, Harrell
Susan Renee Galloway will
be married to PFC Richard E.
(Ricky) Harrell in a 7 p.m.
ceremony on Friday Dec. 4 at
the Madison Seminary Baptist
Church in Marshall. The Rev.
David Clark will conduct the
ceremony.
The bride-elect is the
daughter of Martha Jo
Galloway of Weaverville.
The future bridegroom is
the son of Mr. and Mrs. Walter
R. HarreU of Marshall
Music will be presented by
Mrs. Donna Ward.
The bride will be given in
marriage by her brother,
Gregg Galloway.
All friends and relatives are
cordially invited to attend.
A reception will be held in
the church fellowship building
following the ceremony.
Roberto,
Patterson
WEAVER VILLE - Mr. and
Mrs. Staley P. Roberts Jr. of
Weaverville have announced
the engagement of their
daughter, Madekn Dean, to
Thomas Talmadge Patterson
III, son of Mr. and Mrs.
Thomas T. Patterson Jr. of
Charlotte.
The bride-elect and future
bridegroom attend the Univer
sity of North Carolina at
Charlotte.
A May 22 wedding is plann
ed.
\
{Happiness Can't Depend On Others
i By CARL MUMPOWEE
M.8.W.
Once upon a time, in a
< kingdom of long ago, there liv
ed a prince and a beautiful
* young maiden. After many
trials and tribulations, the
% details of which I won't go in
to, this prince and young
; maiden were finally joined in
f holy matrimony and rode off
into the sunset together on a
I white charger. Presumably to
live happily ever after. He,
? assuming responsibility for
? her happiness and well being,
^and she for his.
l Sounds wonderful and
famiUikr, doesn't it? There s a
problem/however, in that this
?.story is a fairy tylie, ahd fairy
tales and real life don't have a
great deal in common.
The foundation of the fairy
tale I've mentioned is the
assumption that one person
can assume responsibility for
the happiness of another. It's
an assumption that many of us
practice in our own mar
riages.
Unfortunately, it's an illu
sion to believe that anyone,
regardless of the depth of their
love, quality of their
character, or intensity of their
motivation can make anyone
happy. That's a power that
none of us possess.
Yes, I know you're probably
asking yourself why should
people get married. I'm also
It's Christmas Again
At Historic Sites
Smells of pine and cedar,
sights of boxwood, holly and
' garlands ? all in the glow of
_? candlelight ? it's Christinas
again at two nearby state
- historic sites.
Period decorations of the
1830s era ? about the time
' Gov. Zebul on B. Vance was
i growing up in the house near
jf Weaverville ? will be
i highlights of the Sunday, Dec.
13 open house celebration.
, From 1-5 p.m. staff members
will guide visitors around the
restored Vance farmstead,
which includes the five-room
" log house and outbuildings,
V loom, spring, tool and smoke
i- houses, slave cabin and corn
crib. A candlelight tour will
^foOow, S-7 p.m.
Admission is free.
Vance Birthplace State
Historic Site is located near
Weaverville, off U.S. 19-23 and
five miles east on Reems
Creek Road.
The 28-room Victorian boar
dinghouse, once run by the
mother of novelist Thomas
Wolfe and immortalized in his
novel "Look Homeward
Angel," will hold open house
on Sunday, Dec. IS, 1-5 p.m.
Staff and volunteers will guide
visitors through the house
decorated in the early 20th
century period.
Admission is free.
Wolfe Memorial State
Historic Site is located at 48
Spruce St., Asheville.
aware that most ot what you
watch on TV, the movies you
see, and the books you read
tend to sell that theme active
ly. Nonetheless, I'm going
ahead and try to change your
mind.
For starters, how many peo
ple do you know who have the
power to seek and find hap
piness in their own lives? It
doesn't take a whole lot of
genius to realize that happy
people are all to few and far
between. If that's true, where
do we get off thinking that peo
ple who can't even pull off
happiness in their own lives
have the power and ability to
build it, with any perma nance,
in others?
We don't, and even /hough
we may be able to pull it off for
a short time, lasting happiness
through another is impossible
to maintain.
There's another reason it
won't work. When you and I
were born, we were born
alone. When you and I die, we
will die alone. There's no one
who can assume our major
life's responsibilities, like the
one of working toward hap
piness, and do a good job of it.
You are the only one who is
you, knows you, and can meet
the needs of the person inside
you.
I don't mean to paint a total
ly negative picture. Other peo
ple can enhance the quality of
your life, they can make it
more fun, and they can help
you in building your hap
piness.
That stuff about "I'll die
without you," or "You owe me
happiness because you're my
wife," though is about as
leaky as you can get. No one
owes you any happiness but
you.
