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Getting past, getting through, but never forgetting
by Leah D. Sepsenwol
Words and images have spewed forth on
pages and airvraves ... at a pace as furious and as
heartbreaking as all we have witnessed. The
smouldering nightmare sears its way into dream
and daylight — unsetding pulverized pieces of
privilege, power and promise.
For one cataclysmic moment we were fused
and fashioned in the image of oneness. Creed,
color, preference, higher power—hands clasped,
we gasped and rose above our every difference.
And just as we were given the rainbow after
catastrophic flood, so are we now given heroes
to help us hold on and for us to hold up in these
terrible days and for all time.
Peace unto all of them who spared us even
more tragedy and comforted us in their own last
moments.
Father Mychal Judge, 68, Catholic Chaplain,
New York Fire Department died at the scene
of World Trade Center terrorist attacks. "Fa
ther Mike," a Franciscan priest, was well-
known for his compassionate, ecumenical care
for families of the TWA 800 air crash victims
in 1996.
Judge's parish had no walls. He ministered
to firefighters, police, crime viaims, street youths
and all manner of people who found themselves
in crisis.
In an e-mail to Rex Wockner, journalist Andy
Humm said, "He was a decent wonderful hu
man being. I saw him at many demonstrations
for gay and AIDS causes — showing up in his
Franciscan monk's cassock."
When asked what prepared him to help those
whose lives are suddenly torn apart Father Mike
said, "In seminary, you get all the theology and
Scripture in the world. In my first parish, I dis
covered the other gifts God had given me —
personality, patience and a great love of people."
According to its web site. Rev. Mychal Judge
■was a "longtime member" of Dignity/USA, an
organization of Catholic gays, lesbians,
transgenders, their families and friends.
Mark Bingham, 31, a public relations ex
ecutive and avid rugby player, lived in San
Francisco. He was returning from his firm’s
NY office.
Hijackers took over United Flight 93
bound for the west coast. We have since
learned that Bingham, Thomas Burnett and
Jeremy Click and the pilot stormed the cock
pit, forcing the plane to crash in rural south
western Pennsylvania.
Even before it was confirmed, his family
was certain that Mark had a hand in stopping
the flight. "It gives me a great deal of comfort
to know my son may have been able to avert
the killing of many, many innocent people,"
said his mother, Alice Boglan.
According to OutSports.com, Mark re
cently sent an e-mail to his "Fog" rugby team
hailing their acceptance into the straight Cali
fornia Rugby League.
"We have the chance to be role models for
other gay folks who wanted to play sports, but
never felt good enough or srrong enough.
More importantly, we have the chance to show
the other teams in the league that we are as
good as they are. Good rugby players. Good
sports. Good men. This is a great opportunity
to change a lot of people's minds, and to reach
a group that might never have had to know or
hear about gay people. Let's go make some
new friends ..."
Pamela J. Boyce, 43, assistant vice president,
Carr Futures, is one of only several dozen
World Trade Center workers who have offi
cially been confirmed dead, while thousands
more remain missing.
Boyce worked on the 92nd floor of One
World Trade Center.
Catherine Anello, Boyce’s partner, told the
New York Times that Boyce was a no-nonsense
person who was passionate and pragmatic.
"She once told me, Tm not afraid to die
because I know where I’m going is beautiful."
David Charlebois, 4l, American Airlines First
Officer, was an openly gay pilot onboard as co
pilot of the hijacked American Airlines Flight
77, out of Dulles International Airport which
crashed it into the Pentagon.
"He was one of the most well-liked pilots,"
said Robert Todd, a flight attendant who flew
frequently with Charlebois.
Charlebois and his partner of 14 years, Tom
Hay, shared a home in DCs DuPont Circle
neighborhood. Hay said Charlebois' loyalty to
his friends, family, and community was rivded
only by his love for flying.
Charlebois was an active member of the
National Gay Pilots Association. Last year. Hay
See HEROES on Page 13
Sisters and Brothers — Heroes 09.11.01
Pride on a daily basis
by Teri LayzeU, MSW, LCSW
Gay Pride is often scheduled as a special
event. With parades, marches, songs and fes
tivals we gather together at designated times
throughout the year. It is a wonderful and
important time for us to honor and celebrate
ourselves with a sense of community that these
events offer. Yet, to fully embrace the concept
of pride, it is valuable for us to live with pride
on a daily basis.
Ask yourself rhese questions: Are you com
passionate towards yourself and others? What
are you offering back to your community? Are
you living with integrity, upholding the values
that you hold dear? Are you without judg
ment? Are you proud of who you are and what
you present to this world?
The answers to these questions open the
door to acceptance. Gay Pride becomes stron
ger with each gay and lesbian who lives with
integrity. Will hatred and prejudice go away?
Probably not. But it certainly makes it more
difficult for individuals ro pass judgment when
we present ourselves as good role models, liv
ing with humanitarian values. With combined
forces, we can become an even more impres
sive group.
So, go out with pride, celebrate and enjoy
yourself But, remember to live with pride each
and every day, between the events. It sends a
very powerful message. T
Teri LayzeU, MSW, LCSW is a personal coach
and psychotherapist in Charlotte, NC. She can
be reached at 704-372-0670 or
telayzell@mindspring. com.