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^ ..A personal Issue
Ask any gay or lesbian what one of the
most difficult moments of their life has been, and
you will most likely hear the story of when they
decided to disclose their sexual orientation. For
gays, "coming out," is a uniquely personal
experience in becoming at ease with their
Before coming out, many gays constantly
say to themselves "it isn't important that they
know," or "it shouldn't change anything, anyway."
If it truly isn't important, and if it honestly wouldn't
change anything, why would someone spend so
much energy withholding the truth?
Coming out allows you to do many
things. It enables you to share more of yourself
and your life with those around you and allows
them to know your true self. The important
people in your life are now more available, and
can be given a real opportunity to support you.
While the rewards for being truthful with
yourself are appeasing, we all know that there
R. Lee Frisby, Jr.
are negative consequences at times, as well.
Not everyone likes hearing the truth. It is once
that you have taken your step toward personal
growth that you must use the added self-respect
to pragmatically handle the consequences.
Remember that everyone lives with
prejudice. Our world is one filled with hatred and
fear in which people choose not to know one
another. Gays are everywhere—found in every
profession on every level. Gays touch the lives
of countless people each day without the
knowledge of their sexual orientation. Love flows
more easily between you and others when the
barriers that you have constructed are removed.
Trusting yourself can sometimes be a difficult
thing to do; listen to your heart and make your
decisions wisely. Realize that while the inner
voice is outwardly inaudible, it speaks volumes
within us and pleads to be recognized.
R. Lee Frisby, Jr.
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