Q-NOTES • JUNE 8 . 2002
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^ Volume 17 • No. 2 • June 8, 2002
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• SC Pride 2002
• Atlanta is proud of Pride
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Atlanta Pride web site
Boy Scout Diversity Patch
CRN is 5 years old
Charleston hosts Freedom Party
Chris Cole, Libertarian nominee
GLB Vets change name to AVER
GLMA Guidelines
Hey Jude, you've made it better
Lavender Graduation: Appel speaks out
Mautner Project receives huge grant
Orbitz and Gay.com merge
StopDrLaura.com wins Internet award
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Behind enemy lines, part 2
Book review: Metes and Bounds
Father's Day
General Gayefy: Pride theme
LadyFest South
Music on their own terms, part 2
Op-Ed: Hopeless Teens
Uniformly sad
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Telling us you are proud
is one thing...
by Leah D. Sepsenwol
We have come a very long way, baby. As
individuals, as activists, as communities.
We have marched and paraded and acted
up — we have plotted and schemed to be
heard and seen. We have demanded to be
recognized; we have bonded and
banded to be acknowledged.
There are marketing studies
into our habits good and bad;
and psychological analyses of
our parenting skills and choice
(or is it a matter of choice?). The
selling world wants to know
what we wear, where we eat,
where we live, what we buy,
how we play; do we rent, are we
truly bent and why and from
whom and when and how
much. Whew! All this caring, all
this attention, despite a nagging
extremist right who lags further ,
and further behind. And despite a thurch
championing its supposed-chaste and
blaming the rest of what they find on all of
us.
And then there is Atlanta.
The great ads on the back cover of Q-
Notcs — for the last three issues —
promoting Atlanta Pride were not placed
by the Atlanta LGBT community. They did
not come from the Atlanta Pride
committee. They were bought and paid for
by the Atlanta Convention and Visitors
Bureau (ACVB). The City of Atlanta
procurred $20,000 and presented it to
ACVB just for the purpose of Gay Tourism
Marketing.
Atlanta wants us to know they want us,
they are always ready for us and they are
out to get us...not just for Pride — but for
playground after, too.
It is nice when a city opens arms — and
cash drawers — for all of us. That’s OK. They
deserve our bucks and they deserve our
attention and attendance, because it’s great to
be welcomed. It’s fabulous to get such an
open invitation. It’s nice to find a spot away
from Bible belters’ shaking fists and
threatened Eucharists. It is nice to be awash in
Rainbow array, holding hands and being us.
There still lurks reality to the rear of
festivities — legislation which lags sorely
behind marketing meccas; senate and
congress are not proud of the not pure and
imperfect. But Georgia dumped its ugliest
laws.
We hope this pace and promise of
Atlanta will rub off on our own Southern
cities and their councils and chambers and
commissions. They will find what Atlanta
■did ... we are you and you are us and
together we can do anything.
Hey Jude, you've mode it better
by Bo Dean
Jude Cobley is leaving
our Wilmington com
munity, bound for her
home in England.
Jude founded and
made possible the Cape
Fear LGBT Youth Group.
She created a viable and
vital group that continues
to support and nurture
many area teens and
youth who otherwise
would go without such
an important and special
outlet, iude's degree in
youth education certainly
was put to good use.
on the board of North
Carolina Equality Project for a brief time
and helped co-host the first-ever “Azalea
Brunch for Equality" at Cafe Phoenix. )ude
proved right and justice know no
geographic boundaries. Even though she
was not a US citizen she took on equality
issues and worked as hard on behalf of all
of us in North Carolina. She participated in
the Charlie Daniels protest, made signs and
provided refreshments to the protesters.
Jude Cobley,
as Wilmington
LGBT Prom
Queen.
Mom/octivist
heads home
to England
She served
Jude was on the steering committee of
the Gay and Lesbian Film Series. She held
weekly coffee get togethers, ")ava with
Jude," at a local bookstore where people
spent time talking and sharing their feelings
and other programs — helping to build
community and sharing with an open mind
and heart. Even though she was iewish, she
regularly attended St. Jude's MCC and was
a leading member of the choir.
Even with a, full schedule of outside
commitments, she cared for baby Devon,
the first baby born in St. Jude's
congregation; flew back and forth to
England to care for her very ill mother; was
a partner iri a highly visible, public
relationship and mother to two beautiful
children.
)ude is an example of personal strength
not just in the LGBT community, but in the
community at large. Her departure will
leave a huge hole in both communities —
we are so much the better for having had
her here!
On behalf of all of us in Wilmington,
thank you, Jude, for all you have done to
strengthen us, to bolster pride in ourselves,
to add so much value to our community.
May God Bless you and keep you.