LIVING
Enhancing sensuality in your lovemaking
by Oliver Peers . loversguide.com
Sensuality: “unrestrained
indulgence in sensual pleas
ures.” The very definition just
conjures up images of opu
lence and fulfillment, which
is just what lovemaking should be.
When should making love ever be a
chore, a given or simply something that you
might as well do because there’s nothing on
TV? Think about a time when you have split
with an ex-girlfriend and how you yearned
for her touch just one more time — if you
can keep that yearning for the girl you love
and not take things for granted, then your
lovemaking will be better than you could
ever possibly hope for.
But, how do you achieve this when things
have gone a bit stale or you’re both simply
not as interested as you used to be? It’s not
always easy but if you have the fundamentals
of love, respect and desire, there’s something
to work on. Consider it like exercise — at
first it may seem a daunting task to get your
self back to the peak of fitness, but once you
get started again, bit by bit things improve
and it’s far less arduous than you ever
thought it would be.
So, enough with the analogies. Think
about what you want from your lovemaking
and go for it. Don’t think barriers — just
think about the wonderful pleasures you can
both experience. It’s all too easy to fall into
routine, so one or both of you has to make
that decision to set aside time to explore each
other. Sensuality is all about enhancing what
we all have — our wonderful senses. Let’s
break it down;
Sight
When was the last time you made a real
effort with your appearance? Remember back
to which outfit got her pulse racing. Dig it out
again and go to town making yourself look as
gorgeous as possible. Then let her look for as
long as she wants!
Smell
Sometimes the simplest scents can get
someone going. Try taldng in the smell of her
skin and appreciating what she has to offer, or
gently rub each other with luxurious oils to
give off a sensual aroma.
Touch
Close your eyes and simply run your fin
gers down her back, across her tummy or
neck. Concentrate on every sensation you
and she feel as you re-explore each other’s
body. Make the most of the different textures
of her skin.
Sound
When kissing her, listen to how she
breathes, listen to her whisper and take in
what your bodies sound like together.
Have some sexy music on in the back
ground to set the mood and let your imag
ination run away with you.
Taste
There are so many things you can do by
simply tasting each other. LicWng, nibbling,
kissing — whatever you do, you’ll get some
lovely tastes of each other’s body. Add choco
late body paint or cream to the mbc for more
tasty delicts!
If you awaken and enliven every sense
you’re sure to enhance the sensuality. Every
part of your mind, body and soul can be con
centrating on each other, and once it does,
you’ll feel like you have a new sex life. I
— Originally published at
www.loversguide.com. © Lifetime Productions
International, Ltd. 2008-2009.
Reprinted with permission.
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