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LET BROTHBUtLT LOVE CO^TlNtTE.
Payable! in Advailcei
Vol. 5.
New Bern, N. C., Wednesday February 3.1886.
No. 43
POETE,V
For the Fkek Will Bai-tist.
THERE IS NO RESTRAINT TO
THE LORI) TO SAVE BV MANY
Oil BY FEW.
BY BEV, A B BUADIiLItY .\. M.
There is no ilimit to God’s power,
iTs liice 11 Kiui-ihg tiiuut.viing'rfiiow- yoiir ai’rections .ire 'under yoiircontrol;
When falls a mighty rain;
It often aids a righteous few,
Distilling like a gentle dew,
Upon the greatest grain.
God loves to show las mighty arm,
Aud to defend the weak from harm,
And keep them near his side,
If they will only seek his face.
And his compassions all embrace.
And in his love confide.
But when, from him, they turn away,
And never will his laws obey.
They’ll feel his wratliful rod;
But when they mourn witli inward
grief.
And seek from him, some sure relief,
Tiiey’ll find a gracious God.
VVhy will men turn to vicious ways?
And spenil in sin their earthly days?
When Jesus is so near;
He blesses them, though they are
few,
And keeps them from the rebel
crew,
And from all dangerous fear.
ELEVEN TALKS TO YOUNG
WOMEN.
BY LEV. SMITH BAKEIL
THK YOL'KO WOMAN' AKFUIEND.
There is nothing more beaulil'ul or
honorable Ihau the virtuous love of a
young wota.an. It is as natural to her
as the fragrance of a rose. It should
he honored. He is a villain who tri-
llcs with it. Friendship-making with
regard to marriage is one of the most
important i)eriod9 in life; it weaves
vhe garments of destiny. Marriage i.s
!i8 solemn as death, but is generally
approached with a lightness, tliougiit-
lessness and even recklessness, as
nothing else is, and lienee so many
marriages are sad, miserable failures;
so many lives are full of sorrow, and
so many divorces are decreed. The
solution of the divorce question is in
the prevention of improper friendships
more tlian in pre\ention of separation.
Reason, not impulse, must govern
young people in the formation of their,
engagmentS- 'The fearful vortex into
which so many honest young women
are drawn, and by which they are
brouglit into a living death, begins in
unguarded friendships, continues in
in false iileas of love, and is culmina
ted in unreiisonble unions.
1. Do not tliiiik a single life is a
failure. No life i.s a failure which is'
pure aud useful; no life is uiiiiap[)y
which is unselfish. There arc iiuu-
dreds of ygjng wives who wish tliey
were free from the wretched bomlage
^ of a husband wliom tliey love, but lo
not respect; for love adds to their bur
den. The more your love is disap
pointed, the more misctahlo you are.
Never marry for the sake of being
in.arried. Never marry unless you
can better your condition. Tliere are
liundreds of noble, useful, bappy. free,
single women wiio, in purse, brain,
Iieart, and all that makes life worth
living, are many times better off than
some of their married sisters.
2. Respect yourself, your woman
hood. your char.acter, your name. Tiie
more a young woman respects herself,
tlie more she will command respect.
Enthrone yourself as a queen whose
liand and heart are wortli all any man
c.an give; for unless you re.spect your
self, no young man will long respect
you; and unless lie rospe.'ls you, he
will not honor you. aud unless he hon
ors vou, he will soon love some one
else more than he luve.s you.
3 Never marry miTely for love.
Never marry witlioiit love. But the
basis for a life-long union. Love can [ men who are very religious for a year
not live upon love .alone. An old fa-1 or sis months before marriage, who
then, when lie first drank a glass of so-1 will go to church three times each
da, said that it was like a great many j Sunday and twice during the week,
courtships—“sweetened wind.” Re-1 and to all the sociables, but about
member that the flattering visits of j three months after marriage their re-
friCndship are quite different from the j ligousness ceases. Marry a man who
real work of life. Never think that j will be a companion for you after
“love goes where it is sent,” and that | marriage .as well as before— who will
vou can nnt lielji loving. Kiiow^ that j lead you. help you,in all good things
the Quoen of the lobby I You’ve ] dent has directed d fidarch for an-
read ail about her, of course. She’s ; other $15,000 man to fill this $5,000
that you can not withhold them; that
they are the richest gift of your life.
