DO PARENTS KNOW
TftEIf* CHILDREN1?
"The son usually woulcl go /for
advice) to his roommate, his doctor,
his teacher, his minister ? to anybody
sooner than to his own father." So
declares President Faunce of Brown
University apiopoh of the question
in our caption, and the reason lies in
the father's lack of understanding of
the son. "A number of parents over
do the matter of keeping in touth
with their children. They follow
them to the college, put pillows in
their chairs, and make sure that they
will have the right kind of dessert
for dinner." This is the dissident
conclusion of the President of a
Southern university in anwsering
the same question. President An
gell of Yale, however, distrusts ut
terly "the casual impressions on a
matter of this kind of any single ob
serves." It happened that we were
considering seriously this very ques
tion of parents and children when
an article by Dean Gauss of Prince
ton appeared in Schribner's bearing
the title. Should Johnny Go to Col
lege? In that article he implied
that many vouths < and maidens)
were in college and taking courses
of instruction, where thev did not
want to be and were unfitted to be.
and when thev would have been bet
ter off and more contended else
where. The cause of this, it was im
plied, is that parents did not know
their children. They had not main
tained that intimaev which would
have shown the children's prefer
ences and potencies. So, he suggest
ed. time is lost, discontent is caused,
and square pegs are misfits in round
holes.
This pronouncement of a univer
sity dean whose work brings him in
to confidential relations with many
students was somewhat stalling ?
if not merely individual opinion.
W as it? Who could tell? We an
ticipated Doctor AngeiTs pronounce
ment. Rut surelv other men in like
oositions would have information.
'In the multitude of counsellors
threre is safety." Accordingly, to
about seventy presidents, deans, or
chancellors of representative uni
versities and colleges, whose work
brings them into confidential lela
tions with youth, we wrote asking
(essentially) the question at the head
of this article. These busy men
were exceedingly courteous, nad
nianv of them mulrh more than kind,
writing freely and in extenso. Onlv
two desired, their names withheld.
The gist of our letter was in this
paragraph.
Is it your experience that sons
and daughters are handicapped
through the indifference or ignor
ance of their parents? Do you be
lieve that the best solution of the
modern problems ot young people
is for parents to know their own
children, to solieit and keen their
confidence, to be acquainted inti
mately and day by day with what is
going on in th,? minds of their bovs
and girls? Do you think that the
average parents are doinc: this less
or more than they used to?
We begin our citations with a let
ter from one who prefers to be un
named. It was sent for private in
formation only. But it is so fine and
revealing, and so much that is good
that we begged the privilege of
quoting it. Reluctantly consent was
given, and we can not give even re
gionally the location of the very use
ful college over which this scholar
presides. Among other things the
poise of the deliverance will be not
ed.
In reply to your direct question
"whether in my opinion parents do
not know their children. I would in
tl.y first place say that in this more
than in most other case* generaliza
tions are dangerous. I know so many
parents who are giving a much n>ore
intelligent attention to the needs of
their children than the parents par
ents of an earlier dav that ! should
condemn myself if bv anything I
had to say these parents felt them
selves condemned. Naturally my
mind turns at once to our daughters
and sons. Each of them has chil
dren. We proudly survey our
grandchildren and rejoice that these
young mothers and fathers are giv
ing attention to their children which
their mother constantly tells me is
more intelligently directed to heir
interest than she herself knew how
to give. But I may venture to re
mark parenthetically that to this I
take exception without in any wise
" J?rL ?Uing from the luiiiment <ix ir
few* upon our children. But this
is all too personal and therefor*
really beside the mferk
My mind quickly lurns to a case,
I ought not to mention names and'
will not: but two years, ago a student
came to see me. He spoke with a!
