8 Thursday, February 15, 2001 The CompaSS
Dear Vike,
I don't have a question, but I do have
a comment. Recently my girl and I were
walking around in the mall, and I
glanced at this other chick who had
caught my attention and my girl got
offended. I explained to her that al
though the girl had on pretty much
nothing, I didn't look because I wanted
to sleep with her, but because tight
clothes on a girl tend to grab males
attention.
I know this may sound contradic
tory but, although guys look, it doesn't
mean that what we see is what we
want. I know a lot of females feel that
that's how they get our attention, and
it is, but like I explained to my girl, a
decent guy would rather have a girl
who comes off as fly, but also classy,
not fly and nasty.
A Decent Brother
Dear A Decent Brother,
I agree with you. Men and women
are human, and every now and then
our eyes wander. God gave us the sense
of sight so we use it. However, it does
not mean that we desire everything we
see. Contiune being a decent man and
hopefully she will grow to respect you.
Dear Vike,
I am a student here at ECSU and I
feel I was sexually violated by a staff
member. I was in the University Cen
ter looking at fliers with my back to
wards the front door. He came up be
hind me and touched me in places that
I didn't feel comfortable and kissed me
on my cheek.
I never gave him the indication that
he could do that to me. I don't know if
I should report this incident to authori
ties because it could cost him his job.
On the other hand I feel no man should
have the right to touch a woman with
out receiving her permission. Please
give me some helpful advice.
Violated
Dear Violated,
I am sorry to hear what happened to
you.You are a very considerate person,
because although this staff member vio
lated you, you are still concerned about
his job. However, if he has done this to
you, he has probably done this to many
considerate people before you who
were afraid to speak up, but it has to
stop. Approach the authorities and ex
plain to them what happened and your
concerns about him losing his job. Make
no mistakes about it, what you experi
enced was sexual harassment. It is time
for nice women to speak up and stop
being victimized.
Viking
Spotlight
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A native of Temple Hills, Maryland,
Zane Isiah Overton is a freshman at
ECSU. He is a computer science major
with goals of becoming a computer pro
grammer. During his spare time,
Overton enjoys singing in the Pitts
Chapel A.M.E. Zion church choir, and
he likes listening to all types of music.
Overton also enjoys dancing and shop
ping. His favorite hangout spot on cam
pus is the library. Overton said he is
attending ECSU because of its conve
nience and because he feels that this is a
good university. His role models are his
mother, he considers her as a positive
influence, and Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Overton said that King was a man who
was about change, and if given the opportunity, he would also help change
people's tolerance and ignorance and try to get people to love and respect one
another. Overton's motto is, "Live life, don't let life live you."
A native of Hollister, North Carolina,
Melody Lynch is a freshman at ECSU.
The Art Education major is attending
ECSU because she wanted to attend a
HBCU. Lynch enjoys dancing and shop
ping. Some of her special talents in
clude drawing and singing R&B music
and songs by Mariah Carey. Lynch
keeps a drawing notebook. Some of
Lynch's affiliations include the Art
Guild Club, and she has volunteered
with disabled children in the Hollister
Reach Program. Lynch's motivation is
prayer, and her mother is her role model
because of her strength and indepen
dence. Lynch's favorite book is One Day My Soul Just Opened Up by lyanla
Vanzant because it is a book that inspired and helped her to better her relation
ship with others. After college. Lynch plans to become a fashion stylist and
author. She wants to write a book that will inspire people who are overweight
and suffer from low self-esteem.
Sista
to
Sis(a
Chrishanda Rodgers
clovebb@hotmalLcom
Does he Love You? Hey ladies, have
you ever questioned the sincerity of
your man's love for you? Do you often
ponder and ask yourself, does he re
ally love me?
Well, if so, you are not alone because
there are many women who have asked
themselves the same questions.
There are several caution signs that
will help you guard your heart from
those handsome heartbreakers, espe
cially during this "season of vulner
ability," but here are just a few.
If your significant other only calls
you for sex, that is a direct violation of
true love because this brotha must only
want what you have to offer him physi
cally, not what you have to offer him
emotionally and intellectually.
If your "dream" man seems to have
a repeated problem in the area of com
mitment, then loving you, and only
you, is not his main concern. And, if
your man does not show interest in
your thoughts, ideas, talents, feelings
and abilities, then loving you is the
farthest thing from his mind.
So sistas, remember, a man who loves
you, respects your body, mind and soul
and does not love you for what you
can give him. Also, a man who truly
loves you, appreciates you and finds
joy and satisfaction in being with you
and only you. Remember, because you
are highly intelligent women who love
and respect yourselves, you deserve
love and respect from the man in your
life.
—rs;——^
AajIci