Do not throw them away. Keep them
locked in the chambers of your heart
until God sends some one worthy of
them.
4. Form no intimate friendship
with a man you do not greatly respect.
No matter how attoiitive or polished
or cultivated or amiable or even good
he may be, unless you respect him,
can in some way look up to him, ad
mire him, unless he is in some sense
your superior, never marry him. I do
not mean that he sliould be educated
or great, but he must be manly and
noble; or, other matter how much you
love him, you will not be iiappy witli
tiim. A woman can not for much time
enjoy life witba man she is a.sham,ed of.
Such a one reminds you of “VVhiltie's
“Maud Muller.”
“Of all sad words of tongue or pen,
The saddest of these, ‘It might have
been.’
Among the saddest duties that min-
isters are culled to perform, is to mar
ry a bright, clear-braiiL-d, w.arm-hvart-
cd, energetic young woman to a dull,
coarse, low-rninded, sinall-bearted
man. We had rather bury her. It is
a kind of missionary work that no
young woman is called to do. Unless
you can find some one wliose good
name, whose li'onest char.acter, ' an'd
whose ability and manhood, you re
spect. then be contented to be a sister
of mercy to all humanity,
5. Ifefore accepting the special
friendship of any young man, seek the
advide of some wise older person—
your raotiier or some one you would
trust as a mother. You do not know
the young man who seelis your hand
any more than he knows you. You
both deceive each olhcr You see him
in hie best dress, his best manners, his
best speech, e.^pressing his best ideas.
Every young man is a gentleman in
the society of the young woman whose
love he desires. You .say that you
“have known him for months or a year
aud he has told you his plans”; but
you do not know anything of his real
character or of his disposition. I do
not mean that all young men are dis
honest, but the more dishonest a young
man is, the more honf'St he will seem.
No young man’s word is to be trusted
at such a time. The more you love
him the less you know about him.
Therefore find out how he stands
among men for uprightness, what kind
of a son and brother he is. Be sure
that his record is clean, that men hon
or him.
6. Form no intimate friendship
with an indolent man, a fop, one who
has prepared, or is preparing, for no
biKSincss. Wait for the joung man
who is always going to do something,
but never does it. until he does it.:
The yoiiug man who has no business
has no business with a wife. Marry
no man to support. If he is past thir
ty-five. and has nothing ahead, let him
remain single; for such a one, as a
rule, is either a spendthrift, or “defi
cient.” Single independence is better
than double poverty. I do not mean
that you should marry to be supported,
but do not marry a man who can Dot.
or will not, support you ; for a man
who can not lacks brains; and he wiio
will not. lacks heart; you want neither.
When a man can and is willing, then
it is no one’s business if you support
b i m.
7. Do not marry a man destitute ot
ambition. By ambition, I do not
mean one who is seeking riches, great
ness, or display, or is seeking to live
in Cue style; but one who is not con
tented to remain as he is—a young
mail who wants to be somebody and
tikes an interest in good aud pubTc
aeuliiiieut of love alone is no sudicient' things. There are multitudes of young
Marry a manVho'has the’spiir
self-denial. That is the beet test of a
young man’s love. He may be will
ing to go with you to places of recrea
tion, or to spend his money for pleas-!
ure-riding because he has selfish eO'
got more inflaenco in Washington
than tl'O President himself. Con
gress will do anything she wants.
She Scares legislation for railway
companies, gets big claims through
Congress, and is in all the big steals.
* She i’J a fine house in the
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CH.A1TD
big dinner parties to Senators and
Congressmen, plays poker with
them, aud gets her schemes through
in that way. She gets bigger fees
^ than auy lawyer in Washington.”
joyment iu your society, and his atten
tion at such times does not prove his
affection. The important question is,
how much is he willing to give, or sac
rifice what he enjoys, to please you?'
