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Quote du Jour:
"Obstacles are those frightful things
you see when you take your eyes off
your goal."
— Henry Ford (1863-1947)
Dear Trinity,
Recently, I realized that all my childhood friends,
unlike me, are partnered off. have high paying jobs
and own their own homes! Why do I feel like a
looser^ Yours.
Not Enough Asheville, NC
Dear Not Enough,
So your friends “made it" sooner than you,
yippee! Do you want to be a simple Jackie
Collins, 200 page novelette or a great Tolstoy
novel where it all comes together on page 1238.
Remember, Einstein failed third grade, Lincoln
lost many more elections than he won and
Edison failed over 10,000 times before getting
the light bulb to work! If' life is a book, keep
reading. You, my little tortoise are incomparable
to others. Every great (wo)man is told to, “Get
real and stop wasting time". So either get “real"
like your friends who APPEAR to have made it
now or get real like the ones who took longer
and MADE a difference! Kisses.
Hey Trinity,
I'm a gay parent who is raising two kids. Do you
have any advise for gay parents? Sincerely.
Parenting Ponders Rehobeth Beach, DE
TRINITY
Hey Parenting,
It’s a lot of work being a gay parent in a world
where gay parents have just started sharing
experiences about having, adopting and raising
kids. As I hope to have my own someday, I
know it takes love, patience and lots of
socialization to make a child strong!
T rinity’5 Childhood
iThere's bo ploce like Provincetown!|
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It takes a village to raise
FABULOUS childl
Dear Trinity,
When I get "all cleaned up" my boyfriend goes crazy
for me. But when I am my “natural" self i.e.,
unkempt, dirty or just a little smelly he won't get
close to me. Shouldn’t I be loved for me?
Natural Love Eugene, OR
Dear Natural,
In one of the most important dating
manuals ever written. Keeping 'Your Date Excited,
it says, in the chapter called, "Skunk Love:"
“Don't be caught in your 'natural state’ all the
time! Get ‘dolled up’ or ‘cleaned up’ every so
often just to keep the excitement, interest and to
keep your date eager see you!" Now Pumpkin,
appreciating you for the “natural you" is
charming but honestly, who wants to make
love to a skunk if it hasn’t been deodorized?
Plus, smelling and looking delicious will assure
you that your date will always have a good
appetite... for you! Hugs.
Dear Trinity,
I'm back in the job market but without any luck! I'm
relatively new to whole phenomenon. Help! Thanks,
lob litters Miami, FL
Dear lob litters.
Looks, charm and a creative, even aggressive
sales pitch will get you in the door but just in
case that’s not enough here are:
Trinity's Smart Suggestions
For Going On A Job Interview
1. Baseball hats, sunglasses, jeans and t-shirts
are not uniforms for people who get jobs.
Having a resume means you’re serious!
What’s on it is not as important as having
it!
Talk about things you can do! Never talk
about things you can not!
2.
4. Use sex appeal.
charm, connections
and familiar references.
Everyone does this!
Don’t be righteous, just
get the damn job!
5. Keep repeating, “I can
learn anything!" lust
get your foot in the door and you’ll figure
out the rest later!
6. If you appear presentable, eager and
responsible the job is already half yours!
7. Being late with an excuse does not mean
you are on time. Better to say, “I’m late. I’m
sorry. It will never happen again.” Period!
No excuses.
8. There are many books on job interviewing.
Buy them, yesterday!
9. Never “shot gun" (blindly sending out)
resumes. Get a contact. Talk with them. Then
send your resume. And always follow up!
10. Lastly, you have thirty seconds (max) to sell
yourself. If they like you after that then sell
yourself even more with everything you’ve got!
Don't let your questions go unanswered!
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