Perspectives
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Children do not deserve to be abused. . . so don't :
3 trust you all had a lovely Kas
tflj^The season is so joyous with
the rebirth of spring coinciding
with the celebration of the resur
rection of Christ. It's really like ?
Christian new year, as we remem
ber the historic and spiritual signif
i&fee of the rising of our King,
and set out with renewed faith and
trust to serve Him.
At bur Palm Sunday program at
Hertford Methodist, there were so
many children singing praises with
sdch innocence and faith, trusting
that vies us really did die for them,
thai 'my heart was full The beauty
of. their music was appreciated, ol
cOtirse, but it was the beauty ot
their hearts and minds that stood
out!
Were they stood, listening to the
words of the scriptures, saying,
"Suffer the little children to conic
urtto me ; and forbid them not."
Suffer the little children. Ah, how
appropriate a time for such a
statement. For while I know the
scriptures did not mean that littU
children should suffer, they do To
remind of us that fact. April is
ghfld Abuse Prevention Month
? I shudder when I think of our na
tion's children being burned,
l^ten, locked up, tortured, s? \
uaHy assaulted and killed Talcs ol
henror fill our newspapers, radio
c$id television broadcasts.
Sunday's DAILY ADVANCE:
carried an AP story about a man in
Charlotte charged with raping his
four-month-old daughter. Can you
imagine that? I will not elaborate
on the verv un-Christian punish
ment I would propose for him.
We cannot sit back and allow
people to do this to their children.
Do not feel that it is not your busi
ness what someone else does to
their children. IT IS YOUR BUSI
NESS IF YOU KNOW ABOUT
CHILD ABUSE! Report it, for
heaven sakes. Call Social Services,
a local law enforcement agency,
the child's school; but please don't
sit around thinking about it and
doing nothing.
And if you're a child abuser,
please seek help. Your worst crime
is realizing that you're in dire need
of I "lii and not seeking that assis
tance There are agencies designed
to help you deal with your situa
tion. For the sake of that beautiful
little human being God entrusted to
your care, CAN THE PRIDE AND
CET HELP!
Physical abuse is much easier to
recognise than verbal abuse. Do
you say to your child, "You're so
Mupi'l ?" Why can't you make all
. t's like so-and-so?" "You're
I id"' That is just as destructive to
* our child as beating him.
What did your child do that pro
voked you to call him stupid? Fail
a test, knock over a glass of milk?
Have you ever done those things?
Are you stupid because of it? NO!
Don't expect perfection from a
child. A child is a human being, not
a machine. As long as we're hu
man, we're going to make mis
takes, and so are our children.
If your child fails a test, ask
some questions before you begin
your name-calling tirade. Did the
child get enough sleep the night be
fore the test? Was the child feeling
well? Was there any trouble at
home or school that might have up
set the child that day? Any of these
circumstances can cause a child
not to perform up to par on a given
day. But that doesn't mean the
child is stupid.
So your child usually makes A's
and made a C. So what? It's not a
crime. Ask the child why he thinks
he performed poorly. Maybe
there's a reason. Maybe he just
had a bad day. Don't berate him.
Try to help him so that he'll do bet
Spring traditionally brings snow to county
iYESTERYEAK On March 29,
1923 the tugboat Julian J. Fleet
wood sank in the North River in
Currituck County with loss of life.
Hie tugboat "Julian" hat! pre
v|oysly been owned by the Fleet
wood-Jackson Lumber Company <it
Hertford Later the tug was I
aftd operated by the Richmond 1 1
dar. Works of Norfolk
JThe "Julian" was eruoute from
ftorfolk, Va. to Alligator in Tyrrell
County to load logs. As the tug \va:
niaring the mouth of tlx North
RJver just before entering the Al
baniarle Sound, the tug was struck
bj 4 heavy gale and capsized
J^aur of the crew members froze
to death as they were clinging to
tlie pilot house structure. The four
were: Captain Clyde Walker, white
male age 45; First Mate William
Gray, white male age 73; deckhand
Vfcrtion Lee, male age 21 ; and
Garland Chance, black male age
37. Five surviving crew members
wfere rescued by the steam vessel
A(uiie L. VaScriver operated b\
Captain J.M. Richardson of Eliza
beta City.
