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Page Six, THE HILLTOP, Dec 1979 Book Review by Joy Bridges Husbands and Wives - A Nationwide Survey of Marriage by Anthony Pietropinto, M.D., and Jacqueline Simenauer. This book is a report on the firs, large- scale nationwide survey of marriage ever conducted. This survey was based on the responses of currently man id peo ple, both husbands and wives. he au thors present the matched replies of couples who completed the questionair- res, demonstrating how differently they may perceive the same event. Anthony Pietropinto is director of the Mental Health Clinic of the Lutheran Medical Center in Brooklyn. Jacqueline Simenauer is a psychiatric editor and a syndicated columnist. The book opens with an acknowledge ment to George Bernard Shaw for his insightful observations on the nature of marriage. Since 95% of the total popu lation marries at some point in their lives, the institution of marriage is in no danger of dying out. The problem is in the quality of the existence. Why do people marry? Well, in this survey, less than half married for love. Romanticism is out and a more prag matic selection of partners is in vogue. Championship is the main value sought after. In the past, romantic infatuation changed into a more comfortable ar rangement over the years. Today mar riages start out on that basis. Personality has become the most important factor in mate selection. People select spouses who are generally like themselves and who have the same goals and ideals. There is a premium placed upon good communication. Stability, rather than love, was determined to be the satis factory equilibrium point in a marriage. Marriage was seen as improving people by giving them purpose and meaning in their lives.’ The funniest chapter was the one on mate selection. The answers to ‘‘Why did you get married?” were enlighten ing. The womens’ answers were length ier, more articulate and more- carefully thought out. The men generally did not have the foggiest idea why they got mar ried. As the authors put it, “If men actively pursued marriage as women do, there would be no reason to suppose they, too, would not marry early: instead, they pursue education and ca reers until they are deemed ripe for the plucking, upon which they offer such bewildered rationales as “I guess I was just ready for marriage.”, meaning some woman thought he was worth the ef fort.” The authors came to the conclusion that the new idea of marriage as a ve hicle for personal growth and happiness may not be too healthy. As the authors put it “Would the world go on if every one quit his job because he decided it was not totally pleasureable, or was not providing him with consistent satis faction? Marriage is too important, too vital for us to burden it with such im probable demands as total sharing of all thoughts, complete empathy vyith the partner, constant evidence of valida tion of the partners’ worth, and other ir relevant romanticisms. The proof of a good marriage is the work accomplish ed, the respect of partners for one an other, and the undying committment to the life they have chosen to share.” Left Face at the Place In recent issues of HILLTOP, Judy Benfield has introduced The Place, and The Center for Christian Education Minis tries. In this issue I would like to direct your attention to the Left of The Place. As you enter the door going from out side into The Place you will probably find Teresa Ball, the secretary for the Center, The Campus Minister, and the Christian Student Movement. If you need assistance in any area of the Place she can be of assistance. She can also give you a tour of the facilities. To the Left of the Secretary there are two offices. The first of these is the office of our Campus Minister, Dr. David Smith. David is there to help students in any way he can. There is an almost continual stream of students,^ faculty, and staff in and out of David s office. Many of these are seeking assistance in some area, while many are giving as sistance in some programs being dir ected through the campus ministers office. Also, many folks just come by to chat and share with David. If you haven’t met David come by and visit, and get to know him. The second office is next door to the Campus Ministers, office. This is the Christian Student Movement office. It is here