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10 Monday, April 5, 1999 rjM (V^ ..JiVi Pride r/ i V"!/ The SAA's Gone FIshin' IlSSIS'gS "Look. I think it's the Loch Ness Monster!" Photo by C. Bridges. Summer Registration For Evening College Begins April 15 MC Music Faculty To Give Recital Seven members of the Methodist Col lege Music Department will give a free re cital Tuesday, April 6 at 8 p.m. in Reeves Auditorium. A varied program is planned. Ronda G. Spena, mezzo soprano, will perform “I Hate Music” by Leonard Bernstein and "Mein Herr Marquis” from Die Fledermaus by Johann Strauss. Joy Cogswell will accompany her on the piano. Pianist Jane Gardiner will perform “Prelude in D minor" and “Prelude in D major” by Sergei Rachmaninoff. Mary Frances Boyc.e, violist, J. By Cindy Bridges Editor The Student Alumni Association, an or ganization founded by student Lea Metz, solved the perennial question of “what to do for a fund-raiser—besides the usual unprofitable bake-sale?” They went fish ing, fountain fishing that is! Friday, March 26, was fountain fishing day. Although it was a blustery day, sev eral students decided to buy a fishing li cense for fifty cents and try their hand at making the catch of the day. No trout, cat fish, or bass in this fountain—frisbees were the target of this fishing expedition! With the fountain filled to the brim with bright yellow S A A frisbees, many of which were marked with a number underneath them that denoted a prize, students partici pated in one of the most interesting and innovative fund-raiser events of Method ist College history. Although the wind made it difficult to keep control of the fishing line and hook on the poles, several students and faculty members made a “catch” and won a prize. Gift certificates to McDonalds and Wal Mart were some of the rewards for fish ing in the fountain. If you did not “catch” a frisbee that had a number on it, you still got to keep the frisbee. So—no money wasted there! Fountain fishing—what a fun way to spend the day! Look for this event again! Michael Rogers, clarinetist, and Jane Gardiner, pianist, will perform Mozart’s “Trio in E Major.” Sopranos Betty Neill Parsons and Sue Snyder will jointly perform two pieces: “Laudamus te” from Gloria by Antonio Vivaldi and “Duetto Buffo Di Due Gatti' by Gioacchino Rossini. They will be ac companied by pianist Joy Cogswell. Sue Snyder will close the program by singing “The Serpent” by Lee Hoiby. She will be accompanied by pianist Jane Gardiner. Relationship Issues Loved But Not Loved Dear Darlene: I am hoping that you can help me un derstand my boyfriend. After 5 months of friendship and love and intimacy, he came to me last week and said that he wants out. He says that he still loves me but that he is not “in love” with me. He wants to be friends but doesn’t want to be in a relationship. He claims that it isn’t me, that I have done nothing wrong, but that his feelings have just changed. He says that he hasn’t found anyone else, he just wants to be free to date others. He tells me not to cry because I am not los ing him. He says he will always love me and will always be here for me, but he doesn’t want to be with me now. This guy has me so confused and it’s breaking my heart. Does he make sense to you? Please help me understand him so I know what to do next. I love him deeply and don’t want to lose him. Confused Dear Confused: Of course you are confused. This guy is saying contradictory things to you. How can you understand when he says he loves you but doesn’t and that he is leaving but isn’t? Only one thing seems clear, you have already lost him. The relationship you enjoyed with him for 5 months is gone. No one knows the future. Per haps, when a lot of water has gone un der the bridge, the two of you can be friends or even lovers. But not now. What you had once is now gone. Please recognize this truth and go on about the business of doing the re building that is necessary after a lost relationship. If there is any hope of having him in your life in the future, it will come as a result of not clinging now. He has made his choice. Now you make yours. Choose love. What he is offering you now doesn’t feel like love, so don’t put yourself through it. Be around family or friends who offer you something that really does feel like love. He wants to break up with you without hurting you. That is a bit self ish. He is asking you to accept the break up without making him feel bad about causing you pain. He can’t have it both ways. You are in pain. Cry with someone who can help you get through this. He cannot help you with this be cause he is responsible for the decision that is causing you pain. Stop torturing yourself by trying to understand him. Instead put that energy into taking care of yourself. Take him at his word that it isn’t you. Decide to believe that his decision to end a good thing is about him not you. Don’t let his mistake ruin your life. Best Wishes, Darlene Darlene Hopkins, Director of Coun seling and Psychological Services at Methodist College, is the author of “Re lationship Issues.” If you would like to submit a letter to “Relationship Issues,” please send it to the editor of Pride, via campus mail. If you would like a confi dential reply to a letter, you may send it to Darlene Hopkins, Counseling Center, via campus mail.
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