The tugboat "Julian" was towing
twj "barges and one scow as she en
countered the heavy gale and high
stjjis from the Albemarle Sound.
?Information sources "The In
da|>endent" newspaper file dated
MJjrch 30, 1921. Mrs. Hannah Fleet
wgod Holmes and Cecil E. Rich
awlson, Jr.)
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Slarch 24, 1940. . . Easter Sun
da J. . . seven inches of snow on
ground. ... On that day, March
24(h, Mrs. Sidney (Vera) Brough
toB's house at 24 Grubb Street
caught fire about 6:30 p.m. Sidney
CAtoII (Bigman) Broughton and
Julian Harold (Littleman) B rough
to? were only 14 years old at the
time. What an experience thev
MB!
J remember the first wl i tie
bowing as my father, a fire
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tighter, was responding. From my
home on Dobbs Street, I could see
the lire flames from the Broughton
house reflecting on the snow some
four blocks away. This large
wooden structure was the first
Bapti I parsonage in Hertford.
Tin- responding lire fighters had
i.'ii in? difficulty in driving the
in c truck to the fire, according to
drive William F. (Willie) Ainsley.
It was also difficult for the fireman
to move tire hose due to the snow
and ice. The building was heavily
damaged, but saved by the Hert
loid fiie fighters.
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March 1942. . .Mrs. Hannah
Holmes remembers the large 10
inch snow that stopped all opera
tion^ at the Harvey Point Naval Air
Station, as a family of service per
sonnel lived in her house at that
time.
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On April 2, 1915. . high winds,
driving rain and on Saturday April
;s. a heavy snow fell. . .Does this
sound familiar even now in 1989?
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(The following stories were
taken Irom the diary of James V.
" Jimmy ' Keenan, who was a cafe
and short order cook for years in
Hertford Permission was given to
me by Hannah Stephens Shannon
hou ; of Elizabeth City, niece of
Mr Keenan, to use information
from his diary.)
March 31, 1936. . Jimmy Keenan
moved a small wooden diner (6Vfe
feet by 16 feet) from the 73 Church
Street location (this lot was soon to
be the site of the new State Theatre
Building in 1937) to a site next to
Tom Perry's Service Station on
Edenton Road Street. (This loca
tion was across the street from the
Perquimans High School. . .now
the Trailway Bus Station operated
by "Littleman" Broughton.) The
short order grill was named "The
Midget" probably after Mr. Kee
nan who was a man of very short
stature, but tall on cooking ability
and helping people.
Other entries in Mr. Keenan's di
ary included. . .Thomas Perry, Jr.
fell off of a horse and cut his eye
requiring three stitches to close.
This happened on March 2, 1938.
William O. "Red" Elliott left the
employment at the Tom Perry
Service Station on February 27,
1940, and began working at the One
Stop Service Station on February
28, 1940. (Note: "Red" Elliott
never was one for laying out of
work!!)
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ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS:
Does a banana breath? Yes. . .ba
nanas take oxygen and emit car
bon dioxide thus generating it's
own heat for the ripening process.
(Don't ask me how, Elenora, I read
it in a book.)
The reason there is no "J" Street
in Washington, D.C. is because one
of the designers of Washington. .
Pierre L'Enfant. . .did not like
John Jay, the first Supreme Court
Chief Justice in 1791, when streets
were being assigned, in Washing
ton. However, Mrs. Helen Shaw,
now a Hertford resident, but a for
mer resident of Washington, D.C.,
told me there is a "J" Street in
northeast Washington.
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QUESTION: What is the tallest
masonary (stone) structure on
earth, and how tall is it? (CLUE:
Located in the USA and only some
250 miles from Hertford.)
you earn it, Uncle Sam wants it!
m ' Taxing time
JThe Internal Revenue Service is
ne -lint. . .always in your pocket.
IJs taxing time again, and if you
Ave' not already paid in full, you
ypll, soon enough. As the deadline
fir filing taxes draws nearer, most
[u^ hug our purses and pout But,
Jwpn't do any good. The frderal
vernment has no trouble what
? in drawing blood from a tur
don't have much to say today,
ice the IRS knocked the wind out
[ my sails recently, I've just been
"ting along, unable and uncar
It always take me a while to
? the sail and catch the breeze
Again once the great giant of a
storm has ripped it to shreds. So, if
flsound a bit out of it today, I am
^The evil form 1040 serves double
S. says one man. He believes it
i a unique form of self-destruc
. First, the form sorely taxed
ome, and then it taxed his
i of deduction. His two-year
[ son swallowed some coins and
I a great deal of prolonged
stress. The doctors couldn't help
e poor child, so the man took him
the Internal Revenue Service.
