The Charlotte Jewish News -September 2004 - Page 16
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This summer the
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Sunday, October 3, 10:30
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Wednesday, October 6, 9:15
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Compassionate Listening
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Octoberr 10-18 event. The project
has been successfully offered in
2002 and 2003 in Germany.
“Why? This story is more than
50 years old. Because if that story
finds light,” energy worker Lynda
Boozer, of Charlotte, one of the
seven-member support team sug-
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the planet. This story holds the
archetypal darkest truth.”
The Compassionate Listening
Project i)egan in 1990 and has
done the bulk of its healing and
peace-building work in the
Middle East. Israelis and
Palestinians have participated in
many reconciliation projects.
Some of these are documented in
the video, “The Children of
Abraham.”
This is not easy work. The sup
port team for the 30 or so partici
pants includes several therapists, a
psychiatrist and others trained in
the art of Compassionate
Listening. Yet explaining the
process to others is a challenge,
because the process itself is not
“word” dependent. “There is a
place for dialogue, but dialogue is
a place of the head,” facilitator
Cohen explains. “We try and
move back into the heart.”
“Dialogue is intellectual dis
cussion. Compassionate Listening
is about moving the energy from
the head to the heart,” she contin
ued. It is also not something to be
confused with therapeutic “active
listening” a technique that
includes verbally mirroring back
your partner’s comments before
moving ahead in discussion.
Compassionate Listening is
about intention; it is about the
willingness to being open to hear;
Compassionate Listening is about
building trust, Boozer offered.
“It’s really an art form. There arc
techniques, but they deepen your
capacity to be an artist. ... We use
expressive art, much more than
journaling. And we use a lot of rit
ual. We want to get it out of the
words.”
The energy work offered by
Boozer is a tool, along with mas
sage and other relaxation body
work, helping people transcend
their “body fear.” When she
worked with a group last year in
Israel, an Israeli woman told her
in distress that she felt her head
and her heart were ready to con
nect and move forward with her
Palestinian listening partner, but
her body seized up in terror at the
(initial) physical proximity.
Boozer was able to help her phys
ically relax and release the muscle
memories of fear.
Another of Boozer’s experi
ences was witnessing a German in
last year’s group struggle with the
recent knowledge that his father
had been charged with Nazi war
crimes. The intense and wide-
ranging feelings plaguing this
man were profoundly altered by
his participation in the project.
The German participants are often
witnesses of the atrocities, or chil
dren of soldiers.
“Watching the depth of the
German struggle, their angvSt, the
stripping of their goodness -
they’ve worn that their whole
lives,” Boozer said. “To own it
[their personal and national histo
ry] yet to dismantle the shame and
the guilt, is part of the process. To
find the essential goodness of the
Germans and the essential trust of
the Jews - this is part of the work.
“Being with Germans and Jews
in Bergcn-Belson can’t be any
thing less than potent,” she contin
ued.
“I got involved in this work as a
German, because I want my coun
try back,” Mark Dronsfield, a
facilitator of the upcoming
American project as well as past
projects in Germany, said. “I have
realized that in order to get my
country back fully 1 need the
Jewish people back in my country.
So the goal is to make it safe
enough and welcoming enough
for a million Jewish people to
happily live in Germany. This
project is a big step towards that,
it gave me back my faith in
humanity.”
“The World War II story lives
in Israel. Jews want this piece of
their story understood by
Palestinians,” Boozer continued.
To this end a Palestinian/Isracli
group went together to Auschwitz,
“with no agenda. Just to be pres
ent to the story of another.”
“Compassionate Listening can
bring large change,” Director
Leah Green says. “If it starts with
just one person and it grows, that
is how peace begins. It is eyeball
to eyeball.
“With Compassionate Listening
we don’t come with answers, we
don’t come with solutions, we
come to build connections. This is
so counter to our culture of doing,
of having a goal. And this culture
is good, but it must be set aside
during this bridge building. Then
ask, ‘what does my heart long to
do in action?”’ The nature of
Compassionate Listening work
fills Boozer with “delight, wonder
and awe. And these things just
make popcorn out of your heart.”
For more information about the
October Baltimore/Washington
project please call Andrea Cohen
at 206-523-6018 or Brian Berman
at 360-297-3358. O