flight impediment in his speech, as
one heard of hearing. He came to
talk with me about his future voca
j tion and in his conversation expres
j sed himself very beautifully con
| .-erning his mother's care and direc
tion. I urged him to bring his moth
er to see me when next she came to
town. He did so. She was a fine
speciment of motherhood ? a slender
little person to be the mother of so
husky a young man. She told me
with a direct look in her eye and an
illumination of countenance T rev
erenced that when her boy was five
vears old the doctors ? she lived in
New York ? told her that there was
no use trying to educate her son.
that he was mentally deficient. She
| would not have it so. She fought
: as only a mother can fi^ht and be
! cause she was possessed by a great
| spirit carried her fight to a success
ful issue and proved to the doctors
j that the boy was not deficient in in
tellectual power but that his ears
were dull. He could not hear half
that was said to him. She fousrht :
the fight thmugh the schools. The
young man entered college and grad
uated last year, not a brilliant stu
dent but never having failed. All of j
ibis and much more of a like nature j
I should make haste to assert in an
swer to the allegation that parents
today do not know their children.
Yet there is too large a measure of
j truth in the claim advanced by Dean
j Gauss. The things that have mark
| cd the changes of social life during
the past twenty vears have most of
I them been of a kind to turn the at
j tent ion of men and women from
j their homes to fields of activity and
interest outside. The mothers have
| been involved in this, the case of get
I ling about the activities of political
I life now not merely open to women
| but seem in many cases to impose a
I new and additional dutv upon them:
1 the freedom with which men and
women carry on social intercourse
where formcily the men withdrew
and the women were left to other
and different occupations, the intro
duction of club life, the out of doors
(and incidentally one notes the bene
fit of it because most of the youn"
people of today are inches above
their parents in height) ? all these,
to say nothing of the ease of netting
about and of listening in on all sorts
of occasions are so disturbing to the
old relation of mother and child in
the home that many instances come
to our notice of young men. and in
women's colleges 1 suppose the same
is true of young women, who have
j not hn.d ?h#* kind of careful attention
I that they ought to have had in the |
home.
I think first of my own mother
and the constant rare exercised over
us. Kvev night during our boyhood
days mother came to our room and
read aloud to us while we made
ready for hed and we were asleep.
The result was that we came to her
for counsel always, even when wc
were grown up and had families of
of our own. Indeed I cannot picture
a more perfect example of a mother
in the community than mv own was
in those days after my father's death
when she was the soul and renter of
the colony, the big house filled to
overflowing with children and
grandchildren who built houses
round about her, the company even
extending to connections by mar
riage not merely blood relations and
all turning to my mother for coun
sel. Again. I think of the mother
of mv children. Only on the rerest
occasion while our children were
voting and until they went awav to
school nad college was their mother
away from them. She gave all 'f
the evening to them from the time
we were through the evening meal
until they were asleep. I can see
mvself now sitting before the fire
while she was upstairs with the
children, a small voice callimr out
from a neighboring room, "Now.
Mama, it's time to conn* to me," and
she sat with the children in turn car
rving on those ouiet talks too sacred
for intrusion. The result is that to
day our sons and daughters turn to
her as we turned to my mother.
After reading that letter the editor
could wish himself a boy again at
the college presided over by this
Christian gentleman.
The President of Yale, Doctor
A* 1 T ' ? ni *i n*. , ;? r ?
mmUml ATT^trri'pynrrnw
(efinile effort (o
_ _ "?
parents and cmTdren.
"Mtrubt \% lifihrT the~ crmditfofjs at
present are materially different from
those which have always obtained in
periods of rapid change in social
and religious ideals and practices.
Strain and tension between the
vounger and the older generation
has always existed. In general, so
fas ar my observation goes. I should
think that intelligent American par
ents aie more definitely trving to
maintain sympathetic contact with
their children than did the genera
tion just preceding. But I distrust
utterly the casual impressions on a
matter of tins kind of anv single ob
server.
On the facts President D. W.
Morehouse of Drake University.