They didn't have any problem at
all
People owe it to themselves to
become as successful as possible.
Once they've finally become suc
cessful, they owe it to the IRS. I
work 80 hours a week to be as pro
ductive as I can. and as successful
as I can. And, I also like the money.
But, after taking a long look at my
schedule. I've come to the conclu
sion that I would probably be iust
as well off, financially, if I worked
only half that much. As a taxpayer,
I am someone who doesn't have to
take a civil service exam to work
for the government.
If money is the root of all evil,
then income tax is the weed killer.
Not only can we not take it with us,
we can't keep it while we're here
either. The more you make, the
more they'll take. Sometimes it
hardly seems worth the effort. Re
member those posters that said,
"Uncle Sam wants YOU?" Well,
now they read, "Uncle Sam wants
YOURS."
When 1 think of the Internal Rev
enue Service, my mind, at the
same time, projects the image of a
bird. We should strive harder to
protect our birds. The dove brings
us peace. The stork brings us tax
exemptions.
Still, with all the hate I have for
the governmental branch called
the IRS, I suppose I have at least
one good thing to say about paying
taxes. I don't like it, but I try to
console myself with the thought
that paying income tax is a small
price to bear for the freedom of liv
ing in a country where I can out
right attack the government by
writing far from agreeable opin
ions of its practices and not be
thrown in jail for it, or worse.
So. much as I hate to say it, I'd
rather be taxed than tried for my
opinion on being taxed. But I'm
still not having a good day.
Horn our reader
gear Editor:
Z I am concerned as a citizen, busil
owner and tax payer over
issues that are before this
nunity today, and about how
are being handled by the
ed officials in whom we have
t oar trust and confidence.
J I was shocked at the response
and*coraments by county commis
aooers to the three residents that
appraached them about a county
wide police force.
Combining our law enforcement
agencies is an extremely serious
consideration and should not be
jumped upon so quickly without ex
tensive investigation and a lot of
thought.
The effects of such a merger
should be thoroughly examined
and all implications of such a move
considered. For example: 1) who
benefits, 2) who answers to whom
about its policies and operations, 3)
are the people and businesses in
town still willing to pay "double
taxes" for possibly less protection,
4) are county individuals and busi
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nesses willing to pay "double
taxes" (or at least an increase) for
more protection, and S) the list
could go on and on.
One rationale by the commis
sioners for the merger of the two
departments is that the two don't
work well together. The concerns
of the town and county commis
sioners should be "why?" or
"What is causing that situation?",
not what they can do to eliminate
an entire department. A system of
SnMmt, pagaS
ter next time.
"I wish you were never born" is
probably the most destructive
thing you can say to your child. To
my Knowledge, there's never been
a child bom that asked to be born.
YOU made the decision to have
your child. Or if you didn't make a
conscious decision, it was still your
action, not your child's, that
brought him into this world. If you
wish he were never born, blame
yourself, not him. He probably
wishes he was never born either af
ter you finish with him.
There's a big difference in say
ing, "You're bad," and "What you
did was bad." Preserve their sense
of self-worth. Think about what you
say to your child.
Children have rights and feel
ings, too. They have a right to be
raised in a home with loving par
ents who care about their welfare.
They have a right to be properly
nourished and to be kept clean.
They have a right to be told they're
special. They have a right to be re
spected as human beings.
Treat your children as you would
if you had company all the time, or
like you knew that today would be
your last day on earth They de
serve it.
Jesus was a lover of children, He
knew their needs. He paid attention
to them.
In the New Testament letters, we
find not only that children should
respect and obey their parents, but
parents should not provoke their
children to anger by nagging or
constant scolding. If you don't be
lieve me, pull out your Bible and
read it. It's in the sixth chapter of
Ephesians.
I've heard the spare the rod and
spoil the child bit for too long. You
can prove or disprove just about
anything you want taking a few
verses of the Bible out of context.
