MONDAY, APRIL 25,1977
THE DECREE
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Dear Wesleya Letter To The Editors
Dear Wesleya,
I was not a drinking person
before I came to college, but
because of peer pressiu’e I have
changed. I really like this girl
here on campus, but she doesn’t
really know it yet from me. The
other night I had one too many
beers, and went looking for her.
Instead of finding her, I made a
fool out of myself by passing
out. She has found out about
everything I did that night. I
still like her, and want to take
her out. Do you have any
suggestions on how to go about
asking her.
Magid
Dear Tree,
My first advice to you would
be to calm down on your
drinking. It can only complicate
things, as you are undoubtedly
aware of, by now. Your interest
in this girl is already apparent
to her, it would seem, but in a
decidely contorted fashion.
What you must do is gather
your courage, apologize to her
for your behavior, and deter
mine to win her respect. In
other words, clean up your act.
Most girls appreciate a fellow
who seems to know who he is
and where he is going. Work on
this, and when you feel that you
are on a more stable footing
with her, then ask her for a
date. Some of the best relation
ships start out more disastrous
ly than yours has.
Dear Wesleya,
I am a professor here at
Wesleyan, and an very attract
ed, almost more than I can say,
to a co-ed in one of my classes.
She knows that we are friends,
but I would hope for so much
more in this relationship. What
can I possibly do to change our
situation?
P. S. Fm willing to take the
obvious risks.
Rooked Knight
Dear Rooked,
Your choice of moves is
limited and certainly entails
risks. Regardless of your
marital status, of which you
give no indication, romantic
attachments between profes
sors and their students is
decidedly taboo on Wesleyan’s
campus. It is unfortunate, in
your case, that love or
infatuation cannot always coin
cide with career ethics. Your
only solution lies in determin
ing how serious you would like
the relationship to become.
If you believe that this is
more than a fleeting attraction,
Ninth
North Carolina Wesleyan’s
baseball team is proving to be
much stronger than anyone
expected this year. Good
hitting and fielding are the
teams strongest assets.
Robin Atkins, who was
All-Conference last year, is
having another great season.
He is leading the team in
hitting, fielding, and stolen
bases. Eddie King has been
Wesleyan’s most effective pit-
and that there are long-term
possibilities, even marriage,
then there are only two choices
for you. You can quit your job,
and begin this relationship with
legal blessings, or you can be
discreet and hope that nobody
finds out. If you should choose
the latter, and the gamble you
take shows signs of becoming a
good investment, then you will
know what action to take.
On the other hand, if you are
pretty sure that this is no more
than a casual flirtation, my best
advice would be to enjoy the
poetry of unrequited passion,
and to let it remain unrequited.
The temporary pleasures would
not be worth the risks to your
career, and the co-ed involved
could be hurt in the process. If
you are a married man, then
you came to the wrong person
for advice. You need to consult
a marriage counselor, a lawyer
or take a good cold shower.
Dear Wesleya,
I am a very religious per
son, and I often feel intimidated
by others who don’t understand
my convictions. Whenever I am
in the cafeteria, the gym, or any
other public place, I feel
ostracized and lonely. How can
I get people to like me for who I
am, and not let my faith get in
the way of friendships?
Blessed and Unloved
Dear Blessed,
It seems that an overpreoc
cupation with religious faith as
an element of your personality
is overshadowing other fine
qualities that you may have. To
have faith is an admirable
thing, but certainly you have
other admirable traits in
common with those people who
interest you as potential
friends. Your religious convict
ions need not get in the way of
forming friendships unless you
let them. You mustn’t feel you
have to hide your beliefs
because that would be dishon
est. Rather you should go
“public” with individual inter
ests and hobbies which could
attract a following.
There are those who feel
threatened by people with
strong religious convictions.
Perhaps they feel intimidated
by the idea that you may
disapprove of their actions and
lifestyles. If your desire is to be
accepted for yourself, then you
must make it a point to try to
accept those whose religious
views differ from your own.
With this understanding and
with your apparent sincerity
and determination, you should
have no trouble making friends.
Inning
cher along with Gary Ange, and
freshman Marvin Meadows and
Bill Price.
Key injuries to Dave
Eubanks and Dana Wade early
in March made things seem as if
the Bishops were in for a rough
season; however, hustle and
determination have kept them
alive. The season is drawing to
a close and with a few breaks
Wesleyan could still be confer
ence champions. As the stand-
To the Editors:
I was extremely impressed
with your most recent edition
(April 4). You and your staff are
to be commended for having
gathered such worthwhile bits
of information. It is amazing
how in such a short newspaper,
you have managed to cover
everything of interest in
Wesleyan campus life. AU of us
are aware of the vital role
played by the faculty advisor in
such publications; therefore, to
him I also extend my apprecia
tion.
The views and opinions of
fellow students are always
welcomed by most college
students, giving them a sense
of solidarity in views shared
about various issues. The
articles about social and sports
events were accurate, and
written to generate more
student involvement. The best
feature of all was “Dear
Wesleya.” Having an authority
figure to whom to turn is very
comforting to students.
