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COM (§TfD©K] JULY 20.2002 Crape Myrtle Festival — amazing good for 22 years Celebrating life and diversity for its 22nd year, this Raleigh non-profit raises funds and promotes awareness for persons living with AIDS/HIV and the local GLBT community RALEIGH — The Crape Myrtle Festival (CMF), a Raleigh-based non-profit or ganization supporting persons living with AIDS/HIV and the local gay and lesbian community, will hold its annual Grand Gala on luly 27 at the Raleigh Convention Center. This year, five panels from the AIDS Quilt will be'on display, and this will be the organization’s 22nd year of raising funds and promoting awareness. The event will be sponsored by GlaxoSmithKline and US Airways. The Crape Myrtle Festival began in 1981 as a small backyard get-together in Chapel Hill, NC. TWelve years ago, it broadened its focus to respond to the HIV/AIDS health crisis. The Crape Myrtle Festival was at that time incorporated as a 501(c)(3) organization and has since become one of North Carolina's premier all-volun teer fundraising non-profits. CMF’s mission is to provide fin ancial assistance, outreach and ed ucation to ident ified needs within the local gay and lesbian com munity. CMF Volunteers painted HIV/AIDS at the entrance and throughout the "expression tunnel" at NC State University campus. Since its inception in 1981, CMF has raised over $850,000 for local service agencies through sponsored events as well as private and corporate donations from Fortune 500 companies. In 2001, the organization raised $137,000 in cash and in-kind gifts for children, women and men living HIV/AIDS. CMF will continue its fundraising efforts in 2003 to support financial assistance, outreach 'and education to identified needs within the local gay and lesbian community. During the 2002 season, CMF held see FESTIVAL on 15 by Patrick Toal "2-4-6-8: Are you sure your grandma’s straight?" I heard this chant while attending an older adult conference a few years ago. As 1 looked around the room, I noticed several of the younger people chuckling while a group of older women repeated the cheer in mantra form. If you think about it, though, it is quite true—how do we know? After all, there have been many famous older gays and lesbians who were not "out" or "outed" until their golden years, but to whom we pay tribute. Think of older individuals who are an integral part of our lives who may be lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender but have remained closeted in order to hold on to jobs, family, friends and faith fellowship. How about your favorite aunt who just "never found the right man?" Our LGBT community has come of age as the baby booming generation begins graying and contemplating retirement. Expo to provide resources |or unique LGBT aging issues And the remaining diverse fellowship of lesbians, gays, bisexuals and transgenders are charged with the repsonsibiity of finding ways the community can serve and adapt. For those of us who are baby boomed, it is important to remind ourselves and others that homosexuals do not self destruct at 50. However, our resources change, our needs change, and our life focuses shift some. The community of aging agencies and the LGBT community need to accomodate and offer a comfortable place for this to happen — for everyone to remain a vialble part of the whole community. We are healthier, more aaive and consequently, happier and living longer than generations before. And more of us are out in our middle age than ever before. So much has changed to make it possible to be who we are and with whom we want to be. The community services need to be in place and everyone, whether you are 18 or 80, you need to know what there is and what will be there for you when you need it. We all need retirement planning. We ail need healthcare. We will all need alternative housing options as we retire and "downsize” our lives to make way and room for enjoying our hard-earned free time. Our culture, and especially our community, place a great deal of emphasis on youthfulness, sex appeal and good looks. All the anti-aging creams, tummy tucks and face lifts in the world will not stop the clock. Senescence is a process that begins at birth and continues throughout the life span. So, we must embrace all generations. We wil be them! When you interact with an older gay or lesbian, imagine you are talking to your own grandparent. We can learn from each other: patience see EXPO on 19