Read the whole story and put it to
gether.
There should be a loving and re
spectful two-way relationship be
tween parents and their children.
The decline of the American
family has been blamed by some
on the decline of our moral and
Christian values and lifestyles.
This may or may not be true. I've
heard of cases where "good, righ
teous, Christian" people have be
rated, beaten and miserably
abused their children citing Bibli
cal references as excuses. Perhaps
they didn't read Ephesians.
There are no excuses for child
abuse. If they make you made
enough to spit, go outside and spit.
If you feel like you need to scream,
go somewhere and scream. If you
want to hit something, your pillow
and mattress will take the pound
ing. Stomp the ground, kick the car ?
tires, get out the mop and scrub.
There are constructive ways to
keep yourself from abusing your
children. Use them.
I'm not advocating letting your
children run you, or push you
around, or "rule the roost." I'm not
saying that you're a child abuser if
you spank your children. I do it.
And yes, I yell at them sometimes.
I'll even admit that I've punished'
them too harshly. But I've also hit
a pillow, scrubbed the floor and
kicked the car tires. And I always
apologize if I punish them for
something I later find they didn't
do, or punish them too harshly. At
those times, I ask for their forgive
ness.
Raising children isn't easy. No
one ever promised that it would be.
It's one of the toughest jobs we'll
ever do, but also one of the most
rewarding. >
Our role models in raising chil
dren are our parents, and we are,
our children's role models. What*
are you teacing your children?
Let's all do our part to stop child'
abuse. Our children are our future, -
our hope for a better tomorrow.*
What kind of leaders are we rais-i
ing? What kind of tomorrow are we
building? ?
Think about it.
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Writing a column on St. Patrick's
day and noting the media all have
Irishness on the brain, it is natural
to wonder about an Irish presence
in Perquimans County.
The early records of Perquimans
do not give much evidence of any
Irish among the first settlers. A
few Irish servants are mentioned,
but they were so anonymous that
they were not even cited with sur
names. Typical Irish surnames are
hardly found.
There are some indications that
the Quakers of Perquimans might
have maintained some Irish con
tacts, but Irish Quakers were likely
to be former Englishmen and not
native Irish.
Early North Carolina was too
English and too Protestant a place
for the Catholic Irish to be comfort
able there, especially considering
the many bitter memories of En
glish persecution of the Irish. ,
The persistence of those mem
ories was apparent in a story. At
the time of the Easter Rebellion in
1916 there was a shortage of news
about the fighting in Ireland. Lord
Beaverbrook, the English newspa
per tycoon, Finally reached Dublin
by telephone and spoke with Timo
thy Healy, a leading Irish national
ist.
Beaverbrook asked, "Is there a
rebellion?" Healy replied, "There
is." "When did it break out?"
asked the Briton. "When Strong
bow invaded Ireland," rejoined the
Irishman. Beaverbrook's query,
"When will it end?" was followed
by Healy's answer, "When Crom
well gets out of hell."
Every Irishman knew that
Strongbow was Richard de Clare,
Earl of Pembroke, who led the An
glo-Norman invasion of Ireland in
1170. And Cromwell was massacr
ing Irish about the time Perqui
mans was settled.
As peculiar as it may seem,
there is a link between Strongbow
and Perquimans. By his marriage
to Eva, daughter of Dermot Mac
Murrough, King of Leinster,
Strongbow was the father of Isabel
de Clare. Isabel married William
Marshall and a female line of de
scent ran several generations
through marriages with the fami
lies de Braiose, de Cantelous, la"
Zouche, and de Harcourt before
coming to the Crispe family.
Five generations of Crispe
males, a Crispe-Crayford mar
riage, two generations of Crayford, /
and a Crayford-Warren marriage
led to the grandparents of that;'
Thomas Warren who settled in .
Surry County, Virginia, in the sev-'
enteenth century.
Oddly, Warren had a grandson,
Robert Hunnicutt, who became a
prominent Quaker. Hunnicutt's '
daughter Huldah married Francis -
Newby from no other place than.
Perquimans; their descendants '
and Strongbow's - still live here. -
The connection is no less valid than
circuitous, but there it is; from Ire- ?
land to Perquimans. J
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