2 Wednesday, August 27, 1997
COLLEGE NEWS
Pride
ADVICE from page 1
And while it may sound
cheesy, leam to communicate with
your roommate, students say.
“Try to determine what kind
of personalities you both have right
away, and try to be considerate of each
other,” says Kassandra Kasak, a Uni
versity of Illinois junior. “If you find
out your roommate is a real neat freak,
just try to pick up a little more. Oh,
I and always remember to give them
their messages.”
Jason Kinney, a University of
^ Iowa senior, admits that a lack of con
sideration got him into hot water with
one of his roommates.
“My best friend and I shared
a room with another guy, and we ac
tually got kicked out of the room,”
he says. “We ordered a barbecue grill
off an ad on TV and decided to grill
in the room. You need to have respect
for the other guy.”
^ That sums up Chris Nehls’
', advice, too. “Just be a decent human
being, and you should be fine,” says
the University of Virginia junior.
•Secrets of success
On the way to snaring that
diploma, it’s easy to be tripped up by
some killer distractions, say students.
“Partying. There’s a party
going on almost every night. I’m not
saying don’t have fiin, but don’t get
swept up in partying all the time.
You’re not taking out student loans
^ to get Fs,” says Lee, from Western
HOMESICK from page 1
The research should help
colleges devise practical strategies for
fending offhomesickness, such as so
cial activities for first-year students,
she said. Dartmouth, for example, of
fers pre-orientation camping trips, in
which small groups of freshmen go
^ hiking, horseback riding, or biking.
Also, after hearing the re
sults of Scaramelli’s study,
Dartmouth’s Health Service decided
Illinois.
Also, “take Solitaire and
Tetris off your computer. There’s only
so long you can play Mine Sweeper,”
advises Harvard’s Rolf
A good way to avoid distrac
tions is to make the most of campus
life, say upperclassmen. For instance,
think of the college years as a way to
establish long-lasting fiiendships.
“Be outgoing. There are no
strangers; just a bunch of people you
. haven’t met,” advises Marc Pellmann,
a senior at Illinois State University.
Some of the ways upper
classmen said they made friends was
by getting to know people who were
enrolled in classes in their major or
through clubs or intramural sports.
“If you get assigned a group
project, that’s the perfect way to make
friends. Because if you have classes
with those people, there’s a good
chance you’ll have the same major and
may end up seeing a lot of them,” ad
vises Kasak of the University of Illi
nois.
Don’t forget your studies,
but don’t get too wrapped up in them
either, says Ann Kuo, a Northwest
ern junior.
“People study too much, and
don’t get out,” she says. “Explore
your surroundings. I think you can
leam a lot going out to art museums,
etc., than just sitting in class.”
SGA catalyst for new
visitation hours
By Lea Metz
SGA Secretary
After many heated discussions last spring within the Student Gov
ernment Association, a change in visitation hours will be implemented this fall.
The residence hall affected are Cumberland, Sanford, Garber, and
Weaver. New visitation hours are Sunday through Thursday, 11 a.m. to 1 a.m.
and Friday through Saturday 11 a.m. to 2 a.m. This new policy provides the
students with an extra two hours of visitation. This change will be the first of
many changes for the 1997-98 school year.
If you have any questions, comments, or concerns, please do not
hesitate to stop by the SGA office in the Bems Student Center. We look foward
to working with you this year as we strive to promote the growth and devel
opment of Methodist College.
Help wanted!
The Methodist College student publications
Pride and Carillon (the MC yearbook)
need YOUR help!
We need students interested in writing,
desktop publishing (layout/design),
and photography.
Student editors receive a cash stipend
as well as valuable experience.
If interested, contact the
Director of Student Media at 630-7292.
to create a program to help identify
and counsel homesick students.
The health service’s 60 staff
members, from secretaries to doctors
to nurses to counselors, will be as
signed to groups of freshmen. Staff
members will send e-mail messages
that say, “I’m your contact person; if
you’re feeling blue, come talk to me.”
That way, there’s “more ac
quaintance with students other than
when they’re sick,” said Jack Turco,
director of the health service.
Scaramelli, who will attend
Harvard University’s law school this
fall, says she’s pleased that Dartmouth
is putting the study results to good use.
“1 think that’s wonderful,” she said.
“It’s important to make try to make
people’s first year at college as com
fortable as possible.”
Please recycle
this newspaper
Relationship Issues
Handling long distance love
Dear Darlene :
I am a freshman here at
Methodist College. I am a long
way from home; I moved here from
Indiana. I’ve already begun to
make friends here, but 1 still miss
my family and especially my boy
friend, Jamal. We have been to
gether for almost two years. We
wanted to go to the same college,
but it just didn’t work out the way
we hoped. We try to keep in touch
by phone, but it seems the more
time passes, the more distant he
gets. I’m very afraid of losing him.
I simply don’t know what to do to
keep our love as strong as it used
to be. What can I do?
Sincerely,
Loving but Worried
Dear Loving:
What a brave thing
you’ve done: coming to college
and leaving the love of your life
behind!
When you did it, you
knew you were taking a risk. But
you risked it anyway. You must
have had very good reasons.
Probably you knew that this
move would be good for you.
Perhaps you knew that even if
you couldn’t keep the love alive
between you and Jamal you
needed to do what was right for
your life. If that is true, then
right now you are being called
on to do what is right for your
life. Perhaps some of these sug
gestions will help:
(Call him as often as
you need to and can afford to.
(Be honest with him
about how you feel.
(Encourage him to be
honest, too.