He asks you to give up your name
and your home for Ids. How much
will he give up to please you? For
instance, there is a habit of wine
drinking—a littbi iiarmless habit, a.‘
ho thinks, aud he laughs at your fe.ars
—but it is not the question of harm or
no harm, but of self-denial to please
you. If lie loves you one halfas much
as he pretends to, and will not give up
his drink habit for your pleasure, then
he is nnt fit to be the husband of any
woman; for be sure liiat he who
lias not self-denial enough for that be
fore marriage will make a tyrant of a
husband after marriage. If you can
not refrain iiim when lie is seeking
you, you can not after h- is sure of
you. Such a man is selfish. No sen
sible young woman will marry ayoung
man who drinks intoxicants any more
than any sensible young man would
marry a young woman who h.ad com
menced^ to eat pi^iu^. One is as
senseless as the otlier. There is too
much peril in it. Thousands ofyonng
women have thus gone into a life of
misery, tears and -a living death.
If he will not give up his cups to
please you, then withhold your heart
from him. Test Ins love by his self-
denial.
. Lastly, give yourself in friend
ship to him who sympathizes with you
in all your higher nature, who will
help yon in the life heave.iward. Let
there be not only the sentimentof love,
but something for love to grow upon.
Does he enjoy the society you enjoy?
Does he love the kind of thoughts yon
love? Does he sympathize with iou
in your religion? Or will you, though
married, be alone iu these things?
ut wlien social life, mental life, or
spiritual life are in harmon3% then love
is DO transient dream, no vapor of the
morning, but it grows deeper and
stronger and sweeter as the years pass
away, and it becomes a type of the
eternal love of Christ and his children.
If a young man is pure, temperate,
honest, industrious, manly, and you
can respect him, and if he sympathizes
ith you iu all good things, and you
love him, tlien no matter how humble
his circum.'tances, it is safe to secure
his frieudship, and Christ will come to
your mairiage, as he did of old, and
r life will be a perpetual mingling
of hearts in joy and liope.
WASHINGTON LETTEU.
‘How much ?” gasped the awe
stricken bride.
“There’s no telling; but she
won’t touch a thing for less ,than a
thousand dollars, and I suppose she
often gets as much as fifty thousand
dollars. She’s paralyzed the old
man there ; see how she works himl
He can’t resist that smile; I sup
pose that paper she has in her hand
is some big railroad subsidy, and
it’s pretty certain she’s got him to
support it.”
The couple looked with all their
eyes. The handsome temptress they
had read so much about was right
before them—the woman whose
business is to juggle with legislation
aud gives smiles for votes. The
bride didn’t overlook a wrinkle iu
her dress, and the groom was im
pressed more than by anything he
saw before or after in Washington.
The mental photograph they will
carry home with them will bo that of
the president of the Home for Desti
tute Colored Women asking Senator
Mod-ill, of Yennont, to introduce a
bili^* exempt that institution from
taxation.
It is sarpvising how many things
happen in Washington that the
newspapers do not get hold of. As
an instance of this I may mention
that army and navy people have
been gossiping for a week at a lively
rate over the fact that a retired offi
cer of the Navy wa-; r. elected to rep
resent that branch of the service at
the first state dinner at the White
Houso. Of course Admiral Porter
was first invited, and he being too
sick to attend Vice Admiral McRo-
wau was the proper person to have
tilled his place. At auy rate, no re
tired (fficer was officially eligible
for this invitation so long as there
was anybody, even a naval cadet,
on tlie active list who could accept
it. The Army officers are inclined
to make little fun at the expense of
their brethren of the Navy over the
fact that an officer whoso active
service long since ceased should
have been called upon to represent
it upon this occasion.
