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The News Argus - Page 12 ADVICE D E A R ADVICE • ADVICE • ADVICE • ADVICE Dear Shana, I have a friend that thinks solely about herself. I know she doesn’t realize this, but she tends to think that she is better than others. Several people have said that they are sick of hearing her talk about herself. And on top of all that, she is bossy! She doesn’t always think of peoples feelings, including her friends. We all know that she considers us her friends, and that none of us will turn our backs on her. Are our friendships real? Signed, Chattered Out be better on your own. You can do bad by yourself. Dear Shana, I have a professor who slays out when she is sick, and expccts the students to make up for lost time outside of class. The problem is that 1 have another class at her make up time. Now I am behind in my other class after attending a few of these make up classes. What should 1 do? Dear Chattered Out, A friendship should have no doubts in it. You and your friends need to attempt to sf)end as little time as possible with “Ms. All of That.” You should not attach yourself to her totally because you might get hurt. Shana Dear Shana, I am seeing a guy who 1 like very much. I know that he has feelings for me also, but he is still wrapped up in his ex-girlfriend. If she were to tell him that she wanted him back, I am sure that he would drop me immediately. But the thing is that she doesn’t want to be with him. She makes no attempt to spend time with him like I do. She is not going to let him go because she knows that she can get him to do anything for her. But he doesn’t realize that she just has him dangling. 1 want him to put into our relationship what he tries to give to her. We are always happy when we are together, and I know that he enjoys being with me. How can convince him that he does not need her? Signed, 2nd Choice Dear 2nd Choice, You shouldn’t have to wait for the ex-girlfriends decision for your relationship to advance. Sit him down and let him know how you feel. If he doesn’t take control of his relationship with you, then I suggest you find another man. Dear Shana, 1 am married with two kids, and my husband has not worked since we got married. He has been unemployed for two years. My kids are boys and 1 think that my husband is setting a bad example for them. He is comfortable being a part time house hubby, when I say part lime, I mean like he cooks, and doesn’t clean. I am sick and tired of being sick and tired. Should I give him the bool, or should I talk to him for the 100th time? Signed, On Thin Ice Dear Thin Ice, Don’t waste your lime. Your tongue could fall off before this brother makes a change. You aren’t happy, you’re miserable. You and your boys would Dear Behind, You should go and talk to your insU'uctor and explain to her that the lime she has set up for make up classes is a problem to you. You should talk with your other instructor so that she knows that there is a conflict. If that doesn’t work, then talk to someone over your instructor. All it takes is a little communication. Shana Dear Shana, 1 met a terrific guy while I was at a party a couple of months ago. We started seeing a lot of each other. I found out last week that he is married. I really care for him and I don’t want to let him go. He has treated me better than any of my former boyfriends. I think I love him! What should I do? Signed, Undecided Dear Undecided, This guy is not so terrific if he didn’t tell you from the start that he was married. He knows that women do not want a man who has already pledged their vows to some one else. So he waited until you fell in love with him to tell you. I know that you THINK that he u-eats you good; but it can’t be too good if he is going home to his wife every night. 1 am sorry, but you need to let this one go. Shana Dear Shana, 1 have dated the same guy for three years, and we have more or less a good relationship. Except that every three or four months we have a huge argument. During these limes I usually take a day or two cooling off period. He on the other hand seems to get lost. Staying out all night, going only God knows were. After a day or two we’ll make up. My question is, should I get worried about the time “gets lost?” Signed, Fearful. Dear Fearful, Arguments are normal in a relationship. At one every three months, you are very lucky. As for his disappearing, everyone has their own way of cooling down. Just because you stay at home does not mean that he should too. There is nothing wrong with him going out. Just think, he only gets lost 2 days out of 90. If I were you, I would not complain. For advice on any topic write to .Dear Shana c/o The News Argus, Department of Mass Communicaitons, Hall Patterson 318 or slide your letter under the door in a sealed envelope, addressed to Dear Shana. ADVICE 'ADVICE • ADVICE ‘ADVICE Qiua: c/)xz • a \n cc.
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