Y'
tell trinity
by trinity :: qnotes contributor
The girlfriend, the daughter,
the relationship & the father
Dear Trinity,
I came out last year in my first lesbian
relationship. Next month my girlfriend
i plan to move to another state
Hello Marriage Minded,
Yes, I remember reading a studythat said couples
live longer. Maybe it's related to housework? But,
sweetie, not all relationships are healthy like yours
and single life does have many adventures that
may not be healthy but fun! (Take a tour with your
reading of my cartoon.)
I and I
because of her job. However, I have a
' three-year-old daughter whose father
is active in her life. Now, if I move, he
J wants custody. Help?
' Daddy's Little Girl, Virginia Beach, VA
Hey Trinity,
I'm 22 and living with my boyfriend for eight months. He's a
hard-working homeowner. However, he's 26 and when I want
to get my freak on with him he's not interested. I love him, but I
have needs!
Sexually Frustrated, Charlotte, NC
Dear DLG,
V For gay custody/legal
^ disputes contact Lambda
Legal (lambdalegal.org). I
worked for them in college. Now, since
this is about taking your daughter away, I must
ask, "Is the father the real troublemaker or is
it your girlfriend who wants to move?" Being
raised by two families is hard, but in two states,
please! Who gets your daughter and who
gets a long-distance relationship is the issue.
Honey, someone has to bend cupid's arrow a
little! Get your girlfriend a local job and tell her
if she loves you she has to stay before you end
up childless!
Hello Trinity,
So, many people today want to be single. But, I've been
with my lover for nine years and it's as good as day one.
Don't you think a lasting, loving relationship is healthier than
being single?
Marriage Minded, Albuquerque, NM
Trinity Remembers
HeySF,
Being tired and sexually excited
rarely go hand in fist. So, start by
acting and dressing sexier without
being too aggressive and add some
wine with dinner. Once he's loos
ened up, let's see what happens.
And, lastly, take vacations. Couples
do it to help their sex life. It's the
rule. Baby, you may have to work
as hard as him to put him into "the
mood."
Dearest Trinity,
I just started dating someone really
great. This time I promised
myself I was going to be the best boyfriend ever. Any ideas for
keeping my promise?
Mr. Best Ever, Paris, France
Dearest Mr. New Declaration,
To keep promises or declarations one has to make a business
plan and stick to it. Even when you fail, pumpkin, which you
may, you must get right back up and stick to it again. And, to
keep you on track here are:
Trinity's Tough Declarations For Being
An Excellent Boyfriend Or Girlfriend
1. Commitment^ promise torrofdate, sleep with or search the
internet for anyone other than my b-friend.
2. Compromise: I promise to not "throw in the towel" when
ever we have a problem.
3. Resiliency: I promise to matetime, dinner and endless at
tempts toward making my relationship healthy and lasting.
4. Adventure: I promise to continually try newthings that will
make me a better girlfriend: intellectually, emotionally and
sexually.
5. Intrigue: I promise to keep a little mystery about myself, as
well as push myself toward being interesting, exciting and
fun.
6. Romance: I promise to be affectionate, charitable and
romantic, as well as help with the chores.
7. Control: I promise neverto be smothering, insecure or
controlling.
8. Communication:] promise to a/wa/slisten and communi
cate my feelings, yet keep some problems to myself so not
to burden the relationship.
9. Change: I promise to change bad habits, work on deep-
seated issues and rrofmake my mate my therapist.
10. Lastly, responsibility: I promise to take responsibility for
my actions, not blame anyone for being themselves and
compromise...tillitkillsme!::
— With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity was
host of "Spiritually Speaking," a weekly radio drama,
and now performs globally.
info: www.telltrinity.com. Trinity@telltrinity.com
Tell Trinity, P.O. Box 23861. Ft Lauderdale, FL 33307
Sponsored by: Provincetown Business Guild
800-637-8696.www.ptown.org
mm
Open 24 Hours / 7 Days
327 W. Hargett St. • Raleigh, NC
919.833.8968
* a.
LLj‘'ULli.L!
JOCIdl.
SELECT MJVDS
I—J ) r \
Bfw V' ^ '.V
iif
us AUNLIMITED. ORG
28 qnotes Oct. 30-Nov. 12.2010