Iowa, endorses Dean Gauss, but is
not at all dogmatic:
Th#? ripan K r)iclinr|]|' rtrrKl
The college cannot completely m'qke
over the raw material which is fur
nished it. There must be a desire
within the student. He must appre
ciate the difference between a factoiy
and a university. Unless there is a
wil to accept the benefits of education
there is no use to go to college. You
might as wel lattempt to teach a fish
to live on a lawn. I think there is
no advantage to either the lawn or
the fish. 1 do not know where the
'-?ouble lies, whether it is in the
home, the school or the society. Pos
sibly there isn't any trouble. Bovs
and girls have been verv much the
same through the last few generat
ions least.
So on the dircc* question of par
ental interest in children he agrees,
but is tolerant and kindk :
Parents in general should give
more attention to their children, es
pecially with relation to their educa
tion. Too much is left to the high
school and college, but frequently
this is done with the verv best of in
tentions. The parents do not con
sider themselves qualified in this
line and they follow with most cour
teous and sincere confidence the pro
gram and policy of the school. It
has been my experience that the par
ents are interested and very anxious
to give their chijdren the greatest
possibl advantages both at home and
in the school. I believe this tenden
cy is growing. L^et's give the par
ents credit, and the children too, a?
far as that is concerned. If we could !
turn the matter around and have
fewer fur coats and diamond rings
and limousines on our campus and
more bovs and girls who recognize
the advantages of education, who
truly desire its culture and arc wil
ling to give anything for an educa
tion, many of our problems would
disappear.
In c??n?e n simitar vein, admitting
the facls hut seeing reasons in social
conditions, writes Professor S. P.
Xanninga of the University of New
Mexico:
Many sons and daughters are han
dicapped throush the indifference
or igmorance of their parents. Our
social standards and belifs change
and it is difficult for parent sto real
ize this. I have students who come
to me with their problems who re
fuse to discuss some of our modern
problems with their parents. It is
a very difficult matter to change the
convictions of our \outh and many
times it would lie better for parents
to at least he tolerant and fairmind
ed rather than condemn.
From a New England college
(Middlebury. Va..) President Paul
D. Moodv replies with an unquali
fied "yes." and acHs:
I distinguish between indiffer
ence and ignorance, however, for
many parents are ignorant who are
not indifferent, and their ignorance
may be as troublesome as the indif
ference of others. The constantly
changip- state of education makes
parental cooperation diffienlt. and
as necessary as difficult.
Like Doctor Holland. President
Bizzell (University of Oklahoma)
attributes conditions to the changing
state of society. The old state of
things will not return, however, and
in his fourh paragraph he suggests
a remedy.
The enormous advance in science
and invention has irreatlv changed
'he habits of the American people.
Labor saving devices have decreased
the burden of domestic life for wo
men and the automobile has increas
ed the mobility of both men and wo
men. Thp apartment house and fam
ily hotel have taken the place of the
individual home in the case of thou- 1
sands and increased the comforts
and opportunity of leisure for many.
Along with these many convenienc
es and the enormous increase in
wealth and the distribution of in
come have come high standaids of
living and increased desire for lei
sure and comfort.
But. with this transformation in
the habits and inclinations of our
people have come a decrease in fam
ily responsibility and a decline in a
sense of personal responsibility. Th?*
center of interest of fathers, moth
ers. and children is no longer in the
home. There is no longer a familx
j rircle held together by sympathetic
jties. The automobile has taken the
i place of the fireside. Tho picture
show has become the modern sub
stitute for the family library and
j the musical evening al home.
Rut. we are not to return to the
i old habits of living. We are fasci
f Continued on pagp 7)
LEGAL MATTERS
KXKCVTOR'S NOTICE.
Havim: qualified <i? Executor* of the last I
will and tegument of the late Edward Simp- ?
?"?n Miller, .ill person* havinit claims against I
the estate of the said deceased are hereby
notified to pr<??it th? same to the under*
planed f<?r allowance an?l payment within one
year from this date, or this notice and the
statute in such raxc made and provided
will he plead^l in bar of their recovery.
This Dec. !Mh. 192S
MELLIE C. MILLER.