that the work of the Christian Student Movement is coordinated. Here you can obtain information on any Ministries that the Christian Student Movement is involved in. Also you may visit here and bring any suggestions for new areas of work for the movement. We would also like for you to come by and visit if you haven’t so that we may get to know you and you can get to know the officers and council of the Movement so we can work better together. Beyond the two offices is the College Chapel. Access to the Chapel is through the door to the left of the out side door going into the Place. The Chapel is a place set aside for personal devotions and prayers for students and faculty, and it is open 24 hours per day. Also each day from 8:30-8:40 David Smith leads a daily devotion and quiet time, and all students and faculty are welcome. If you have not been in any of these areas take a few minutes to stop by and visit. We would love for you to come by and make yourself at home in the place. Bruce Boyles President, Christian Student Movement Gofnpus Pop®ibock 1. Chesapeake, by James Michener. (Fawcett, Multi-family saga along Maryland’s Eastern Shore: fictior 2. A Distant Mirror, by Barbara W. Tuchman. (Ballantine $6.95.) Europe in the 14th century. 3. The Far Pavilions, by M. M. Kaye. (Bantam, $2.95.) HigI ' adventure and love in the Himalayas: fiction. Mars hi: been ei Charlotte "'arded to > the fall c _ , 'Apartment 4. In Search of History, by Theodore H. White. (Warne Dickson, $5.95.) Memoirs of a journalist. jMhe™ - — ' ' 5. Mommie Dearest, by Christina Crawford. (Berkley has e: $2.75.) Life with mother; Joan Crawford. J®atin ig part 6. The World According to Garp, by John Irving. (Pockftwiotte^c $2.75.) Hilarious adventures of a son of afamousjriotl^y^gPark — — ' ^ ^ ^&rs Hill 7. Evergreen, by Belva Plan (Dell tvergreen, uy oeivd nam. are j grant woman’s climb from poverty on lower Manhatt^^ pnerm Ba 8 The Thorn Birds, by Colleen McCullough. (Avon, $2.5CignifjLn7 ^ ' Australian family saga; fiction. _^^J^studen L . 1 9. Scruples, by Judith Krantz. (Warner, $2.75.) Rags Recipients riches in the fashion world; fiction. 10. Wifev. by Judy Blume. (Pocket, $2.50.) Housewife's « Scholastic -"'^grity, an 11 1^ w y I wi III • y * — / periences on road to emotional maturity; fiction. ''ay be 'ge orgi - --v. icj ' School. rene ?ated dur loi, Compiled by The Chronicle of Higher Education from information “nors Day supplied by college stores throughout the country. Decembers, 1979' E Recommended Bu sy all ' a ®specia: busy Careers Tomorrow, by Gene R. Hawes. (NAL/Plume, do^e Growth opportunities in the job market: hefn “ Jack’s Book: an Oral Biography of Jack Kerouac. (Pengi^sr a $3.95.) Story of the “King of the Beats.” ii the People of the Lake, by Richard E. Leakey. (Avon, $2.‘7jdia^^^, Mankind and its beginnings. Association of American Publishers RESEARCH RESOURCES ,^ou nii 9re mi t is ygj,, 'Urs® n "y' at Tue Bav tj, .Phoriti •Ur Do you often choose topics that have limited resources in the library? Maybe you can expand your research by searching in the Center for Christian Education Ministries. At the beginning of the semester, a Senior elementary education student came to visit the Center for Christian Education Ministries with some friends. While exploring, she found several books to use in a first-grade unit plan on liking oneself. Being Me by Grady Nutt and Nobody Else Is Just Like Me by Florence Schulz were especially helpful in her personal preparation of content. Before this first visit, she did not even think about coming to the Center to look for lesson plan aids. A Sophomore Art major found ^^ati books and filmstrips in the Cente^g®^* m( Art projects. Another Face of ) i Christ in the Art of Africa, and Art and the Gospel are filmstrip pa'osg „ ] which this student has found usefu> t ‘lu no To do preliminary research fo^ t group discussion class, a student .es g B.O.O.K. (Beliefs of Other Kinds) ® lUcij ' V" by Home Mission Board, Sun M- fe ur Moon by Frederick Sontag, and New Religions by Leon McBeth. studying these materials, this si> Uh ju left the Center not only with a Df irei knowledge of cults but also v'' ^ ^ ® of greater appreciation of the services able through the Center for Chr%g » hj Education Ministries. Cont. od
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