Once you make up your
mind on this one, you can quit
dumping unreasonable expec
tations on people that are im
possible to fulfill and get on
with the business of running
your own life. To do otherwise
is kind of like chasing the pot
of gold at the end at the rain
bow. You'll get lots of oppor
tunity to search and draitm,
but not very much opportunity
to spend...
Monday - Friday
Hot Springs Health Program, Inc.
MR. AND MRS. BUREN H. PRICE of Black
Mountain will be honored with a reception on
their 60th wedding anniversary Sunday, Dec.
13, from 2 to 4 p.m. in the Fellowship Hall of
Grove Stone Baptist Church on Craigmont
Road in Black Mountain. Mr. Price is a
retired farmer from Madison County. He and
his wife have made their home in Black
Mountain for the last 10 years. They were
married on Dec. 14, 1981. Their children are
Hilliard Price of Black Mountain ; Annie L.
Reese^eof Morgan ton; and Grace Hyde of
Clinton, Tenn. ; seven grandchildren and four
great grandchildren. All friends and
relatives are invited. They request that gifts
be omitted.
McFall Couple
Mr. and Mrs. Paul R.
McFall of Hot Springs will
celebrate their SOth wedding
anniversary with a reception
Sunday, Dec. 6 (Tom 2 to 4 p.m.
in the fellowship hall of the
Hdt Springs First Baptist
Church. All friends and
relatives are invited. The
reception will be given by
their son, Jerry T. McFall of
Clyde. Mr. and Mrs. McFall
were married Dec. 5, 1181.
Babies Learn Early
By Sense Of Touch
One of the earliest way* of
of touch.
Growing Child, ? monthly
child development newsletter,
reports that long after a baby j
has gained control of her eyes
? at about four months ? and
has begun to learn through i
them, she will continue to i
learn by holding, touching,
handling and mouthing ob
jects.
The world Is full of many
things which have different (
"feels." One of a child's i
earliest ways of learning t
about what is "out there" is <
through touching and being t
touched.
The idea that some things
are the "same" aixTsome are '
"different" is one of the most
basic of all early learnings.
One way to help a child learn
more about the "same and dif
ferent" is to give her many op
portunities to feel all those in
teresting "feels" in the world
out there.
The active, even fussy, baby
never lacks for stimulation of
lifting and handling. However,
the placid, or "good" baby
may be deprived of stimula
tion because she never makes
Executive Mansion
To Open For Visitors
The Victorian Executive
Mansion, home for North
Carolina's governors since
MM, will again be open for
holiday visitors this year.
North Carolina's "First
House" on Raleigh's Blount
Street will display its
Christinas trim for four days
during the week of Dec. 14-20.
Decorations for the public
rooms are being prepared by
the Raleigh Garden Club with
the help of Mansion Social
Director Suzanne Hedrick and
the mansion staff.
Regular guided tours will
not be given during the open
house hours because of the g
heavy visitation expected,
although hostesses will be sta- J
tioned in each room to answer
questions concerning the
house and decorations.
To make plans for large
groups, call the Capital Area
Visitor Center at (919)
733-3456. Otherwise, reserva
tions are not necessary.
Schedule is as follows:
Monday, Dec. 14: 10:30 a.m.
to 5:30 p.m.
Tuesday, Dec. IS: 10:30a.m.
to 5:30 p.m.
Saturday, Dec. 19: 10:30
a.m. to 5:30 p.m.
Himiik on her parents.
All babiea, active or placid,
can benefit from gentle
stimulation. Before her bath,
place your baby on ber
stomach gently stroke and
rub her back, arma, and legs
with your hand. Pat her gently
all over or tap her with your
fingertips. Sometimes rub her
gently with something soft and
velvety. A piece of soft cor
duroy is excellent.
After bath, don't Just pat her
try. Rub her arma, legs,
itomach and back with a soft
owe!. Kiss her head, hands,
eet. Play with her toes as you
alk to her. Pat her feet
together. Make bubbling noiae
against the skin in the hollow
of her neck.
A ticklish baby is often
hypersensitive to touch
because she has not had
enough stimulation of her
sense of touch. If your baby is
ticklish, begin by using her
)wn hands to rub and pat her
jody. As she learns to trust
ler own touch, you can
gradually begin using your
>wn hand.
Remember, too, that a very
ight touch is more "tickly"
han a firmer touch. A gentle
xit firm touch with the whole
>alm of your hand is less apt
o "tickle" than a feather-like
itroking with the tips of your
ingers.
Be careful to proceed
:autiously with a ticklish
?aby. Watch her face and be
ensitive to her responses, and
rou will be able to develop nor
nal sensation.
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