HARRY MILLER.
< jo-fit-m, ) Exrs. of E. S. Miller, deceased.
XOTICI OF SM I . OF LAND RV
MOKTdAtiKK.
Under and by virtue of the power of sale
contained in that ?ertnln mortunue deed. ex
ecuted by Kmma Iielcher to the undersiirnod.
Hayes Dockery, Mortgagee. t ? secure certain
indebtedness therein mentioned, which mort
deed i-4 dated January 23rd. 192S. and
tecorded in the office of the Register ??r
I ?e?*ds for Cherokee County. North Carolina.
In Hook No 91. at page 47fi: and default
having been made In the payment at said in
debtedness as the same became due. and the
default not ha vine I wen made rood, and the
power of "nli" ha vine l?ecome operative. I
will, on Monday. February 4th. 1929. at 11
o'clock A. M.. at the court house door In
Murphy. Cherokee County. North Carolina,
sell to the highest bidder for cash, al the
following described real estate, to-wit:
A certain piece or lot vf land lying and
being in Murphy Township. Cherokee County.
North Carolina, and described as follows;
Heine Lot No. 11. Sec No. 5. as shown on
the map of the Duke Land and Improvement
Company, as reeistered in Plat Rook No. 1.
at pago 11. in the office of Register of Deeds |
of Cherokt-e County. North Carolina. and i
more particularly described as follows: BE- .
CI INN 1 NO at stake Factory Town Street
?too feet to a stake In the richt of way of
the Southern Railroad: then a west direction
with the right of way of the Southern Rail
way 34Ti feet to the corner of Lot No. 10;
then with the lino of No. 10. 151 feet to the '
Reginning. Peine known as the R it Snced
Lot * bought from the Duke Land and Im
provement Company, which is registered in
Peed Rook No. 25. at page No. 262 and the
Lot that Gibson imuuht from \V. Christopher,
by deed registered in Book S7 at page S5 in
Rook of Deed* In the office oi the Register
of Deeds for Cherokee County.
The said sale Wing made to satisfy said
indebtedness, interest and ? osts. j
This the 1st day of January. 1929
HAYES DOCKERY. I
I i 22-4t-foc.) Mortgagee, j
NOTICE OF SALE OF REAL PROPERTY.
By virtue of the power of *ale contained In 1
a certain deed of trust executed by Charles
I Wllhelm. Jowph Rradberry. Clyde B. Cane
i and S M. Stevens to Frank S. Hill Trustee
on July 10th. 192*. which deed of trust is
duly recorded in the of fire of Register Deeds
| for Cherokee County in Rook 95 at page ?3
et *?-<! . conveying the lands therein referred
to and hereinafter described, to paid trustee
' to secure two certain notes dated July 10.
1926, ea? h for $4. 571. and due one ami two
years after date respectively, default having
been made !n the payment of hoih saul notes
and the holder of same having requited
said trust?-e to sell said lands pursuant to
the terms and conditions of said de.-d ?,f
trust, the undersigned will, for the purpose
of satisfying said indebtedness and other
liens, on the Pul'RTH ilay of February. 1929.
."?t ELKVFX o'clock AM. at the Courthouse
door in Murphy, sell t?j the highest bidder for
< ash the following described tract or parcel
of land, to-wlt:
Being in Cherokee County. N\ C. District
five on waters of Cane Creek in Rea verdant
Township and beginning on a stake ten j..iles
South 53 degrees 4 minutes cast of Elbow
Creek, formerly a Mn.kiaim corner of ?7.
