what you said to me
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Yes, I saw
By Nathan EUis
Contributor
The manner in which human beings com
municate with each other is one of the main things
that sets them apart from all other life forms on
earth. There are many facets and wrinkles of
human interaction to be explored, and during the
1993 winter term at St. Andrews, students are
given a chance to study two such areas: body
language (ornonverbal communication), taught by
Dr. Lee Dubs and the complex interactions of men
and women, taught by Dr. Elizabeth Belford.
Because of the interesting combinations
the two classes ’ subject matter could enjoy, I came
up with the idea to stage a joint session of the
classes that would take place on Friday, Jan. 15.
Each group would learn from and teach other about
their respective subjects and then an open forum
discussion of the classes' relationship and implica
tions would follow.
Dr. Belford’s class met first, and during
this time engaged in a simple exercise that at
tempted to “warm up” the students for the commg
subject matter. The question “what do you think
the opposite sex wants from you?” was posed by
Dr. Belford, and each student was to discuss what
he/she felt. A wide variety of answers were offered
up, ranging from amusing commentaries to genu
ine confusion and even denouncement of the oppo
site sex’s behavorial patterns. In the context of
college, some felt that males looked for temporary,
less-involved relationships while females strove
for more intimacy. Others thought that as f>eople
become older, both sexes look for more commit
ment, not just the females. However, the most
common response was confusion: many had vague
ideas or none at all about the needs and desires of
the opposite sex. The only conclusion that was
reached is that different people look for different
things in relationships, and the trick is finding
someone with mutual needs. This is not as easy as
it sounds - barriers exist, specifically stereotypes
and the pressure to stay within male and female
“roles”. “Communication is very important” Dr
Belford said. “However, our society and environ
ment deter its development, and that causes a lot of
problems” she pointed out. In essence, a big pan of
the relating problem between the sexes comes from
an overall discouraging of communication.
After Dr. Belford concludedjier discus
sion, she moved to antoher classroom to lecture Dr.
Dubs’ Body Language class while Dr. Dubs took
over hers. Dubs proved to be an energetic and
provocative lecturer, employing several different
exercises to underscore his points about the largely
ignored world of nonverbal communication be
tween human beings. In these activities, he placed
two classroom volunteers opposite each other and
asked them to recite the alphabet while expressing
a certain emotion. The results were both entenain-
ing and informative. With a useless form of verbal
communication, the participants had to rely more
on body language. For example, when asked to
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Summer employment for all
The fourth annual
Summer Employment Fair
was held on February 10,
1993 in the hallways of the
Liberal Arts Building. Re
cruiters representing 13 or
ganizations talked to students
about summer employment
opportunities. All students
were encouraged to attend.
It will suffuce to say
that the job fair was an oppor
tunity that should not be
missed. Here is a run-down
of the job offers provided
here:
ACTION - VISTA - ‘The
domestic peace corps.” Vol
unteers are placed in an orga
nization such as a literary
council or homeless shelter
for a year-long position. They
receive between $550nd $639
a month, free health insur
ance and defennent of stu
dent loans (Raleigh, NC).
CAMP CHERIO - A YMCA
summer resident camp fully
accredited by ACA - Chris
tian values, horseback riding,
swimming, cayak, canoes,
disc golf, rifiery, skeet,
golf,photography, nature
study, drama, archery, arts &
crafts, cheerleading, dance,
etc (High Point, NC)
VARSITY INTERNSHIP
PROGRAM - Division of
Thomas Nelson Publishers.
College students go into dif-
tional books doorto door dur
ing the summermonths. They
are able to cam college cred
its. The program allows stu
dents to Icam about the free
enterprise system by running
their own business.
YMCA BLUE RIDGE AS
SEMBLY - Operates a con
ference center that hosts 600-
900 guests per week. A sum
mer sollegiate work study
program includes rotating
work department shifts, col
lege credit course and per
forming arts program.
