February 23, 1989 The Lance ^
On Campus
Grief Tips
From The
Counseling
Center
Student
Activities
Union
Update on Upcoming Campus Even
March
3 "Basic Otis" live in concert.
4 Orange presents Casino Night with
"The Psaltery" acoustical folk music, play
the Gathering Place.
11 Granville presents Oysterfest at Gran
^ 17-26
31 Mecklenburg party featuring live regg
? on the grass by Meek, Orange and Pate.
April
S 1 Orangehurst featuring live entertain
to be held in Orange.
I 3-6 S.AU. presents Bacchanalia games
7,8,9 Ganza! Ganza! Ganz
Featuring 5 live bands:
Valence; Mellow Madness; Truth
Rights, One Love; The Mullets and
Truly Dangerous Swamp Band
Live music beginning Friday at 4 p.m. conti
I until Sunday 4 p.m.
Coming Up:
I Road trips to Carowinds in Charlotte, hiking
S Black Mountain College and a canoe trip
Dean Searches for New Chaplain
Deborah L. Kelly
Mary Griggs
In the next few weeks Dean Cynthia
Greer will be visiting the Union Theo
logical Seminary in Richmond to look
for possible chaplain interns to replace
the current pastor position.
Citing financial reasons for the
decision to use chaplain interns, Greer
said that the college can "only afford to
pay at the intern level.” Another
reason behind the change is the fact
that that a Presbyterian minister is de
sired by the school. Current Campus
Pastor, Shirley Arnold is a Methodist.
According to Greer, Arnold was hired
as Interin Chaolain with the position
ending in l^ay.
In. a letter sent to two St. Andrews'
students last summer, the Dean
stated, "During the fall, with Shirley's
help and with student, faculty and staff
input, we will assess what are needs
are in this area and begin our
search...it is our goal to find a presby-
terian for this role."
Dean Greer did mention that she
was only "investigating the fX)ssibility"
of interns and was not sure if she
could find a suitable replacement for
Rev. Arnold.
Grief is a natural and healthy
reaction to a significant change or loss
in our lives. There is no time limit on
grief. It is usually a slow process
ranging from a few months to two or
more years, depending on the individ
ual, the severity of the loss, and the
person's response pattern. The stages
of grief typically experienced are:
shock and denial- a kind of emo
tional numbness
anger-feeling resentful and angry
with yourself and others
guilt- blaming yourself for what hap
pened
lloneliness- feeling isolated and
alone
hope- accepting loss and focusing on
the future
Responding appropriately to the pain
of loss is very important. Facing the
reality of loss and dealing directly with
the accompanying feelings facilitates
the grief process.
Tips for Coping ujith Grief:
-be kind to yourself;practice the art of
self-nurture; be attentive to your
emotional needs, be gentle and
patient with yourself
-express your feelings to someone
such as a friend, minister or family
Louise Marr
member
-expressing feelings through wriUng
can be a very effective release: journal
writing, poetry, letters, or just sponta
neous expression of feelings; try
writing a letter to that person
-accept help from those who offer;
understanding and support from
others facilitates healing; learn to be a
receiver
-ask for help when you need it; people
are usually willing and eager to help
but often do not know what to do
-join a support group:
-available through the Counseling
Center or campus minister to students
who are interested
-also locally, I^cDougald Funeral
Home sponsors a support group for
people experiencing any kind of los^
Meetings are at 7 p.m. Mondays at St,
-keep yourself healthy; rest, diet, and
exercise are even more important
during times of crisis and stress; avoid
using alcohol, tranquilizers, and other
drugs
Call the Counseling Center,
extension 210, If we can be of
assistance.
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