running theme South 55 degree* 45 minutes
East -'409 feet to a stake North-east corner
?>f 4819. pass northwest corner of 4819 at
1 .0001.9 cross middle prong of EIIkiw
Creek at 1520 feet cross east prong of Ell>ow
' "reek at 2100 f.-et then South 14 degrees
West 4J3 .5 feet to a Mack wk the Northwest
corner ot 4S'-r; then South t;6 degrees Hast
| 3547.5 feet to a chestnut on point of ridge
above Buckberry school hous" crossing Ruck
I ierry branch HISS feet passing Southeast
corner "f Ruckl>erry school house at 2.075
f?-et. then north 15 degrees and 15 minutes
East 2 <140 feet to a stake cross road at :*71
feet, pass Evans corner at 1350 feet, cross
the I'.rnwn farm road at 24CO fo?i ,
Pretty branch 2575 feet, then north S4 degrees
thirty minutes East 2T::: feet to a small pin?
a corner of the farm lot. then with the farm
line as follows: North twenty degrees fifty
minutes, east 16R0.7 feet to a pine on top
of a mountain l?ettveen Cane Creek and Pret
ty branch, then North 16 degrees twenty
minutes, west 2634 feet to a stake, then
North 21 degrees and ten minutes. West
803.8 feet to a stake, then North 4 ft degrees
15 minutes. East 907.7 feet to a stak?. then
North 6q degrees 45 minutes East 1271.7 feet
to a stake from which a black gum 10 Inches
in diameter bears South 36 degrees East 37. *
rcet ti> a red oak 22 inches In diameter,
bears North .'12 degrees .70 minutes West 37.*
feet; then South 84 degrees 50 minutes east
1 260. S feet to a Spanish oak on a ridge: then
South 13 degrees 21 minutes West 17?S.7
feet to a chestnut, pointers small perslmmcn
and two chestnuts, then South 4 degrees 30
minutes west 31 'J feet to a stake on point ot
ridge, then south 11 degrees 5 minutes East
2286.2 feet to a stake, then South 2 degrees
W. 550 feet to a Spanish oak on top of ridge,
then South 7 degrees West 1090 feet to a
stone marked 154. supposed corner of 154
and beginning corner of farm, then North
S4 degrees 30 minutes East 980.7 feet to a
stake on line of 522 and conditional line be
tween S. W. Evans and J. I'. Brown estate,
then with conditional line lietween S. W.
Evans and J. 1*. Itrown estate North 37 de
crees 45 minutes East 1131.5 feet to a stake
and stone on top of ridge, cross Goan's Cove
Creek (Evans) at 25'? feet then 26 degrees 5
minutes East 1643.6 feet to a stone and black
.lack in the line of 236 then with line of 216
South 80 degrees West 363 feet to a stake,
corner of said number rind in line of 522. then
with that line North 9 degrees 15 minutes
West 927 feet to a pine corner of No. 522. then
With the line of 522 South So degrees 30
minutes West 1320 feet to a white oak in
said line and corner of 4813 then with line
of said N<i. 4S13 North 4 degrees (four de
gipe?-* 30 minutes Eas'. 1794 feet to a chest
nut oak. comer of 4813. then continuing with
tho line of 4813. North 34 degrees 35 minutes
Kast 4 7S3 feet to a stake on the east side
of Cane Creek. jKiinters a large maple and
poplar, then North S4 degrees East 505 feet
to the Southeast corner of 777 2. then North
10 degrees 45 minutes West 1970.5 (nineteen
hundred seventy five tenths) feet to North
east corner of 7772, then South RO degrees
West 1310. S feet to a ftake and stone N. W.
corner of 524. then South 39 degrees 15 min
utes West 151S.S feet to beginning ? contain
ing seventeen hundred six and three fourths
acres, more or less.
The above lands being the same as those
conveyed by Mary 11. Brown and Mary 11.
Brown Administratrix to Charles Wllhelm.
Joseph Bradberry. Clyde E. Case and S. M.
Stevens in July. 1926. deed to which Is duly
recorded in the office of Register of Deeds
for Cherokee County In Deed Book 96 at page
4 63 et se<i. reference being here made to said
deed and prior conveyances for complete, full
und accurate description of said lands.
This January 2nd, 1929.
( V2-4 1 -dAr h i FRANK S. H1I.L., Trustee.
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