YMCA CAMP
THUNDERBIRD - Co-ed,
YMCA residence camp for
children ages 8—16. Serves
children from the US and
around the world. Features
water skiing, sailing, horse
back riding, rollerblades, ten
nis, gymnastics, archery,
rifleryetc. 1:4 staff to camper
ratio (Lake Wylie, SC)
CAMP ROCmSH - Small
group Christian camping for
three different camps with a
variety of programs. The
camp is located just 15 min
utes outside of Fayetteville
(Parkton, NC)
CAMP ROCKMONT - Pri
vate Christian camp for boys
located in the mountains for
western North Carolina near
Ashville (Black Mountain,
NC)
COASTAL CAROLINA
GIRL SCOUTS - Operates
two residence camps. One
for troops using a core staff
sports, physical fimess and
equestrian. Will hire male
and female staff (Goldsboro,
NC)
EAGLE’SNESTFOUNDA-
TION - Summer camp and
foundation dedicated to ex
perimental education for
young people promoting the
natural worid and the better
ment of human character
(Pisgah Forest, NC)
KELLY TEMPORARY
SERVICES - Offers tempo-
raiy assignments to qualified
marketing, clerical technical
and light industrial employ
ees (Lumberton, NC)
MEGA FORCE TEMPO
RARIES - Temporary per
sonnel services (Laurinburg,
NC)
NC 4-H CAMPS - Looking
for camp directors, instruc
tors. cabin counselors and
cooks. Employment wiU be
from June 6 to August 13.
Resident camps are located
in Rockingham, Richmond,
Onslow, Stokes and Bun
combe counties (Raleigh,
NC)
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The St. Andrews
Chorale is pleased to an
nounce that membership for
the Spring 1993 academic
tenm (beginning February 3)
will be open to all interested
p>ersons. The ensemble meets
Monday and Wednesday af
ternoons, 4:40-6:00 p.m. in
Vardelll04. If you are inter
ested in singing with this out
standing, mixed chorale en
semble, contact Stephen
Shearon, Director, at *5262.
Jobs with
class
credit
WASHINGTON
D.C. - Dr. Mary Ryan, Ex
ecutive Director of the Insitute
for Experimental Learning
stresses,”while you still have
time to plan for the future,
you want to take advantage
of all the educational oppor
tunities you can.” In a nar
row, complex job market, the
graduate who can bring some
thing substantive to the table
stands the best chance of land
ing the job and succeeding.
“In a tight job market, she
adds, “you need practical, on
site experience, because a
background in the profes
sional workplace gives you
an edge in landing the right
position when you graduate.”
lEL is one of several
internship programs in Wash
ington D.C. The lEL program,
called The Capital Experi
ence, is academically based.
Students generally can earn
up to 17 credits through it.
Designed to be a serious learn
ing experience tailored to each
student’s needs and goals, it
stresses close collaboration
among the student, the on-
campus faculty advisor, lEL
staff and on-site supervisors.
Individualized placements are
made in a wide range of gov
ernment agencies, businesses,
professional offices and non
profit organizations. Students
formulate their own learning
plans to guide their intern
ships spending four days a
week at work and one day at
lEL seminars, on-site visits,
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Subjectivity
I stare but
what is it I see?
an apple or a million tiny
cells-
the little quarks kind of
dance in a way,
I suppose I could just sit
awhile
and stare,
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maybe figure out just what
the hell it is
other than just being there
I listen but
what is it I hear?
Hemingway is a giant, a
hero
he looks like a man
with a bad haircut,
I can’t help my fashions
nor he his,
I think I’ll just sit awhile at
the pages
unable to discern what is
truly
a treasure for all ages
I read but
what is it I learn?
a shiny smooth black book
with gold-leafed pages,
don’t know who wrote it
but I do know the poet,
couldn’t see it or eat or hate
it
just know it’s there,
I don’t know where
I just know it is there,
in so many’s soul
that I share.
I’ve seen, heard and learned
nothing
but confusion, chaos,
my religon states simply
fuck apples, Hemingway
and God,
for I am too trapped
in knowledge
ever to trod in reality
and one in Winnabow, NC
ferent areas of the country for gin scouts interested in
selhng religious and educa-