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New dates set for 2002 Gay Games
by Wanda Pico
Special to Q-Notes
MONTREAL, CANADA—New dates for
Gay Games VI and a change in Federation of
Gay Games leadership were the major pieces
of business handled at the Federations recent
meeting in Montreal.
“Gay Games VI and Cultural Festival —
Under New Skies” will now be held in Sydney,
Australia November 2-9, 2002. Although the
original September dates coincide with the end
of the northern hemisphere summer, Sydney
organizers cited warmer local weather and
longer daylight hours as the deciding factors
for the change.
“At the Gay Games last summer in Amster
dam, the streets were filled with people having
a great time late into the evening,” said Tom
Seddon, Sydney 2002 board member. “In Sep
tember the sun goes down in Sydney around
5:30pm, but by November there are an extra
two hours of daylight. We’re convinced this
change is the right thing to do, and we’re happy
the Federation Board has approved it enthusi
astically.”
Sydney 2002’s representatives announced
ambitious outreach goals for the Asia/Pacific
region, an area underrepresented at previous
Gay Games. They also described their staffing
structure, with many volunteers already in
place, and their plans for obtaining government
support and corporate sponsorships.
Sports competitions will be clustered in two
main zones, one at Olympic Park in Homebush
and the other at Sydney Harbor, making it easy
for participants to attend a number of differ
ent events. Plans are to also bring some cul
tural events directly to the athletic sites.
In a separate development, the Federation
of Gay Games Board of Directors replaced its
Executive Gommittee when the officers stepped
down to permit a change of leadership.
the art of
meeting women
More talk on small talk
by Rhona Sacks
Special to Q-Notes
A woman told me, “I always stammer when
first meeting a woman. I can never think of
anything to say; it’s as though my mind goes
blank. Once we get the conversation going. I’m
fine. But, until then, I sound like an idiot.”
A perfect ice breaker for this woman (and
the rest of us) is a pertinent question because it
stimulates interest. The question can be about
anything going on around you. Take a look at
your surroundings; it will supply you with an
ample number of conversational starters.
A good question invites discussion. This is
why an open-ended question (“who,” “what,”
“when,” “where,” “why,” and “how”) is prefer
able to a closed-ended question (requiring a
“yes” or “no”) answer. An open-ended question
encourages a woman to talk. Make the ques
tion positive and non-intrusive. You don’t want
to make a woman feel uncomfortable with a
question which is negative or too personal; she
may become closed and defensive.
“What do you think about...?” is a great
“The Federation is a very different organi
zation now than when it was founded 10 years
ago,” said Acting President Gene Dermody.
“We have more and more sports and cultural
groups joining the Federation Board and fewer
individuals. The groups have taken an increas
ingly active interest in the day-to-day business
of the Federation and that’s requiring us to ex
amine our internal management structure.
“Over the next several months we’re going
to look at improving communication between
the Acting Executive Gommittee officers, the
other directors and the Federation’s various
committees,” Dermody added. “It’s a tribute
to the commitment of our former officers that
they have remained on the Board to help us go
forward with the Federation’s work.”
The Acting Executive Gommlnee consists
of Dermody (San Francisco; International
Wresding Alliance), Vice President Derek Liecty
(Oakland, GA; Individual Federation Director),
Treasurer Joseph E. Pasquarella Smith (Seattle,
WA; Team Seatde), Recording Secretary Gharles
Garson (New York; International Gay & Les
bian Aquatics) and Gorresponding Secretary
Roy Vestal (Denver, GO; Lesbian & Gay Bands
of America).
The acting officers will serve until regular
elections are held at the Federation’s Annual
Meeting in Berlin, Germany October 18-22.
The meeting organizer will be Team Berlin
which had one of the largest contingents at Gay
Games V in Amsterdam.
“Our transition team has a lot of work to
do over the next six months,” said Dermody.
“We got a good start in Ganada...thanks to our
host, Equipe Montreal. It will be great to take
the Federation back to Europe for its next meet-
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For information about the Federation of Gay
Games and its committee projects, access their
web site at http://www.gaygames.org. T
question with which to strike up a conversa
tion. Every women enjoys being asked her opin
ion. Asking an open-ended question shows a
woman you care about what she thinks. This
helps to forge a bond between the two of you.
Another benefit of asking an open-ended ques
tion is that it helps you to discover common
ground. Whenever you and another woman
identify mutual interests and values, an emo
tional connection is created. We all like being
around women who share our enthusiasms.
If you ask a closed-ended question, you will
get a “yes/no” answer. Your question may be
answered, but your interaction may also be over.
Ask closed-ended questions to get information
(“Do you like the exhibit?” “Are you a friend of
the hostess?”); ask open-ended questions
(“What is your favorite piece in the exhibit?”
“How do you know the hostess?”) to get a dia
logue going.
However, there are some open-ended ques
tions which are conversational killers, such as:
“How are you?” “Whafs up?” and “What’s
new?” These questions are not only vague, their
overuse has virtually stripped them of all mean
ing. Likely answers you’ll hear are, “Fine” and
“Not much.” The conversation dies, right in
front of you. Stay away from such mind-numb-
ing questions.▼
[Rhona Sacks is the author of the #1 Bestseller
The Art of Meeting Women, A Guide for Gay
Women (Slope Books, 1998).]
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