Please do not change any
thing in the future editions.
Fred Frohbose
There are many pros and
cons for pledging a fraternity at
North Carolina Wesleyan Col
lege. Most students who pledge
a fraternity are in their
freshman year. From personal
experience I have found that
pledging a fraternity at Wes
leyan College is a joke.
When you arrive at school
the beginning of your freshman
year, you have a hard time
adjusting, yet you make friends
quickly with your own class
mates. This continues until the
beginning of the second semes
ter, then, all of a sudden you
find yourself surrounded by
upperclassmen. These upper
classmen are very friendly and
will do anything for you, as if
they were your older brothers.
You later find out that these
people are the brothers in the
fraternities. You later find out
were assigned by the fraternity
The sun is shining brightly
and the “children” want to go
catch some of the rays. They
grab their towels and blankets
and head out for the yard.
Everybody is having a good
time until their gliding mother
figrure arrives.
“You know that you are not
allowed to sun bathe in view of
Tyler Drive. Now get up and
ings are now we are tied for
third behind Methodist College,
and Virginia Wesleyan. With
two games left with each team
Wesleyan still can end up on
top. The next home game is
Tuesday here at 1 p.m. against
Virginia Wesleyan.
Dear Editors:
In response to Mike CoUis’s
article ateut the handicapped, I
sympathize with the cry for
better library operations, espe
cially at night and on weekends,
but we have to take into
consideration how much it is
going to cost to give preference
to the handicapped. Not only in
the case of the library but with
other so-called “needed facili
ties.” The present financial
position is not good and tuition
probably will be increased to
meet any new demands. If
these “facilities” are given
consideration then it becomes
obvious that the average stu
dent will be paying for these
facilities. As I see it, N. C.
Wesleyan abeady has enough
facilities for the handicapped.
Ned Daryoush
Dear Editors:
In rebuttal to Sally Smith’s
comments on ERA I would like
to point out the discrepancies in
her arguments. She said that
“They should remain as indivi
duals (women),” yet in another
to recruit you.
Then comes the time for the
rush parties, and since you are
such great friends with these
people, you naturally feel very
comfortable partying with
them, then bids come out.
NaturaDy, since you are such
great friends with everyone in
the fraternity you want to join
in on the fun.
You pledge the fraternity
and have a lot of fun whUe also
learning how not to devote any
of your time to your studies,
and learning how to flunk out.
The fraternity puts so many
burdens on you that you do not
know whether you are “coming
or going.”
During the pledge period you
see the real personalities
emerge in your “brothers.”
The fraternity can be useful,
there are a few advantages.
One is that each fraternity has
hike over there behind those
trees. It wiD not take you any
longer than ten minutes to get
there,” he said. “Also you girls
know that you are not aDowed
to sun bathe in view of boys—so
get over there behind your
dorm.”
A typical day in the life of a
student attending the Wesley
an Kindergarten. The guys are
not permitted to sun bathe in
view of people entering or
leaving the campus and the
girls are not permitted to bathe
anywhere except behind their
dorm where no guys will see
them.
Here at Wesleyan guys are
not permitted to engage in the
deadly “sin” of seeing girls in
remark she said that “ . . .
women were created to be
men’s helpers, to fulfill them
and make them complete,
whole human beings.” These
remarks are contradictory be
cause if a woman’s purpose in
life is to fulfill a man’s life, then
her individuality is already
destroyed. I realize that her
first statement referred to
women as a whole promoting
ERA, but this amendment does
not destroy femininity, but
rather guarantees rights to
those women who want to take
advantage of them.
Furthermore, the statement
“but if ERA passes, many
women will abuse the purpose
of it, and argue that they didn’t
get a certain job because of
their femininity when in fact,
they may not have been
qualified . . .” Court cases
already occur on this issue and
the passage of ERA would give
the courts a concrete guideline
to base the judgement on, and
the courts certainly thoroughly
review cases, not just grant
retribution on a claim without
investigating the allegations.
Becky Bame
a file that contains a copy of
every test ever given in any
course at Wesleyan College.
These tests can be very useful
in studying for a similar test
you may be given in the same
course.
These local fraternities serve
no social functions at all, except
to recruit new pledges each
year. They are unlike the
fraternities of other coDeges
and universities. One of their
biggest fiaws is that once you
become a fraternity brother
here you cannot make friends
easily or at all with any other
people on campus, except those
who might later pledge your
fraternity.
Personally I feel that you are
better off being in the seventy
to seventy-five per cent of the
students who never join a
fraternity here at Wesleyan.
Alan Psimas
bathing suits. The administra
tion thinks we students have
never seen a girl in a bathing
suit. The skin exposed is too
much for our “virgin” eyes—so
they think.
It is asinine for the adminis
tration to assume that college
students are lacking to such a
degree the maturity and sophi
stication to properly respond to
this simple fact of humanity—
the difference between the
sexes. Maybe this issue should
be brought up before the
student body as a whole and let
them decide. After all it's their
bodies.
Greg Allen
To Pledge Or Not
The Deadly ‘Sin’