(Accept that he is also
going through changes.
(Make an effort to in
volve yourself with your new
friends.
(Do things that are in
teresting and fun for you.
(Find a good friend who
will listen when you are feeling
lost and lonely.
(Let life happen!
Remember that love is
a living thing and it cannot be
controlled and ordered around.
Your job is to live well and stay
open to love. If you do that all
will be well, regardless of what
happens with Jamal.
Best Wishes,
DARLENE
Darlene Hopkins, director of
Counseling and Psychological
Services at Methodist College, is
the author of Relationship Issues.
If you would like to submit a let
ter to Relationship Issues, please
send it to Pride via campus maiL
If you would like a confidential
reply to a letter, you may send it
to Darlene Hopkins at the Coun
seling Center via campus maiL
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Campus Calendar
September 1997
SUNDAY MONDAY TUESDAY WEDNESDAY THURSDAY FRIDAY
SATURDAY
1
Labor Day
Racquetball tournament sign-up
Softball starts
SGA meeting, 1 lam, DR#5
SAC meeting, 1 lam, DR#3
Campus Crusade, 8pm, Weaver
basement
Women’s soccer vs. 2
Baldwin Wallace, 4 pm
Men’s soccer at Mt. Olive
Last day to drop a class
Liar, Liar, 8 pm
FCA, 9pm, Weaver basement
Pre-ministerial Fellowship,
5pm, CMC
Chapel Choir, 7pm, Chapel
3
Table tennis tournament
Chapel, 11 am
Christian LYFE Council,
7pm, Weaver basement
Gospel Choir, 7pm, chorus
room
4
Prayer Time, 6:30 pm, Chapel
5
6
Football vs. Chowan, 1pm
Cross Country at LTNCW
Men’s soccer at Millsaps
Women’s soccer at
Salisbury State
7
Men’s soccer at Rhodes
College
Women’s soccer at Christo
pher Newport
Opening Convocation, g
11 am, Reeves Auditorium
Volleyball at Peace College
Home Run Derby
Flag football sign-up
SGA meeting, 1 lam, DR#5
SAC meeting, 1 lam, DR#3
Campus Crusade, 8pm,
Weaver basement
9
FCA, 9pm, Weaver basement
Pre-ministerial Fellowship,
5pm, CMC
Chapel Choir, 7pm, Chapel
10
Flag football captains meeting
Chapel, 11 am
Gospel Choir, 8pm, Chapel
11
Women’s soccer at
Greensboro
Prayer Time, 6:30 pm. Chapel
12
Last day to file intent to
graduate forms
Volleyball at Salem
Women’s Golf Lady
13
Cross Country:
MC Invitational
Football at Guilford
Men’s soccer vs.
Heidelberg, 3 pm
Invitational
Monarch Invitational
14
Men’s soccer vs. New
Jersey, 2 pm
15
Flag football starts
SGA meeting, 1 lam, DR#5
SAC meeting, 1 lam, DR#3
Campus Crusade, 8pm, Weaver
basement
16
Volleyball at Greensboro
Punt/Pass/Kick Tournament
FCA, 9pm, Weaver base
ment
Pre-ministerial Fellowship,
5pm, CMC
Chapel Choir, 7pm, Chapel
17
Women’s soccer vs.
Barton, 4 pm
Spades Tournament
Chapel, 11 am
Christian LYFE Council, 7pm,
Weaver basement
Gospel Choir, 8pm, Chapel
18
Comedian Vic Henley, 8 pm
IDS 110 Program on Sexually
Transmitted Diseases, 7-9
pm, S222
Prayer Time, 6:30 pm,
Chapel
19
20
Volleyball vs.
Christopher Newport/
Meredith, noon
Men’s soccer vs.
Hampden-Sydney, 1pm
Women’s soccer vs.
Elizabethtown, 11 am
21
Women’s soccer vs. Heidelberg,
2 pm
22
SGA meeting, 1 lam, DR#5
SAC meeting, 11 am, DR#3
Campus Crusade, 8pm, Weaver
basement
Women’s Golf at Radford
Invitational
Volleyball at NC ^ ^
Wesleyan
Women’s soccer at St. Andrews
Tennis sign-ups
Road Run sign-up
Coffee House: “Standish Drive,”
11:30 am
FCA, 9pm, Weaver basement
Pre-ministerial Fellowship, 5pm,
CMC
Chapel Choir, 7pm, Chapel
24
Checkers toufnament
IDS 110 Program on
Sexually Transmitted
Diseases, 7-9 pm, S222
Chapel, 11 am
Gospel Choir, 8pm, Chapel
25
Prayer Time, 6:30 pm. Chapel
26
Southern Writers
Symposium: Fred Chappell:
Places of Possibility
Football vs. Newport rj
News Apprentice, 1 pm-^ '
Cross Country at Greensboro
Invitational
Men’s soccer at Christopher
Newport
Women’s soccer at Maryville
Southern Writers
Symposium: Fred Chappell:
Places of Possibility
Familv Weekend
28
Women’s soccer at Kean
29
Top Gun contest
SGA meeting, 1 lam, DR#5
SAC meeting, 1 lam, DR#3
Campus Crusade, 8pm,
Weaver basement
30
Volleyball vs. Averett, 7 pm
Termis begins
IDS 110 Program on Sexually
Transmitted Diseases, 7-9 pm, _>
S222
FCA, 9pm, Weaver basement
Pre-ministerial Fellowship, 5pm,
CMC
Chapel Choir, 7pm, Chapel