The office of comptroller of the
currency is a sort of kindergarten
bank presidents. In resigning his
official duties to enter into banking
j\Iv. C^pnon ia only following the
exauiplo of those of his predecessors
and he has ouly had four. While
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his resignation embarrasses the
I President, Mr. Cannon can scarcely
(From Our Regular Correspondent.) he blamed for leaving a position
W.4.SHINGT0N, January 26, 1886. | which is always a target for politcal
I saw "the Queen, of the Lobby” attack, and whose tenure rests upon
the otlier day. I’ve read about her the will of a President with whom
in novels, iu stories of Washington he is notiu political sympathy for a
life, and in the letters of correspon- permanent, independent place ; or
dents who write fanciful lines ; but foi’ leaving a $5,000 salary for one
although I’ve been around the cap- of $15,000, with plenty of opportu-
itol for a dozen years or so 1 never
saw the lady before. While I was
sitting in the marble room of the
Senate a bridal couple came iu un
der the escort of a guide. He de
scribed the room to them, told the
story of its construction, pointed
out Senator Logan and Senator
nities, to make money out side. The
comptroller of the curreucy is pro
hibited from holding au intere.st in
any business ; be is simply tied down
to his salary, and the Government
cannot expect to keep a good man in
this place for that pay. Oue who is
capable of filling this position can
Haptou, who were receiving constit-1 ^ larger salary iu any sort pri-
uents, and then in a melo-drematic
wliisper exclaimed:
“Do you see that fine-looking
aud richly-dressed lady over there,
with the paper in her band and a
bunch of roses in her bonet? That’s
vate business, and a cheap man is
not wanted. There are plenty of
candidates for Mr. Cannon’s shoes,
but I understand that none of them
are considered quite up to the re*
place.
I see by the “Confessional Direct
ory” that the Senatorial windmill
from Nebraska has forgotten the
day of his birth. His autobiography
reads: Charles H. Van Wyck, of Ne
braska City, was born at Ponghkee-
'; r.'^is. N. Y. 0 '\ the day o’ No
vember, 1824.'■ Two of Uie'ftoi.ui.ors
do not give their ages—Logan and
Spooner. Logan i^ 60 in the shade,
and there is a rumor that Spooner is
the youngest man in the Senate,
Kenna was born in 1848 and if any
one knows when Spooner came into
the world he can answer this conun
drum.
CATHARINE LAKE.
There are many places of interest
in our State, comparatively un
known, which if otherwise, would
gain universal celebrity for their
natural beauty aud attraction. Tliis
sheet of water 60 acres in area is
situated in Onslow County aud the
following lines wore written through
inspiration of its charms by a friend:
Fair lake, upon w’hose bosom calm
The drowsy sunshine loves to dwell,
Far from the busy world’s alarm,
I tread the shores I love so well!
How fresh at morn, at eve how
bright!
How tianquil neath the noon day’s
gleam!
And through the silent watch of
night
How fairy like thy beauties seem !
Upon thy breast the lillies bloom.
Along thy banks the song birds sing
And o’er thy peaceful waters come
The wandering night winds mur
muring.
The night birds song, the sighing
wind
Such, weird supremacy maiutaio,
That brooding sorrow here might
find
Harmonious presence—thy domain.
Along thy shores, like watchers
grim,
The whispering pine trees weirdly
cast
Their shadows to the waters brim
To dim the moon-lit wavelet’s crest.
Tho owl’s loud call from out the
wood
Unbroken silence now relieve.s—-
The grey moss sways iu troubled
mood
And chilling night airs stir the
leaves.
The day now breaks, tho patriugo
cries,
The wliito mists roll iu clouds away,.
And brighter grow tho eastern skies--
Louder tho sounds of opening dav.
Lit with the glow of now born cl.-j,
liesplendeut now thy glories shine,
fcpirits of gladness seem to play.
Along thy shores of clustering vino.
* * -jf » * * •;- *
’Tis evening now and gentler mood
Enfolds thee iu a lioly peace,
Like last looks of the just and good j
Ere rebel nature'.s strugg]o.s ceaso. !
Fair lake upon whoso bosom calm 1 ITS2ST 30
The snowy lilies sleep alway, ;
Hily heart returns with feelings ^
warm
Unto a distant vanishod day.
Zn otdsr to XiSAK'E!
ROOM FOR M¥
SPRING STOCK,
I WILL SELL MY
AND
roil tiifi
I minds mo nf a choriahed form
Aud ah 1 her memory shall endure,
'Whose blush was like the roses’
bloom-^
Whose heart was like the lillies pure!
Back from the mute hushed past
there seems
To come through yonder sun set
sky,
Faint murmurs from a land of
dreams
quired slandBi-d, and that the ftesi-, y,. in ita eoataej-1
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