HE CHOWAN HERALD Thursday, July 9, 1981 Work And The Famly By Theresa R. Ford } Assoc. Home Ec. Ext. Agent Work and the family When mother begins employment outside the tome, instead of changing tiles, she simply adds an idditional one. Im •lementation of a “dual role or women” just isn’t wssible when both roles are i uU-time jobs. You can’t add i 40-hour work week to nother’s schedule and expect past performance evels on all things. Sometimes mother’s extra income can be used to lire some jobs done. But, if ler main purpose in vorking is to add to the amily income, little if any noney may be available to lire help. So mother tries to lo both jobs. The ‘ round-the :lock battle to carry out each role often leaves her ihysically worn out and nentally depressed. It’s at his point that guilt feelings iegin and the “I’m -a • ailure” complex emerges. The solution to the iroblem is highly in lividual. It’s something each family must work out or itself. There’s no mi versa 1 “right” answer, tome families may find success in dealing with the eroblem by discarding their lotions of “woman’s work” ind “man’s work” and simply viewing jobs as jobs o be done. “Mother has always done t” or “father has always lone it” really aren’t valid ‘easons for those in iividuals continuing to do vbat they’ve done in the ' eat. A shuffling - or trading of responsibilities is often wcessary. But there’s no >rescribed “best” way. The children may benefit vhen their mother is hap >ily employed. As the juantity of time the mother spends with her family iecreases, the quality-or low the time is used - may ncrease as she strives to compensate for her absence luring the day. Realizing hat family time is more imited, the working mother iften makes a special effort or the family when she is tome. She may cook ather his favorite meal. She nay set aside a special time or each child. Family xitings are planned. As a ■esult, the employed mother nay be involved in more ictivities with her children ban a mother who is al ways home. Research shows that :hildren of employed nothers may be more self ■eliant or responsible as hey accept-partly through iecessity--more serious wusehold tasks than their peers whose mothers stay lome. Daughters of em ployed mothers appear to be nore work-oriented than hose whose mothers are not Mid employees. Working mothers who ireviously had a “tied lown” feeling often are lappier with combining Nitside employment with heir maternal role. When employed, these mothers nay be less nervous or rritated by their children. Jaycettes Plan Grocery Raffle The Edenton Jaycettes met at Mrs. Boswell’s Restaurant for their monthly meeting July 2, with 12 members present Guest speaker was Terry Wackelin of the Arts Council. There will be a officers training school to be held July 17-19 at Meredith College in Raleigh. Leigh Ambrose reported on Yard Sale and Bake Sale that was held June 20. She also reported on July 4th parade in which some were to be downs. Gail Forehand discussed rays and means project. It was voted on to have grocery raffle. The drawing will be July 31. ‘ The surest way to drive iafely is to do nothing else at j the same time. GBelßTifler ggLjfl) Stoneware Mugs At sg%Off! ues. a long), baby doll pajamas, and robes. All made '.♦ I WBM C f profile of great colors. Just come on by Belk of cool, comfortable cotton and terry A sun- "X '• 'Vf\ UPV I Wjf I Ty*er and try on a whole selection. Sizes 4to 18. burst of great colors. Not all styles available in .// \ \ \ Summer Pi«c« Goods Girls' Summer Dresses o ne Group Os Ladies’ Handbags en s Boys Shoes stacks For Men! Up To $2 Off! Up To 9.77 In Savings .. Up To A $22 Savings! s- 1/3 off Up To % Off u p To 50% Wf Regular 2.47 to 6.00 Reg. $7 to 29.50 Orig. $6 to sl9 Orig $22 to $45 Orig. sl9 to 25 00 Discover polyester, cotton and p‘ rls sum mer dresses now at a Spring and summer dress or o ne group of men’s and boys’ Choose from a great group of linen fabrics. Available in stripes “0 sav >ngs. Choose from sun- casual handbags at drastic shoes in and tie styles men’s dress or casual slacks at prints or solids Our entire stock of dresses, jacket dresses made of savings are waiting for you at Belk Black or brown. Not all styles drastically reduced prices. Your summer piece goods on sale Sizes sheer polyester and cotton. At our Tyler. Made of vinyl or canvas. come in all sizes. Buy shoes now pocketbook never had it so good. 45" x 60”. July clearance. Pei * “P y OO * 1 new outfit! while prices are low! Sizes 28 to 42.